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Signs He Likes You, Signs He Doesn't

 
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"Does he like me?"

Are you wondering if a certain guy likes you? Here, I will help you answer it once and for all.

First, it's important for you to know that men, even with our best intentions, are not good at expressing how we feel. Leaving you hanging is not always part of the plan...sometimes guys just don't know how to tell you they like you.

Perhaps it's because our parents don't teach us how (obviously our fathers don't know because they are men and our mothers don't know what's really going on in our head because they aren't men), or maybe because everything we see in society says guys shouldn't express emotions and feelings and we buy into it. It might even be hardwired into our genetics since long ago when we saw something we wanted, we hit it with a club and took it home with us (speaking of which, please don't try this, I wont get into details, but trust me).

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Whatever the reason is, it comes as no surprise that women are typically clueless about how we feel about them.

So I am acting as an ambassador to help decode the signals men send and try to explain how a guy will act if he likes you.

I have talked to a lot of women that have questions about whether or not the guy that they are interested in is interested in them. "If this guy looks at me every time I pass him", or "What does it mean when a guy. . . ", or perhaps "This guy asked me for my number, but he hasn't called." Honestly, I could go on for hours about thousands of particular "does this guy like me" situations.

I believe, however, that whether a guy likes you or whether he doesn't can be summed up into just one sign (that has thousands of variations):

He is either around you or he isn't.

More than 98% of the time, if a guy likes you, then he is going to be around you. It doesn't matter if he is not talking directly to you or even blatantly ignoring you. Even if he is making fun of you, picking fights or punching you in the arm and then running away. One way or another, no matter what he is doing, he is doing it around you, and I guarantee you, this is true for men of all ages.

This doesn't mean that your interested man is going to be right next to you, or even within a few feet of you. But typically, if he is interested in you, he will find reasons to be close to you, even if that closeness means that he is only able to look at you from across the room.

If you really think about it, you will see exactly what I mean. "What does it mean that every day when I see him in the hall, he looks right at me? "That doesn't matter, what matters is that every day he has found a way to pass you in the hall so that he CAN look at you. "Why does this guy always make fun of me? "Because if he grunted, you would think that he was weird, and he has no other way to tell you that he likes you. "But he never says anything to me!"I'll bet why that is so frustrating to you is because he is always close enough to say something, but he never does. See what I am talking about?

It doesn't matter what he is, or is not doing, the important thing is that he is (or isn't) doing it around you.

Ladies, I also think that it's important that you understand that most men, no matter how old we get, never grow out of this. On the flipside of this coin, no matter what a guy is doing, if he is not doing it around you, typically he has no interest in you. Even if what he is doing are exactly like the examples above, if he is not around you more times than not, he probably doesn't have any feelings for you.

"Every time I start to get close, he goes somewhere else", or "My class is next to his, but I never see him in the hallway", or perhaps a little more extreme "I went back to his apartment the next day, and someone else was living there. "Just as we have trouble telling someone we do like them, we have the same trouble telling someone we don't. So, instead, we avoid you.

Some might say that we as men are just scared of rejection, and I believe that is true to some degree. But more so, I think that we just have trouble saying what we truly feel, or that we are hoping that if we are around you long enough you will start to understand our language, tell us you like us, and then invite us out to dinner (and if you paid too that would be absolutely super).

Whatever the case may be, the best sign to look for to see if he is interested in you, is if, no matter what foolishness he is doing, he is doing it around you.

