Are guys intimidated by rich girls?

[Catty_Turner]

My stepdad is one of the heads of Kaiser and has a lot of income which (kind of embarrassingly) shows on our massive house and expensive cars. I was born out of poverty where I still remember how I barely saw my mother because she was working all the time. Now that I live in this house, I even feel like it's intimidating and can make guys stop liking me within a heartbeat! I just really want to know, does it really matter if the girl is rich or not and does it take a toll on how you feel about her in anyway?

[Meedo]

Guys will , often but not always, assume that your criteria of dating is above their means . Like.. you are rich you wanna have the best of everything.. looks, money, fame etc..

Now don't despair.. all it takes is to talk to people and show them how normal you are . Just do things they do .. the way they do it. Eat what they eat. Listen to them.

In the same time.. never be ashamed of what you have . You are rich. It's God gift and it isn't sinful. Know that sometimes , God gives to the poor through the wealthy, Make it a habit to donate to charity. Buy things for yourself. Finance your education to good schools. Never hide your richness... healthy people must know and accept that there are others that have more. If people don't accept that .. it is them not you . There are billionaires that have a heart of Gold. There are poor stricken people who have hatred to the world. As long as you are a regular person trying to do good deeds in this world, you don't have to prove anything for anyone.

If it was me, I would look at you , see how you behave, how you treat people, then simply find out if you are a good heart with money.. or bad heart with money. I would approach the first .. and avoid the second.

I think you are the first :) so .. remember.. you don't need to prove anything to any one. Being rich is not a sin. Enjoying material things is not a sin . If people have problems.. its theirs ... just be a good person .. that's all. ALl the best

[Theguyoverthere]

Girls think guys are intimidated but the reality is that the girl never gives the guy the impression she will want to stay around. It's basically up to the girl to show the guy she's OK with a lesser earning guy. Many guys see girls chasing other guys who have money and many girls outright say they will not date a guy who makes less money than her(guys know this is so she can make out like a bandit should a divorce come along).

So when a guy does stumble upon a girl who earns more they are already under the assumption that she is gonna be looking for a higher income guy.If you simply indicate casually certain things to show money doesn't matter you really shouldn't have any problems.

[LeahDUBaU]

Think of it as this way..living a different lifestyle your more apt to meeting a guy with the same or similar financial class.I do everytging in my power to live in luxary here in dc..we have a big new house eluxary cars..trips..im hoping my kids meet people who are in the same lifestyle to continue livin likee this.so quality guys will like you and where you came from..lets say you meet someone with less social eco status..this will make him want to work harder to take care of you etc.trust me at 40 no one wants to be in a situatiin where money is an issue..so if their intimidated keep looking! Money is where its at..intimidated guys are weak guys..and who wants them!

Sorry for the typos..

[MaskedSanity]

I believe it will be intimidating to a lot of men, but they won't admit it. Society expects men to be the breadwinner, so when a female fills that role, the man often might feel inadequate next to her as though his masculinity has been taken from him.

If I were in your shoes, I would probably keep the wealth aspect a secret until I've gotten to know my partner well enough.

[523206720]

One problem is that people might try to take advantage of you or sweet talk you. You can avoid this by joining a country club and finding a guy who has the same amount of money as you. This way you know he is dating you for you and not your money.

[Darkhocolate1001]

This way you know he is dating you for you and not your money.

Same think can be said about women.

[cheesesteak7]

I wouldn't say it "intimidates" me. But I do have a predisposition that they'd probably not be into the kinda guy I am.

I know not everyone is the same, and I'm just stereotyping/generalizing/pre-judging, but I'd assume she'd probably want a guy to take her out a lot, do a lot of activities together, have a generic personality, etc.

I may be wrong, yeah, in fact I know I'd probably be wrong in more cases than not. But it'd still be something I'd consider and may cause me to think "ehh, I won't bother." But not because of fear of failure, moreso out of fear of success lol. If she says yes to me asking her out, then it's like "wtf do I do now..." Hopefully she'd appreciate simple things.

[Anonymous]

Well you should look at it this way. Money matters if it's too much.

So you'll have guys that will chase you just because you are filthy rich and are after your money ONLY. Keep your eyes opened for the money chasers and make sure you let them know they aren't welcomed.

On the other hand others will stop trying because they'd feel you wouldn't like them because you have high standards...

BUT if you'd show a guy that hasn't got your money that you like him trust me he's not going to run away.

So ultimately it depends on you to act down to earth and normal.

