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Signs He Likes You, Signs He Doesn't

 
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"Does he like me?"

Are you wondering if a certain guy likes you? Here, I will help you answer it once and for all.

First, it's important for you to know that men, even with our best intentions, are not good at expressing how we feel. Leaving you hanging is not always part of the plan...sometimes guys just don't know how to tell you they like you.

Perhaps it's because our parents don't teach us how (obviously our fathers don't know because they are men and our mothers don't know what's really going on in our head because they aren't men), or maybe because everything we see in society says guys shouldn't express emotions and feelings and we buy into it. It might even be hardwired into our genetics since long ago when we saw something we wanted, we hit it with a club and took it home with us (speaking of which, please don't try this, I wont get into details, but trust me).

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Whatever the reason is, it comes as no surprise that women are typically clueless about how we feel about them.

So I am acting as an ambassador to help decode the signals men send and try to explain how a guy will act if he likes you.

I have talked to a lot of women that have questions about whether or not the guy that they are interested in is interested in them. "If this guy looks at me every time I pass him", or "What does it mean when a guy. . . ", or perhaps "This guy asked me for my number, but he hasn't called." Honestly, I could go on for hours about thousands of particular "does this guy like me" situations.

I believe, however, that whether a guy likes you or whether he doesn't can be summed up into just one sign (that has thousands of variations):

He is either around you or he isn't.

More than 98% of the time, if a guy likes you, then he is going to be around you. It doesn't matter if he is not talking directly to you or even blatantly ignoring you. Even if he is making fun of you, picking fights or punching you in the arm and then running away. One way or another, no matter what he is doing, he is doing it around you, and I guarantee you, this is true for men of all ages.

This doesn't mean that your interested man is going to be right next to you, or even within a few feet of you. But typically, if he is interested in you, he will find reasons to be close to you, even if that closeness means that he is only able to look at you from across the room.

If you really think about it, you will see exactly what I mean. "What does it mean that every day when I see him in the hall, he looks right at me? "That doesn't matter, what matters is that every day he has found a way to pass you in the hall so that he CAN look at you. "Why does this guy always make fun of me? "Because if he grunted, you would think that he was weird, and he has no other way to tell you that he likes you. "But he never says anything to me!"I'll bet why that is so frustrating to you is because he is always close enough to say something, but he never does. See what I am talking about?

It doesn't matter what he is, or is not doing, the important thing is that he is (or isn't) doing it around you.

Ladies, I also think that it's important that you understand that most men, no matter how old we get, never grow out of this. On the flipside of this coin, no matter what a guy is doing, if he is not doing it around you, typically he has no interest in you. Even if what he is doing are exactly like the examples above, if he is not around you more times than not, he probably doesn't have any feelings for you.

"Every time I start to get close, he goes somewhere else", or "My class is next to his, but I never see him in the hallway", or perhaps a little more extreme "I went back to his apartment the next day, and someone else was living there. "Just as we have trouble telling someone we do like them, we have the same trouble telling someone we don't. So, instead, we avoid you.

Some might say that we as men are just scared of rejection, and I believe that is true to some degree. But more so, I think that we just have trouble saying what we truly feel, or that we are hoping that if we are around you long enough you will start to understand our language, tell us you like us, and then invite us out to dinner (and if you paid too that would be absolutely super).

Whatever the case may be, the best sign to look for to see if he is interested in you, is if, no matter what foolishness he is doing, he is doing it around you.