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DeanW Exactly right - the simplest and easiest signal out there. - More than a year ago
marisa This article is an excellent resource for a lot of people on the site! "Does he like me" and even "does she like me" are really popular questions. Now people can get a great answer, regardless of the specific situation they are in. Highly recommended read - More than a year ago
homer Very well put Genesis5. Something else I have done in the past in addition to all those you said above is that I would do things around her friends or people who I know she would hear from, even when I wasn't around her. - More than a year ago
lainie Thanks... It's so hard to analyze signals.. You're right, he either is or he isn't... What you've said made a lot of sense.. - More than a year ago
nobodygirl Wow! I love this. It's easy for me to tell when guy friends like me, but now I can tell with non-friends. - More than a year ago
hy7y8 BRILLIANT NOW THAT IS WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT! WOW - More than a year ago
iloveyou This article was very well written. I'm going to keep your advice in mind. Thank you. - More than a year ago
mellowmood You made some seriously good points, and I couldn't have read this article at a better time. - More than a year ago
HeyDudes I agree with mellowmood. I really like it. It's preety cool, I'll keep it in mind. Thanxs a bunch! - More than a year ago
deanat78 How right you are!! A lot of girls asked me how to tell if a guy likes them, this really sums it all up - if he's around you, he likes you. Nice and simple. Very well written! - More than a year ago
sparklenshine Great article. Thanks for this. Though does this same logic apply to guys who are your friends? I mean if they were your friend, wouldn't he choose to be around you without having feelings for you? Or am I overthinking the point? haha Thanks again. - More than a year ago
BeautifulDoll392 Thanks. great article! It's true! - More than a year ago
ladysooodivine This article is amazing - simple and straight to the point. Thank you for the advice! This guy I casually know always went to the place I work, says HI to me and nothing more. He then asked me out to dinner by the end of the week ;).. "now I get it!" lol - More than a year ago
blondeblueyes Beautiful,... even if too late haha - More than a year ago
kiamia Well written too, funny :) - More than a year ago
alexvasquez PREACH!!! - More than a year ago
banker Really?! very nice, well written and very informative... thank you!!! =) - More than a year ago
tatilovesu But see I lke my best friends brother so no matter wat I'm always around him now what do I do - More than a year ago
rhoda This article actually does help. my crush lives 2 hours away (we just met online) and had a GREAT date but I did not hear back for 4 days post-date. so I called him and left a message. he called me RIGHT BACK and is finding some excuse to come to my race this weekend - which is right near his home. he also said I could borrow his $$ gear (i said no) but I said i'd take him up on getting me a discount on a new bike this august. but so far, he does not call me. would rather I call him. sorta weird - More than a year ago
blush What if a guy doesn't fit into that? - More than a year ago
azbykker I've seen some pretty wacky things women think are signs that a guy likes them. They tend to over-analyze us. This guy is 100 percent correct regardless of if the guy is an aggressive smooth talker or a quiet/shy type. - More than a year ago
LoveMaeRae What if he's a nice guy, will he still avoid you if he doesn't feel the same way? - More than a year ago
dollyface If he has no feelings for you whatsoever, then would he avoid you completely? I ask because a sorta-ex still invites me to his social gatherings, which I feel is a sign as there shouldn't be any reason for him to feel forced to do so, but what confuses me is that he does not see me very frequently and neither am I ever alone with him. We always meet around other people as I have just mentioned.. help please? - More than a year ago
evette This guy called me during the middle of the night I answertes the phone thinking some one had died or something. It was a co-worker of mine, he wanted to go over some paper work with me when he realized that I heoke me up he stated he would talk to me on Monday. Does mhe like me? - More than a year ago
evette Everything you said in your article is very true very easy to understand I think women make some things in understanding the flirtation thing more difficult to understand than it actually is. - More than a year ago
santaferenita Actually I have the same question of sparklenshine... what happens when you are friends? I mean, it is ussual to hang around with him, but he is behaving different to my other male friends... but then he's the closest to me... hum... what do you think of the friend-love situation? - More than a year ago
Larisa Your article really helped me, Because there is a guy that has been staring at me since the start of the school year and he never says anything to me and whenever he has the chance he usually gets close to me. At homecoming I was waiting to get in with my friend and out of no where he stands right by me and starts looking at me without saying a word. So I am glad there is some insight to this. Thank You : ] - More than a year ago
anon5 That was a great article. so true. I'm having sudden realizations about the past already. thanks for that bit of insight - 11 months ago
tori_rae K so...other day my crush found out I liked him....he was very suprised and seemed satisfied....next day...he was standoffish tho...and he's usually hyper and loud and stuff and he stayed alone and was very quiet and avoided me like no other. now reading your page....i'd say he doesn't know how to tell me he doesn't like me...? idk. what do you think... - 11 months ago
secretshuman Okay, so I have a question (ps. I really think this is a good article)

What if we don't see each other often and don't go to the same school? I mean, we've hung out a few times and we were sort of always around each other then, but we haven't hung out much since then. I thought it was going well, but he's shy, and so am I. Is it completely platonic? I can't tell. I'd really appreciate if you'd respond to this! Thanks. - 11 months ago
heartsonfire Brilliant writing! And this article was SOOOOOO helpful! - 10 months ago
SweetTreat1257 What if he likes the person next ot her. Then she would get the wrong signal and be heart broken. - 10 months ago
Lis4Loca Very true! good article - 10 months ago
ataya Really informative! I like your answer it makes good sense! YAY!!! - 9 months ago
grenn126 Wow this is really simple but extremely helpful THANKS! - 9 months ago
Curious_Man That's very true. Now I'm curious to know what is the equivalent rule for girls in this case? - 8 months ago
xkrisx So if my boyfriend sees me 3-4 times a week, that's interest right? or does it have to be more? - 7 months ago
sweetnsassy23 So if a guy is always passing me by at work or running into me or dropping stuff off to me then does it mean he likes me?And when I'm around he makes stupid dorky jokes and talks loud enough to hear him...its because he likes me? - 7 months ago
LiveLaughLove4eva Wow this is absolutely great! I kind of do the same thing sometimes. - 6 months ago
CerebralCaustic Men can, and do, express their emotions in a perfectly sensible way.

Trouble is that women don't listen... - 6 months ago
Hippy Thanks that made a lot of seance :) - 5 months ago
lovecraze TOTALLLLLLLY TRUE!!!!! - 3 months ago
noricat Seems about right. - 2 months ago
felicia So if a friend insists he likes you a lot, but yet avoids you, claiming fears that 'our friendship could be damaged' etc, does this also mean that that he's just lying and isn't brave enough to say he doesn't like you? - 2 months ago
shaynaPedrowski This helped alot! thank you for the amazing article - A month ago
RelationshipXpert Check if he is showing interest in things you do or talk about. For instance, if you like a kind of music that he likes as well, he might suggest artists you should listen to.

. Look for signs of nervousness like sweaty palms, nervous laughter, deep breaths, fidgeting. These are all signs of an attraction towards you and that he is nervous about making an impression on you.

- A month ago
saraya So true... - 24 days ago
onnymay Ok I have a question. What if the guy lives rather far away but not that far and you have only known him for like 2 months but you like him and you told him and he says he likes you back but all you do is talk on the computer with him everyday and he is very nice and straight forward about things hand we are 16 by the way and every time you ask him to go somewhere with you he says no but claims he likes you but doesn't want to move too fast and that eventually he will like me more than I like hii - 16 days ago
iiCholeric Thanks for this. Now I know that the guy I liked and made-out with doesn't like me. He ignored me a day after me and him were together this one night. And we didn't do anything but make-out by the way. But yes.)': He's confusing me. Ughh, how I wish he can be readable. - 5 days ago
all4not Doesnt this make it all open to your idea of what's "around you"? I have a friend who reads all the emails I send him (daily). In them I let him know I want to see him. He never replies. I've tried everything, from boo hoo,romantic, silly. He never says anything in return. He reads them, just doesn't reply. Where does this fall in the equation? - 5 days ago
 
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