Some people leave a mark on your heart forever and you will never be the same?

[Anonymous]

do you agree? that sometimes things don't work out with someone but he/she still leaves a mark on your heart and you know you will never be the same again?

it makes me sad but I think I have a guy like that in my life..well, had, I should say. it was the first older guy I was involved with and I fell for him so deep. I had to end it for my own good but I liked him so much and months later I still miss him. we talk sometimes but it isn't the same. I learned a lot, about relationships, about myself. I liked him so much and felt a deep connection to him. I think I will be able to love someone new who is better for me but I know I will never be the same again.

i am less naive, more aware of things, I know more about myself in relationships, what one is and is not, more than before. but it hurts when you fall for someone hard and don't end up together. I feel like being with him sucked some of the happiness and optimistic youth out of me that I will never get back.

:/

[aMuse]

Sure, when things go bad it can make you bitter for a while and more cautious in the future, when things go good, it can give you hope and optimism about things, You realize there are good people out there still, and they're not all bad. =) Every relationship leaves a mark on you or should, because hopefully each relationship teaches you something about yourself. What happened between you two, and why did you end it? What did you gain from running away from someone you had deep feelings for?

[Asker]

i just miss him and I feel like I will compare everyone to him and have problems moving on. I ended it because we had agreed to keep it light but I was getting too many feelings is what it came down to, and I thought if I didn't put in the brakes I would just get hurt more because he wouldn't have wanted to get serious. it still hurts though.

[aMuse]

Well, in that case I wouldn't worry it... He'll fade away soon enough. If he just wanted sex, and a fun time and you never felt him love you then he's really insignificant in the history of your life. It'll pass in time. =)