No I actually think it’s a polite person who doesn’t want to leave you hanging. Those texting games are tedious I don’t play them. I don’t make dates on text. There’s a lot of people who will look at that text notification and not respond for a while , and let that phone ring to voice mail while they are looking at it. Females who do that with me to much end up wondering why I’m not wasting my time. They shouldn’t wonder as I know people keep their phone on them so if that happens a lot she is most likely not interested or shit testing you to gage your interest or desperation. I have never been one to waste time on a disrespectful person.
No, I have never found a person desperate or clingy because of that.
I try to respond as soon as possible, because I just consider it good manners.
And if I can't I make sure to let them know why.
I find a person desperate or clingy if they text me something, and I don't respond right away for whatever reason and they follow up with "?" or something along those lines.
Appreciating attention is thumbs up from me, feeling entitled to it or demanding it, that's a big no-no when you talk to me.
I'm myself that person though... I mean it doesn't means I don't have any life but I have my phone almost all the time so I text them back instead of ignoring them. If I'm busy then also I will text them back and say that I will get back to them later. I'm fast replier in whatsapp (in day as if mom saw my last seen after 10 pm then I'm dead) and in night I'm fast replier in discord and watpad (I turn on it's notifications that time not at day.) So yeah you can get to me anytime but you gotta reach to me through right way. For gag I'm not a fast replier most of the time as I use the website not app.
It depends on who it is. If it's a family member or a friend then it's okay with me. I like quick responses and they're nice but I understand that people are busy and have lives. If it's a guy I like it's nice but if he's always doing it then it makes me suspicious. What's even worse is if he expects responses from me immediately and gets bothered if I don't respond as quickly as him.
why do you get suspicious? lets say he doesn't expects quick replies from you but always replies quickly to you anyways.
why's it weird though? peopel are pretty much glued to their phones these days
well maybe the meeting is boring af and talking to you makes it more exciting. maybe his boss doesn't care. lol
but anyways i get what you mean. but just your kind of thinking kinda makes me a little insecure and deliberately not reply too fast to people sometimes.
is there any kind of an explanation a person can give you about their quick replies? for instance as a grubhub driver i can still text in between deliveries no problem. i don't have a boss monitoring everything i do in my kind of work. so yeah my replies tend to be pretty quick. its when im driving during deliveries that my texts are slower.
haha im not offended Cherry don't worry. im just trying to explore the reasons for this. you're being honest and i respect you for it.
but do you think an explanation for the quick replies would suffice for you?
cool.
you're ok? i didn't mean to make you feel bad or something. not my intention :*
*hugs*
@Still-alive it's still weird, and I get where you are coming from, I personally don't think it's weird or desperate, but I also realize that's "the game" so ok everyone is constantly on their phones and your phone is in your pocket and it chimes or vibrates or whatever or you are actively looking at it and a text comes through. Until you know someone more intimately, "the game" is you gotta wait several minutes at least and the less you know them the longer you should wait, up to a couple hours or maybe even more.
If you text someone though, and they text you right away, then you can text back right away because you've both established you are connected and looking at your phones at the same time. But don't send text after text if they stop replying. Then you have to give it a break and if they don't text back for more than a few minutes, you shouldn't respond immediately anymore. Whether or not it's true, in order for you to not seem creepy or desperate, you have to look like you've got something better to do if they don't pay attention to you, then you went skydiving, ran into your friends and had a mini adventure or something else epic. Maybe respond in a few hours, or not at all. It's stupid, but that's how people roll subconsciously these days.
(this is slightly sarcastic/tounge in cheek, but also how it is)
@zeitgeist057 yeah im not playing those games anymore
@Still-alive that's great, they are stupid games. But just be aware whether people admit it or not, this is the pattern of thought that often happens these days.
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I've had it done to me.
I just met a guy and I gave him my phone number.
He texts me and I immediately texted him back.
He texted me back saying he can tell that I'm desperate because I texted him back so soon. He told me I should wait at least several hours.
so stupid. how old was the guy by the way?
yeah just he was an immature shithead then
that's pretty hilarious. Did he text back immediately? I would have texted "I can tell you're desperate because you have a carefully devised plan of how long to wait to text someone back." but in truth he's right and everyone plays this stupid game. lol.
Well it can be a sign of they do not have much hobbies. Like I know of girls who practically just sit on their phone and talk to people all day without actually having anything else to do which is sad so yeah.
Where as someone with hobbies would be doing that instead of just ringing and texting people all the time.
I don't think it's desperate for someone to reply back fast but if it's all they do is sit on their phone all day just talking to people. That person will be a very boring person to me that I could never really get along with cause she would have no hobbies to speak of. And if they could reply at any time and fast? shows they probably ain't doing hobbies that they get engrossed into.
For myself a reason why I haven't texted a message back yet is because I am gaming, writing, watching something etc. If another person ain't having their own personal hobbies like etc. It's not a healthy thing in my opinion.
Where are these mysteriously fast texters? They sound mythical to me. Myself and my friends, even growing up when I was at my peak speed, could still be five minutes. Part of texting is slowing down to compose a decent response, not like talking where we say the first thing that comes to mind then go oh shit.
Lol well that would be me. Im pretty quick
Ah your mythical, but I bet you still have a life.
u I reply super fast to someone if it’s one of my friends or my boyfriend, so if someone replies to me super fast, that’s convenient.
but you never thought "wow does this person have a life" when they text you fast?
No. Whether or not someone “has a life”, makes no difference to how fast they reply. If you are important to someone, they should always make time for you.