[Anonymous]

My family has lands in the country with a worth of 500 000 USD and besides, my dad earns a lot. Maybe it's not very nice, but when I see gold diggers, this is a good kind of "bait" for them. I can just use them as I want. Get laid and throw away you know.

All my fellow course mates are working till pissed to earn their standards of living, but me, I go party and sleep till 10 and spend money on shit.

Rich girls are good, but one must have good boobs too :D

Maybe you think this is such a sweet life, but no, it's not that much. If I found true love, then ofc money wouldn't matter. But since I'm too lame for this, I don't have any other choice. Yes, you can call me a loser and I accept that. I kinda got used to the idea.

[djhohrath]

I hope your dick falls off.

[Opinion Owner]

lol I'm sure others have happier life with ability for actual socializing. Don't be jealous of me mate. It's not worth trust me.

[NotTheMomma]

I've only known maybe two or three people with a decent (but not overwhelming) amount of dough to their name, and none were girls. So I cannot speak from experience. However, I don't think I'd be intimidated. I might not know how to react though since *I'm* not loaded nor am I used to being near money.

I figure as long as her money doesn't go to her head, it wouldn't go to mine. :)

[jmowen]

Not intimidated unless she had one of those 'Ms. Independent" personalities. Bossy people are really my cup of tea. However, I'd feel she would be too materialistic and/or superficial. I'm not into material things so for a girl to be that way would make me not want to be with her.

[Neiler]

I mean if anything that would be a plus not a minus. I certainly wouldn't be intimated by a girl who happened to be rich. It more depends on who the person is. Now if were talking about a stuck up rich girl then yeah I won't like her but that's just because she's stuck up and not because she's rich.

[martyfellow]

Yesm te 'alpha females with their cars, trips abroad, name dropping about famous people...of course most guys can't stand up to them. They're well educated, talk in a 'certain' way...

Girls, they even less..able to see how shallow the 'alpha' girls are. Most girls follow them around and do their best to imitate their put-down attitude toward most guys.

A lot of what we call feminism is just rich girls and their camp followers acting out against working guys.

[thomas4600]

Hello Catty,

I think you should worry about if he really likes you or if he feels more attracted to the money.

If a man has the feeling that you really love him and you inform him later that you are rich then the money won´t be a problem. So you have to act wisely!

Good luck :-)

[Anonymous]

In my line of work no. Although she would have more money then I, I would find it refreshing that she has a job & likes nice things. I would not want her to buy me anything expensive for any occasion. I'm very materialistic. I don't like gifts in general. I will buy my own things.

Also as long as she didn't flaunt things i.e. her car. I drive a nice car but I tell people it's a ford, which is true it's a ford product. If pushed I'll say "a red one"

[Anonymous]

I am not so much intimidated as much as I believe that a rich girl is going to want a guy that is her equal. I hear so many women complaining about finding a guy that is her equal that I wouldn't even bother going after a rich girl. I am sure some rich girls would be okay in a relationship with a poor guy, but statistically those relationships don't work very often. Most women want to marry up, not down.

[Rodismus]

I personally don't care for money all that much, as long as I have my video games I'm happy. Even as a gamer you can spend a lot of money but nothing stupidly high because we gamers don't play on server hardware. I'm an example of I don't need a lot of money to be happy so when someone does it doesn't effect me. I know I'm not painting a good picture for what I'm trying to say but it's not so much intimidating as it is a wow factor.

[SuitUp]

For me yes because it sounds like finding a trophy husband which if I am I don't like the fact that I'm getting supplied by my wife

i don't mind sharing responsibility but when she's that rich I feel bad for taking everythink

[Dionysos]

Don't freak out about the ones thatvrun away. The ones that try to get with you because of it are the worry.

[Prof_Don]

Since women on average aim for women around or above their socio economic status, there are definitely some guys that will feel he isn't "good enough".

[Jonny_]

Nothing intimidates me especially when dating, if I like someone I'll like them... I don't see why I'd change my mind over something so unrelated.

[BrunetteNYC]

Yes, lots of guys are. Very silly but they see it as they can't measure up.

[timewarper]

You could be taken advantage by a lot of people if they knew your wealthy background.

[CasaNorba]

yes! since its in a woman's dna to be a gold digger I find a plain middle class woman intimidating enough. but a rich girl... I'll pass!

[Tarvold]

Many girls I've dated just happened to come from very wealthy families, but that was never a factor in why I liked them.

[RedThread]

It doesn't bother me if she doesn't care that I'm from a middle class family.