Corny title aside...
Here's how to tell if a shy girl is interested in or likes you:
At one point or another, you’ve probably either been the shy girl or have been interested in one. Otherwise, why are you here? Go do something productive you geezer! Just kidding....It’s okay, we won’t tell anyone that you’ve got the hots for that cutie....this is between you and us, and your Internet browser history (though I’m sure worse things are on there).
Well, getting to the point, despite all the common misconceptions and confusions about shy girls, we’re all really quite simple... that is, if you know reverse psychology.
Here are some useful tips on how a shy girl will act if she’s interested in you. Keep in mind some of these will apply to the girl in question, as each girl is different in her approach to crushes depending on the setting and level of intensity of her interest in you.
1. Ignoring you
The most common and misread behavior a shy girl will exhibit when she likes you is that she will ignore you. Don’t be fooled by her stoic appearance... she knows where you are at all times and she’s keeping her eye on you (you just can’t catch her). A shy girl is often afraid you will read her feelings if she looks at you, even in passing, so she’ll often be too afraid to show herself. If you want to figure out if she’s ignoring you because she’s shy or uninterested: Hide (partially kidding here). But when she’s not looking (won’t be hard because usually when you ARE looking is when she won’t be) move from where you are and watch. Does she look to where you just were, all casual yet curious? If she looks to where you were and then scans the room, she may be looking for someone.... (Move on to the other tips, hot stuff).
A shy girl is often afraid you will read her feelings if she looks at you, even in passing, so she’ll often be too afraid to show herself.
2. Lingering Presence
If you are thinking, what a coincidence... that cute girl is here again today, wow I see her around often... (STOP. Does she HAVE to be there for work, school, etc? If not, then listen up). A girl (not just shy ones) that is interested in you will want to be around you, even if she’s not next you physically. If you see her around often and she could be elsewhere, then maybe she’s there because of you. In combination with the other signs, this is a big one that shows a girl’s interest. Bottom line: if she’s in your line of view, often, then there may be more there. She won’t look at you, she’ll do her thing but somehow her thing happens to be nearby where your thing is because it’s destiny that you two are in the same places all the time.
3. Friends Are For Communicating
If she is with her friends, then for one, she’ll smile more and have more courage/confidence.... but sadly it won’t be enough to approach you. She may come closer to you than she would on her own, but she’ll still pretend like you aren’t there. She may even become louder or sillier in their presence and you may see her giggle/laugh a LOT. It could be that her friends are suuuper funny, but more likely it is that she’s nervous, trying to get someone’s (your) attention. Watch her friends, do they look at you when your cutie is doing something/walking away? A common thing shy girls will do is locate you, tell their friends, and then pretend they’re doing something else/go away so that it doesn’t seem obvious to you when their friends “casually” glance at you. Tricky thing is, as subtle as she tries to be, a part of her is excited and would like to get caught communicating this interest in you (though she’s terrified). Her friends may also be watching you when she’s around to see how you react to the shy cutie (this would be the time to STARE STARE STARE, as everything you do will get back to the cutie).
4. Discomfort is a good thing
Is she on edge (assuming she usually is calm)? When she walks by you, look at her, chances are she’ll fix her hair, touch her nose, fix some clothing, touch her phone etc. Anything that shows like she’s trying to impress or is nervous is a good sign. When she walks by you she’s hoping you’ll look at her as she walks off, so she subconsciously will fix something or play with something to seem casual/calm. You’d have to subtly watch for these things, but they’re there!
If she’s not looking away, keep talking, she’ll like whatever you say!
5. Read my body language
You are in conversation with her (round of applause for managing to make that happen!), and she is looking at you in the eye as you talk, rarely breaking eye contact. If she’s not looking away, keep talking, she’ll like whatever you say, even if you change the subject with “so I like mushrooms”. Don’t expect her to be a great conversationalist on the first or second or third try... it may take time. She’ll probably be so nervous and awkward, that you’ll feel like you are blabbering on...keep going, we need that. She may be looking down/away, or fidgeting...don’t panic.... She could be very nervous, yet interested. The difference between discomfort associated with disinterest is that she would be looking away and pointed towards the nearest exist... if she’s standing and staring at you, looks away yet doesn’t move, she may be interested!
Bonus Tip: Shy girl’s just NOT that into you if she’s: crossing her arms, rolling her eyes, giving you a dirty look, far too comfortable in your presence (near you), making out with your buddy, orrrr uttering something along the lines of “I hate you”.
Bottom line is, shy girls are likely to apply reverse psychology with a touch of nervousness in there. We can appear calm on the surface but if you watch, you can tell. We may not want to tell you, but we want you to like us, and thus you should know how we feel. But the best way to get interest from her is to ACT INTERESTED yourself. Once we are comfortable and feel like we have a chance, we open up and we show more interest naturally. Don’t make us guess.... just go for it. It won’t be so bad, promise!
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