There are times when it is ill advised or impossible to text, so it doesn't bother me if I don't get an answer right away.
I myself sometimes leave my phone on the charger, leave it at home, turn it off in a business or social meeting, sometimes forget it as I leave my house, and sometimes I just want to take some time to think about what I'm going to reply.
It is only fair to permit those who text me the same freedoms and liberties I enjoy.
No. My thoughts would be on a different kind of direction like maybe this guy like or like maybe this guy care or like maybe he is too free? BUT I have never thought they are desperate. I did however question myself if I appear desperate when I reply to fast.
I’m generally not friends with people who are desperate, clingy, or that “have no life”. And if I was, or if I knew them some other way, I don’t think I could bring myself to describe them in that way.
So basically n/a for you on this question? Lol 😘
No, it’s not not applicable, it’s plenty applicable, I just have never thought someone was clingy desperate, but they were super fast on the texting (can you tell I’m unbelievably high?)
Hmm 🤔 keep smoking
Nah edibles! I’m gonna go watch a chick flick and head off to bed. I can’t even make sense to myself, i have NO business being on here. Night hun
Lol alrighty. Enjoy your chick flick :*
I'm kind of that guy, except when I working. If it's my free time and I'm just hanging around, I reply pretty fast.
However, when I'm playing a game, I only respond quickly if it's my girlfriend or family, or if whoever texted me sounded urgent. Otherwise I'm like, "You can wait."
No. It doesn't bother me when people respond back quickly lol. I actually prefer it. I do hesitate at times when I reply back tho. For these reasons
yeah its why im asking this. wanna see what people think here. should be illuminating
People who said yes are usually immature and like to play games. When a person is interested in you they are not turned off by you wanting to text them. The only time they get turned off if they want to use you. It is stupid I used to get myself trapped into thinking that I couldn't respond back too fast because a guy would lose interest. They lose interest anyway because they only wanted sex in the first place.
Reliable. Professional. There will always be someone that will shoot you in the foot. Text too soon, too late, too short, too long, too racy, to prude, too immature, too old-school.. You be you. They can be them.
No. People don’t go anywhere without their phones and with those phones comes notifications so if he’s a fast responder I don’t think much of it. I’d be more weirded out if it took them hoursss to respond
Yeah, but it's only been with people who want to talk just to talk. They're not really talking about anything, but they still want to talk. 😫🤦♀️
talking about me? hmmm
lol good. i was about to be mean to you if you said yes >;)
Omg yes!! More than once too. I felt bad for them but they were sooo clingy!
other than this though were there other clues that made you thought 'clingy'?
because sometimes i deliberately wait before replying because of these types of thoughts
Yes basically not being their own person it felt like everything they texted was trying to get my approval. Several were trying to date me and I made it clear I just wanted to be friends.
can you give an example of them 'not being their own person"?
Well one was having a difficult time making ends meet due to circumstances yet he would offer to buy me things or spend money. He had a young daughter that was cute but she needed to be his priority.
Also especially he would say he was always interested in the same things I was like music or activities when he really wasn’t.
ok i get that. yeah bying women things you aren't in a relationship is desperate
BUT i just want to ask. imagine if he did have a job, was confident, and honest but still texted you super fast. do you think you'd still think the same about him?
Always texting me right away? Yes I might like it at first but if always was a fast response I would think it strange and yes probably still needy
but why though? like i just don't get how its needy. that kind of thinking just baffles me
sorry don't mean to come down on you, but i am a quick replier and because of that kind of thinking i do resort to deliberately waiting a bit.
I think from my perspective it’s based on experience to some degree.
Maybe it starts with conception and this poor egg is minding her own business and there are all these sperm just rushing to respond to the egg, and she is like ‘omg wtf i need to take a minute to breathe!
Okay I’m just kidding there but it’s the best image I could think up comparatively, sorry!
lol kinky :P
In my opinion that doesn't make a person clingy. What makes someone clingy is when they text you and you take a little longer than usual to get back because you're busy and they make a scene out of it. That's freaking clingy.
I wish I could reply faster and I had more information in my texts. Just trying not to be rude. I just get so busy with work at times
i understand Rebecca. no worries on my end as you have explained it to me before :)
I'm kinda like that, (unless I'm asleep) so it wouldn't really bother me. TBH someone who seemed that interested in me would be refreshing.
No. I appreciate that it means they want to talk to me.
Yes I thought about that before but I know it's not always the case.
What! No! What? Nooooo. It means the person is engaging in an active discussion, nothing else
No not really. I do if I don’t respond right away and they send a message like “hello wake up” or they do the back to back call.
I can handle having a girlfriend like me clingy so that is turn on for me
Myself... but no one else lol. I tend to always ret right away to some people
Almost half the women say yes. Never let it be said that women are judgmental. 🤣🤣🤣
No, maybe they just happen to have their phone in hand.
No because I'm like that too. Somedays I'm on my phone all day
Yeah I’ve thought that
What gave you this impression?
They seemed too eager
What clues gave you this impression?
I don’t remember. This was a long time ago.
How would you feel if he gave you an explanation for the quick replies? Think that might stop you thinking theyre eager?
Probably
Do i seem eager to you? Lol
Not too eager 😊
Not really, just figured they were already doing something on their phone when I texted them and always have their phone with them
im not gonna complain
m nope... because I'm a grown up
dude.. "have no life" that's a bit rude lol
nope...
its nice to see you on again :)
thank ya 🤗
I don't text so don't have the problem.
Never no!
smart woman :*
No I’ve never thought that lol
i am that person
Nope I haven't
No I like it
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