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  • 18 days ago
    i took this guy to a basketball game, he seemed to like me, text me and even stayed over the night of the game (no sex though) then after about a few weeks of me always striking convo he just stopped responding. . confused cause he said he is cool with chilling and being friends but never asks me out and now will not respond to text. hmmm confused!
  • 2 months ago
    Ok I have a crush on one of the hottest guys in my year and I accidently told one of his friends and begged him not to tell but he did anyway and even started teasing me to him in public.I know my crush knows but he won't do anything and I'm feeling so rejected but I want to know how to get over him because he won't even look at me and doesn't notice me but I do see him staring at times so I'm getting annoyed I mean what is that am I to UGLY or something.IDK help me pliz I want know what's wrong
  • 2 months ago
    Ok I have a crush on this really good looking guy(he knows he is to) in my year and I accidently told one of his friends that I liked him and I begged him not to tell but he did it anyway and started teasing me to the guy in public. But my crush won't do anything about it and I'm feeling very rejected and I don't know how to get over it because still like him but he doesn't notice me and he is too good looking anyways. What should I do?
  • 4 months ago
    I'm so confused right now there's this guy in my English class in 2nd period class and my friends asked him if he likes me and he said he didn't know me. Cause he keeps staring at me and then the next day he kept looking at me and after class my friend said that he likes me too and he wants to go out with me but he said no cause I'm a 7th and he an 8th and now he stopped staring at me what does this mean? does this mean he doesn't like me no more?
  • 6 months ago
    i have a guy friend how is sending me defferent sings I don't know how he feels about me some times I feel like he likes me sometimes I feel like he hates me and sometimes I feel like he thinks of me a really good friend teases me makes fun of me calls me by a nickname but not a nice one he brags in front of me and tells me how awesome he is and how he is a player that girls go crazy four him but he tells me that he dose not cheat on them he flirts with other girls in front of me and tells me
  • 6 months ago
    He text me from NC Hope you are well would love to see you What does he mean by this
  • Over a year ago
    this guy who likes me is really weird,like one day at lunch me and my bff were eating lunch across from the guy who likes me and they were like arguing(in a good way not a bad way)and sam (or patrick)sed LUCAS LIKE YOU!,and then me and my bff looked at each other and sed EWW and like ever since he's been all like you know.
  • Over a year ago
    i meet this guy about 3 times a week , I always catch him looking at me, and he's always tryig to see me without making me notice it(like he turn his head over me in the bus ,he always does it!).he's shy because we talked many times and he rarely look at me in the eyes.i'm loosing my mind! what's behind his looks? once he kept looking and looking till I got so shy and nervous ah! and he smiles when we meet... any tips guys pllllz!
  • Over a year ago
    how about if the guy always wink at me so what's the sign is
  • Over a year ago
    I meet this guy about once a week just to hang out and he's always checking me out and doing me favours and were quite flirty but I know what type of guy he is although he's a sweet guy(to me anyway) he's always got different girls whos he's NEVER serious with and I don't want to ruin the relationship that we have and there's also another guy involved who I reallly like but I'm not as physically attracted to him as I am to the first one and he just asked me out, I don't know what to do
  • Over a year ago
    wll, I am so frustrated with this guy, I don't even know why! we actually take 4th period together which is our English, he can't stop teasing me and sometimes he comes and sits in front of me and stare right in front of my face. he has a friend who is also my friend, that is where I knew him more. but I never knew if he likes me or not. I thought 'wow' did I just impress him with my personalities. now I feel so awkward being around him. am I the one making him like me?
  • Over a year ago
    Okay, he was behind me. I was talking to one of my friends but the friend I was leaving with was trying to get my attention. That friend ask this guy for help to get my attention. So, he put his hand onmy shoulder and said my name. Feeling his hand from behind felt intimate to me but what do you think?
  • Over a year ago
    What about if the guy blushes around you and looks into your eyes and chest and quickly turns away but he has to do his job as a trainer and can't be no where near you at times?

    Also when I am close to the guy, he gets nervous as if I'm going to finally talk to him.
  • Over a year ago
    My ex boyfriend said he wanted to stay single to me today, there have been a few issues with us recently. However he also the same day when he heard I was going out was around me, is meeting me and some mates tomorrow and going to the movies with us a few days later... he invited himself to all but the last one, where my mate invited him. I am f***ing lost. Why is he doing this? I mean seriously?... I would think he liked my mate, however he hasent taken her up on any offers to see her alone...X
  • Over a year ago
    OKay so this boy I totally like cause we have EVERYTHING in common. He has really bad mood swings. Last week he go mad at me for no reason. that was Tuesday. then Thursay the same week he asked out this new girl they have been dating since but Wednesday of this week he started being my friend yet again. We flirt non stop since we met each other. and yet Friday he said I am going to break up with my girlfriend. and he told me to warn her. well all day Friday he tickled me made me laugh etc. but he tells everyone that he don?t like me that way.. WHAT SHALL I DO?!?!?! >:/

  • Over a year ago
    THIS IS GOOD.

