Why would a guy choose a video game over a girl?

[Anonymous]

OK so I've been seeing this guy for two years. Ultimately we had a lot of disagreements about an MMORPG he plays for 15 hours a day. Hell I play with him sometimes but no where near what he does. he plays from 4PM to 7AM. He attends college but sleeps only maybe 2 hours and gets up and goes to school. He is miserable. Constantly starting fights, etc. So after a four day hiatus from each other I come back to speak to him about how things are going. He says he was too busy to talk to me since he was playing. I dumped him for it. Why would anyone choose a video game over a girlfriend? This game won't be around forever, I just don't see why someone would be addicted to it. And before some of you guys say that it was me or it was more interesting that really wasn't the case. I really tried, but he hardly made time for me since the game was placed as a priority.

[Phoenix1991]

eh, sh*t happens, some people are not that focused on the real world and let time pass them by. Nothing you can do about it, he didn't focus on other priorities like school and girlfriend, obviously those things are second rate important to him.

I'm gamer, I play mostly fighters and maybe a shooter here and there, but even when I'm playing, I talk to my girlfriend on the phone/ PC while I play, it makes no difference to me. I keep the conversation flowing, but if I noticed I'm lacking concentration in one or the other, I stop playing and talk to my girlfriend. Games will always be around, but precious time with your lover won't, it can go away like a hot streak in blackjack.

My point is, each person views things differently when it comes to importance of things, Obviously the mature thing to do is focus on girlfriend but! that is just my opinion.

[Anonymous]

"This game won't be around forever" The way things are in society now neither will you. There seems to be very few people out there that will stick out through thick and thin. I mean in general and not this scenario, because I would have also dumped him if I were you. He plays it because he enjoys doing so. It makes him happy. I don't think relationships are worth as much as it used to be. I've read that things like this is somewhat commonplace in Japan. I guess I don't know how true it is since I've only read a few articles here and there posted around.

[Asker]

I dumped him, not the other way around. Just an FYI. And if you don't see an problem with him gaming for 15 hours a day I think there is an issue.

[Opinion Owner]

I guess you glossed over it or read it wrong, but I said "I would have also dumped him if I were you."

[Asker]

Oh sorry about that! I just saw that. Didn't see that "If I were you". Apologies. It does make him happy so ill let him live with the game. I guess when college is over he will be quite alone due to him having to find a job. Id like to see how he handles 15 hours with a 40 hour work week.

[Opinion Owner]

Sure, he'll have responsibilities then, but he'll still have plenty of gaming time if he wants it. He can dedicate his evenings and weekends to it.

[Anonymous]

That's way to much. But some people are like that. Boys will be boys. My boyfriend plays his game night and day and only puts it down every once in a while. It drives me nuts! But I know it makes him happy so I try not to let it bother me, though sometimes I think it's going to ruin our relationship, and that's when he puts it down for a day or two and spends some time with me. Games are fun but I don't think they should rule your life.Guys should know when to put them down and give his women some attention!

[Anonymous]

I won't spout some self righteous bs, like, "he's got messed up priorities". That implies that being in a relationship are one of life's requirements and it's not, but I will say and speak for myself when I say that I'd choose video games because I was raised around women my whole life. Dad was absent as well as any other potentially positive male role models. As a result, I find women annoying and would rather do my own thing. Not sorry if that offends you because I've taken too much shit over the years to really give a shit about what anyone has to say about me.

[BossddUpp]

Shxt, yea thatss f'd up.. I wass once a gamer as well and I knw how fun they can be.. but never in my life have I made it my number one priority.. especiallyy over a girl.. honestly he needs to grow up.. Those are the hardest kinds of relationships when yur partner is a game addict.. really, the only solution is to tell him how yu feel boud it nd hope he truly understandss.. if not then your better off finding someone who will apreciate you better..

[Asker]

Yeah it's really hard because I know he enjoys playing it, I play it with him too sometimes. But there was a line that was crossed when he started to not speak to me and stay up all night just only playing the game. When I would try to talk to him I was either met with silence or disdain.

[BossddUpp]

wooow.. yu shud reallyy leave him.. yu will find better... or yu can have him make a decison... to either slow down with the gaminq or lose yu.. nt sayin he has to quit but just sayin he needs to slow dwn..

[Konnour]

Messed priorities. He is not the only human who suffers from it.

[Anonymous]

Think about drugs. drugs are addicting and people will often choose them over their lover. It's addicting to some people to the point of taking over their lives.

[cntryboy23]

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