Muslims are not supposed to date, period. I am a white, American female RN who converted to islam since it is a beautiful religion (no bf). Many people hear or read things which are not factual and say inappropriate things. Similar to Christianity, Muslim men AND women are to remain virgins until marriage. A happy, loving, satisfying marriage accounts for 50% of our faith. The fact that you are not Muslim is not the issue. If you were a Muslim woman, he still couldn't date you unless his intention was to marry you. Even then, you two would need to hang out with a wali (guardian) present. This is to insure that the conversations are meant to learn about the other to see if they are compatible for marriage. Asking someone how they communicate when angry is much more important than asking what their favorite color is =) We can learn all of the fun stuff after marriage and after knowing that this person is compatible for us to live a long and healthy marriage. For those who think Muslim men can not date the "infidel' this is not true. As Muslims we believe in one god and we believe that he sent down many prophets over the centuries. These include the prophets in the Torrah, as well as Jesus. To disbelieve in one prophet is to disbelieve in them all. People believe that we worship a god that is different than the god Jesus spoke of, but this is not true. "Allah" is the arabic word for god, since the Quran was written in Arabic. Simple as that. Like Christians, we are not supposed to have anger in our hearts, kill people, commit suicide, adultery, beat our spouses, etc. The one who does goes against the Qur'an and is a sinner. Do some Muslims do this? yes, do some Christians do this? Yes. It is said, "Do not judge Islam based on the actions of Muslims." Some people do not follow the teachings, but still claim it as their faith. Horrible people do horrible things, no matter what religion they "claim" to follow. Someone who fears god and actually follows the teachings will realize that is it said "the ones who rise anger are the weak", "the best among you are the ones kindest to your wives". Since men in any religious/non religious household are the head of the family, the children will be raised in whichever faith he is. (Jewish, christian or Muslim). A Muslims mans children will be Muslim whether he marries a Muslim girl or not. Back on topic. If he is practicing (not just the minimal prayers, zakat, fasting etc...we all have to do that)...he won't be flirting or dating anyone. Yes, sometimes men will want to fool around before marriage and since pious Muslim girls won't put out, they go for girls who will. Now I must say, there are also Muslim girls who fool around before marriage, so this isn't just men here. A pious man/woman will reach a higher level of paradise and can take their spouse, so we are always looking to marry the one who is the most pure. If you sleep with him don't be surprised if he leaves to marries a virgin..(he'd be a hypocrite)
Many families would not approve of their Muslim son dating a non-Muslim (and vice versa).
I have a friend who is Muslim and he has indicated that his family often attends events with other Muslims where he is encouraged to meet girls there. They want him to date within their faith, since they are very religious.
I am not sure if it is a total no-no, I think it depends on the guy and how into his religion he is and how much he cares what his family thinks.
I know another Muslim guy who dates anyone, doesn't matter their race or religion. HOWEVER, when he brings these girls home (WHEN AND IF HE EVER DOES) he introduces them as friends and hides their relationship from family because of problems it may cause. His family would never approve of what he is doing but he does not care.
I was under the assumption that Muslims, if they are very strict and following their religion, wouldn't be dating in the first place. If he does, don't count on him taking you seriously for anything more than a hook up
Muslims, like men of many other faiths, often think they'll be able to convert the woman. However, one should exercise caution with this assumption, as it all too often is not that easy.
Even amongst denominations of the same faith, this can be tricky. I'm Wisconsin Lutheran; but outside of that fold I get along reasonably well with most active-Catholics and Southern Baptists. Still, I know that odds are slim her entire views on fine doctrine are going to conform for my sake. So I focus on the common ground if I make a move at all.
As for Muslim men: They're not supposed to date "the infidel"; but they often do. The ones who go against the better advice and do anyway, you need to watch out for. They may be con artists. That your man took a stand for his faith means he cares enough about you to be honest about his priorities with you. Even if that means you lose out, it is admirable of him to be honest.
The film "Not Without My Daughter" is based on a true story of a woman who allowed herself to date a Muslim man who was not so honest.
He seemed harmless at first, until his family convinced him to make a visit to Iran and bring the wife and child. From there, the family took her and the child hostage, and radicalized him into an abusive jackass. The wife and child barely escaped with their lives. She now lives with bodyguards, in case he ever comes after her.
The child is now a full-grown adult, and my uncle actually met her.
Tread the thin ice carefully.
xzcv For all girls thinking of dating or marrying a muslim
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Not just are allowed but actually recommended to do so - then doing whatever they can to convert her and to produce a lot of little, brown Muslims.
Yes, only Muslim women are not allowed to date non Muslim men. Its fine for guys, hopefully he isn't really deep in his faith
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