    OMG
    The question "Does he like me?" "Does he like me or not?" "Are we more than friends?"
    from persons on this site is just getting boring..! People need to read this article.
  • Over a year ago
    but what if he atm lives another place, so that it's not possible for him to be around all the tim, only when he's home for holidays and stuff (this is just for a few more months), how can you tell if he likes you then? he spends time with me when he is here.
  • Over a year ago
    Great article, thank you so much. Anyway, there is a new site on subject "How to tell if a guy likes you", so maybe it could be interesting for you ----> link
    Good luck and thank you :)
  • Over a year ago
    Please help me with my latest question. I neeed opinions , especially someone like you :-)
  • Over a year ago
    What if he shows all these sign and more! But when I told him months ago I was interested in him he said he does not feel that way about me. He is ALWAYS looking at me when we are with other people. He even threw a wad of paper towel at me when I was standing with a couple of girls talking with my back towards him. He is 56 years old. I am old too 48 but slim and looking good. Is it just my looks? He wants to be freinds he says. But I have completly fallen for him. We are so alike. I see future
  • Over a year ago
    I HAVE TO ADMIT I BOUGHT THIS BOOK!
  • Over a year ago
    ok I like this boy and sometimes I look at him and I find that he's looking at me but when he sees that I see him looking at me he looks somewhere else. does this mean he likes me or not?
  • Over a year ago
    wow. I never realized that. thanks! that gives me something to look for...
  • Over a year ago
    this guy in school calls me "boss", and he really picks on me a lot, like every time we see each other. he gave me a cd of my favorite band. is there a possibility that he likes me?
  • Over a year ago
    In truth, I might look at you during class, then look away, I might try to move away from you if you come towards my grope of friends and so on, usually these are signs of a long list of past rejections, so you might just be totally avoided as not to
    start up emotions which would then result in, "The Question".
  • Over a year ago
    I really like this guy at school. He always stares at me in the corridor and at lunch, We have eye contact for about 3 seconds, or I notice him looking at me and once I look at him, he looks away.... Does this mean that he likes me?
  • Over a year ago
    Does this work with 'best friend' too? I am wondering if my best guy friend likes me, but he is always around me...so I am really not sure if this goes with my case..
  • Over a year ago
    So what if he is around me all the time, but then I got impatient and then one day I just told him I liked him and now things are awkard. what should I do? I don't care if we just stay friends I just want him as a friend at least again...
  • Over a year ago
    Since you are good at knowing this maybe you can help me with my question;)

    http://www.girlsaskguys.com/Dating-Questions/285775-why-are-his-behaviors-so-changed.html
  • Over a year ago
    Im a guy and this girl is allways around me and I fell for her and I read this article and I notice I'm like that I always want to be around her and I've been doing this and she hasn't notice and I give her common sense signs to leave our friends to go alone but she understand she took it to the next level were she will bring more guys to get me jelouse what type of methods can I use to actually get in a relatinship together??
    Please help me out e-mail:
    muekone@yahoo.com
    Anyone??
  • Over a year ago
    Simply Awesome... Thank you ;-)
  • Over a year ago
    This made me smile. Thank you for clearing this up for me (and everyone else on this site). It was so helpful. :)
  • Over a year ago
    I've been trying to figure out whether a guy likes me for ages and this really helps me. He's always round me actually but he just doesn't treat me as anything more than a friend. It is very confusing :( I even tried taking this quiz: http://www.whyarentwedating.com/does-he-like-me-quiz.php because I was so confused but it seemed to tell me he liked me. but based on this advice he's always around me so maybe he really does
  • Over a year ago
    Does he like me? is he interested?
    we keep having eye contact every day. we go to the same college and everyday we have eye contact. he gives me butterflies and sometimes he goes a bit blushed. then yesterday he saw me and beeped, he pulled over and asked if I needed a lift as I was walking. I said yeah, but then it was akward nothing more then hey , bye and listening to music. but every time I text him there's no reply. does ignorance mean rejection? please help tell me what you think xx
  • Over a year ago
    Thank you for this.
  • Over a year ago
    Ok you seem to get anoyed when people are like "but he.." this and that. but I'm so confused. I have a guy friend were real close. I told him I like him and we became distant for a little while but now were closer than ever. everyone insists that he likes me though he says he doesn't but he rarly says it any more cause I stop people before it can freak him out. he always around now! ALWAYS! hanging out or he calls me when he's bored or so he says, ALWAYS not just friend around but boyfriend around help me
  • Over a year ago
    OK this was kind-of helpful... but what if he's told you he likes you but isn't always around? I like this guy and I told him how I felt and he said he really liked me too but didn't think we had much in common so he didn't know what could happen. What does that mean? Does it mean that he likes me but he isn't planning on doing anything about it, or that he doesn't like me and just couldn't find a polite way to say it so he pretended he did and then made up an excuse?
  • Over a year ago
    Oh I hope this is true I'm gonna find out :(
  • Over a year ago
    Thank you!
  • Over a year ago
    I believe this is true, but for a girl like me who has been straight up told by the one she like that he likes her, I am blind to the signs. How am I supposed to know if he likes me if I can't even begin to see the signs? Can fear of getting hurt get in the way of seeing said signs?
  • Over a year ago
    I like this guy, I thought he like me. So I told him I liked him, he was sweet about it saying aww that's cute but I know he doesn't like me, were so close as friends. I have always been thinking about him, trying to put myself off him. But he's such a sweet guy and he's so gorgeous. I told him I didn't like him, so it wouldn't be awkward and its not. Everytime I talk to him I want to be with him, together. Loads of girls like him but I'm the closest friend as a girl.I want to be with him, what do I do
  • Over a year ago
    What happen's if it's long distance?
  • Over a year ago
    Thank you so much. Now I know that this one guy might like me because I see him EVERYWHERE. and he stares at me all the time, and I see him doing the small things I do as well. Like, if I am playing with my hands, he will be too. When he normally doesn't. Yes, I like this guy too. I hope all goes well....
  • Over a year ago
    Doesnt this make it all open to your idea of what's "around you"? I have a friend who reads all the emails I send him (daily). In them I let him know I want to see him. He never replies. I've tried everything, from boo hoo,romantic, silly. He never says anything in return. He reads them, just doesn't reply. Where does this fall in the equation?
  • Over a year ago
    Thanks for this. Now I know that the guy I liked and made-out with doesn't like me. He ignored me a day after me and him were together this one night. And we didn't do anything but make-out by the way. But yes.)': He's confusing me. Ughh, how I wish he can be readable.
  • Over a year ago
    Ok I have a question. What if the guy lives rather far away but not that far and you have only known him for like 2 months but you like him and you told him and he says he likes you back but all you do is talk on the computer with him everyday and he is very nice and straight forward about things hand we are 16 by the way and every time you ask him to go somewhere with you he says no but claims he likes you but doesn't want to move too fast and that eventually he will like me more than I like hii
  • Over a year ago
    So true...
  • Over a year ago
    Check if he is showing interest in things you do or talk about. For instance, if you like a kind of music that he likes as well, he might suggest artists you should listen to.

