Every Valentine's Day people rush to buy flowers, candy, jewelry, and other items to show their loved ones how much they care. People who are single, however, typically can't wait for this day to be over. What many people fail to realize is that Valentine's Day doesn't just have to be about romantic love; it can also be about showing love towards your family, friends, and even yourself!
Many of us put so much energy into our existing relationships, whether it be our family members, friends, children, or romantic relationships, that we tend to forget about the most important relationship of all, the relationship you have with yourself. This Valentines Day, we want to focus on the importance of self-love! It is not selfish to put time and energy into yourself. We all need to take time for self-care every now and then!
After all, how can you love anyone else, or expect someone else to love you for that matter, when you don't love yourself? The fact is, the relationship you have with yourself will set the stage for any future relationships you may have. You shouldn't strive for a relationship in order to feel "worthy" or "complete." A relationship can certainly add happiness and fulfillment to your life but it shouldn't be your only means of happiness and self-worth.
Learning to be happy with yourself while single, rather than putting all of your sense of happiness in other people, is the best thing you can do for yourself. Self-acceptance is probably the most important step towards self-love. No one is perfect and while we should always strive to improve where possible, it's also important to accept the things we cannot change and learn to love ourselves through those flaws.
Below are 5 tips we've come up with to help you gain self-confidence and love yourself this Valentine's Day!
1. Pamper Yourself
This is probably the most obvious way to practice self-love. Take some time out of your busy week to take care of yourself. It doesn't have to be an expensive day at the spa, it could be spending a day at home in pajamas reading your favorite book, watching some movies, or catching up on your sleep! The possibilities are endless, the important thing is to just do something YOU enjoy and find relaxing, whatever that may be.
2. Choose Your Friends Wisely
In many cases, the people you surround yourself with can have an enormous impact on how you feel about yourself. Having a group of friends who lift you up and are supportive is so important! If your friends bring you more drama and headache than happiness and positivity, maybe it's time to find some new friends.
3. Learn to Say No
Don't let others take advantage of you. Growing your confidence and loving yourself means having enough self-respect to not allow others to mistreat you or take advantage of your kindness. In turn, people will respect you more when you stand up for yourself.
4. De-clutter Your Living Space (and Your Mind/Heart)
If you're feeling stressed or overwhelmed in your life, cleaning out your space and de-cluttering will create a positive effect. Clutter can weigh you down, getting rid of old things you no longer use will make room for new things! Being more organized can help you feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. Similarly, while cleaning out your home, let go of all the negative emotions you may be harboring as well. Don’t worry about the past and previous negative experiences; love yourself enough to know the best is yet to come.
5. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
This is one of the best ways to practice self-love. People with low self-esteem or low confidence tend to have a bad habit of comparing themselves to others. Stop looking for ways to feel bad about yourself! Everyone is different and you cannot be happy with yourself when you are constantly comparing yourself to other people. Instead, focus on what YOU have. You have positive traits too and even though you may not be as good looking, as funny, as successful, etc. as someone else, that doesn't mean they're better than you.
This notion of self-love may seem cliché but it doesn't hurt to give a reminder of its importance! If you are struggling with self-acceptance this Valentine's Day, take a minute to think about what you bring to the table. Everyone has strengths and things that makes them unique. Spend today focusing on yourself, finding your inner confidence, and growing your self-love! ❤️