    . Look for signs of nervousness like sweaty palms, nervous laughter, deep breaths, fidgeting. These are all signs of an attraction towards you and that he is nervous about making an impression on you.

  • Over a year ago
    This helped alot! thank you for the amazing article
  • Over a year ago
    So if a friend insists he likes you a lot, but yet avoids you, claiming fears that 'our friendship could be damaged' etc, does this also mean that that he's just lying and isn't brave enough to say he doesn't like you?
  • Over a year ago
    Seems about right.
  • Over a year ago
    TOTALLLLLLLY TRUE!!!!!
  • Over a year ago
    Thanks that made a lot of seance :)
  • Over a year ago
    Men can, and do, express their emotions in a perfectly sensible way.

    Trouble is that women don't listen...
  • Over a year ago
    Wow this is absolutely great! I kind of do the same thing sometimes.
  • Over a year ago
    So if a guy is always passing me by at work or running into me or dropping stuff off to me then does it mean he likes me?And when I'm around he makes stupid dorky jokes and talks loud enough to hear him...its because he likes me?
  • Over a year ago
    So if my boyfriend sees me 3-4 times a week, that's interest right? or does it have to be more?
  • Over a year ago
    That's very true. Now I'm curious to know what is the equivalent rule for girls in this case?
  • Over a year ago
    Wow this is really simple but extremely helpful THANKS!
  • Over a year ago
    Really informative! I like your answer it makes good sense! YAY!!!
  • Over a year ago
    Very true! good article
  • Over a year ago
    What if he likes the person next ot her. Then she would get the wrong signal and be heart broken.
  • Over a year ago
    Brilliant writing! And this article was SOOOOOO helpful!
  • Over a year ago
    Okay, so I have a question (ps. I really think this is a good article)

    What if we don't see each other often and don't go to the same school? I mean, we've hung out a few times and we were sort of always around each other then, but we haven't hung out much since then. I thought it was going well, but he's shy, and so am I. Is it completely platonic? I can't tell. I'd really appreciate if you'd respond to this! Thanks.
  • Over a year ago
    K so...other day my crush found out I liked him....he was very suprised and seemed satisfied....next day...he was standoffish tho...and he's usually hyper and loud and stuff and he stayed alone and was very quiet and avoided me like no other. now reading your page....i'd say he doesn't know how to tell me he doesn't like me...? idk. what do you think...
  • Over a year ago
    That was a great article. so true. I'm having sudden realizations about the past already. thanks for that bit of insight
  • Over a year ago
    Your article really helped me, Because there is a guy that has been staring at me since the start of the school year and he never says anything to me and whenever he has the chance he usually gets close to me. At homecoming I was waiting to get in with my friend and out of no where he stands right by me and starts looking at me without saying a word. So I am glad there is some insight to this. Thank You : ]
  • Over a year ago
    Actually I have the same question of sparklenshine... what happens when you are friends? I mean, it is ussual to hang around with him, but he is behaving different to my other male friends... but then he's the closest to me... hum... what do you think of the friend-love situation?
  • Over a year ago
    Everything you said in your article is very true very easy to understand I think women make some things in understanding the flirtation thing more difficult to understand than it actually is.
  • Over a year ago
    This guy called me during the middle of the night I answertes the phone thinking some one had died or something. It was a co-worker of mine, he wanted to go over some paper work with me when he realized that I heoke me up he stated he would talk to me on Monday. Does mhe like me?
  • Over a year ago
    If he has no feelings for you whatsoever, then would he avoid you completely? I ask because a sorta-ex still invites me to his social gatherings, which I feel is a sign as there shouldn't be any reason for him to feel forced to do so, but what confuses me is that he does not see me very frequently and neither am I ever alone with him. We always meet around other people as I have just mentioned.. help please?
  • Over a year ago
    What if he's a nice guy, will he still avoid you if he doesn't feel the same way?
  • Over a year ago
    I've seen some pretty wacky things women think are signs that a guy likes them. They tend to over-analyze us. This guy is 100 percent correct regardless of if the guy is an aggressive smooth talker or a quiet/shy type.
  • Over a year ago
    What if a guy doesn't fit into that?
  • Over a year ago
    This article actually does help. my crush lives 2 hours away (we just met online) and had a GREAT date but I did not hear back for 4 days post-date. so I called him and left a message. he called me RIGHT BACK and is finding some excuse to come to my race this weekend - which is right near his home. he also said I could borrow his $$ gear (i said no) but I said i'd take him up on getting me a discount on a new bike this august. but so far, he does not call me. would rather I call him. sorta weird
  • Over a year ago
    But see I lke my best friends brother so no matter wat I'm always around him now what do I do
  • Over a year ago
    Really?! very nice, well written and very informative... thank you!!! =)
  • Over a year ago
    PREACH!!!
  • Over a year ago
    Well written too, funny :)
  • Over a year ago
    Beautiful,... even if too late haha
  • Over a year ago
    This article is amazing - simple and straight to the point. Thank you for the advice! This guy I casually know always went to the place I work, says HI to me and nothing more. He then asked me out to dinner by the end of the week ;).. "now I get it!" lol
  • Over a year ago
    Thanks. great article! It's true!
  • Over a year ago
    Great article. Thanks for this. Though does this same logic apply to guys who are your friends? I mean if they were your friend, wouldn't he choose to be around you without having feelings for you? Or am I overthinking the point? haha Thanks again.
  • Over a year ago
    How right you are!! A lot of girls asked me how to tell if a guy likes them, this really sums it all up - if he's around you, he likes you. Nice and simple. Very well written!
  • Over a year ago
    I agree with mellowmood. I really like it. It's preety cool, I'll keep it in mind. Thanxs a bunch!
  • Over a year ago
    You made some seriously good points, and I couldn't have read this article at a better time.
  • Over a year ago
    This article was very well written. I'm going to keep your advice in mind. Thank you.
  • Over a year ago
    BRILLIANT NOW THAT IS WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT! WOW
  • Over a year ago
    Wow! I love this. It's easy for me to tell when guy friends like me, but now I can tell with non-friends.
  • Over a year ago
    Thanks... It's so hard to analyze signals.. You're right, he either is or he isn't... What you've said made a lot of sense..
  • Over a year ago
    Very well put Genesis5. Something else I have done in the past in addition to all those you said above is that I would do things around her friends or people who I know she would hear from, even when I wasn't around her.
  • Over a year ago
    This article is an excellent resource for a lot of people on the site! "Does he like me" and even "does she like me" are really popular questions. Now people can get a great answer, regardless of the specific situation they are in. Highly recommended read
  • Over a year ago
    Exactly right - the simplest and easiest signal out there.
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