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Signs He Likes You, Signs He Doesn't

 
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It truly doesn't matter how young or old we are, we as men are typically not any good at expressing how we feel. Perhaps it's because our parents don't teach us how (because obviously our fathers don't know because they are men, and our mothers don't know what's really going on in our head because we're men), or maybe it's because everything we see in society says that we can't express ourselves and so we buy into it. It might even be hardwired into our genetics since long ago when we saw something we wanted, we hit it with a club and took it home with us (speaking of which, please don't try this, I wont get into details, but trust me).

Whatever the reason is, it comes as no surprise that women are typically clueless about how we feel about them. I guess because of my ability to write (which let's me communicate with the masses), and because I have not lost the knowledge of how to grunt (which allows me to still communicate with many of my male brothers) I have been sent as an ambassador to try and better explain the male love language.

I have talked to a lot of women that have questions about whether or not the guy that they are interested in is interested in them. "If this guy looks at me every time I pass him", or "What does it mean when a guy...", or perhaps "This guy asked me for my number, but he hasn't called." Honestly I could go on for hours about thousands of particular "does this guy like me" situations. I believe however that whether a guy likes you, or whether he doesn't can be summed up into just one sign (that has thousands of variations).

He is either around you, or he isn't. More than 98% of the time, if a guy likes you, then he is going to be around you. It doesn't matter if he is not talking to you, if he is making fun of you, or punching you in the arm and then running away. One way or another, no matter what he is doing, he is doing it around you, and I guarantee you, this is true for men of all ages.


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This doesn't mean that your interested man is going to be right next to you, or even within a few feet of you. But typically, if he is interested in you, he will continue to find reasons to be close to you, even if that closeness means that he is only able to look at you from across the room.

If you really think about it, you will see exactly what I mean. "What does it mean that every day when I see him in the hall, he looks right at me?" That doesn't matter, what matters is that every day he has found a way to pass you in the hall so that he CAN look at you. "Why does this guy always make fun of me?" Because if he grunted, you would think that he was weird, and he has no other way to tell you that he likes you. "But he never says anything to me!" I'll bet why that is so frustrating to you is because he is always close enough to say something, but he never does. See what I am talking about?

It doesn't matter what he is, or is not doing, the important thing is that he is (or isn't) doing it around you.

Ladies, I also think that it's important that you understand that most men, no matter how old we get, never grow out of this. On the flipside of this coin, no matter what a guy is doing, if he is not doing it around you, typically he has no interest in you. Even if what he is doing are exactly like the examples above, if he is not around you more times than not, he probably doesn't have any feelings for you.

"Every time I start to get close, he goes somewhere else", or "My class is next to his, but I never see him in the hallway", or perhaps a little more extreme "I went back to his apartment the next day, and someone else was living there." Just as we have trouble telling someone we do like them, we have the same trouble telling someone we don't. So, instead, we avoid you.

Some might say that we as men are just scared of rejection, and I believe that is true to some degree. But more so, I think that we just have trouble saying what we truly feel, or that we are hoping that if we are around you long enough you will start to understand our language, tell us you like us, and then invite us out to dinner (and if you paid too that would be absolutely super).

Whatever the case may be, the best sign to look for to see if he is interested in you, is if, no matter what foolishness he is doing, he is doing it around you.



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DeanW Exactly right - the simplest and easiest signal out there. - 8 months ago
marisa This article is an excellent resource for a lot of people on the site! "Does he like me" and even "does she like me" are really popular questions. Now people can get a great answer, regardless of the specific situation they are in. Highly recommended read - 7 months ago
homer Very well put Genesis5. Something else I have done in the past in addition to all those you said above is that I would do things around her friends or people who I know she would hear from, even when I wasn't around her. - 7 months ago
lainie Thanks... It's so hard to analyze signals.. You're right, he either is or he isn't... What you've said made a lot of sense.. - 7 months ago
nobodygirl Wow! I love this. It's easy for me to tell when guy friends like me, but now I can tell with non-friends. - 7 months ago
hy7y8 BRILLIANT NOW THAT IS WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT! WOW - 7 months ago
iloveyou This article was very well written. I'm going to keep your advice in mind. Thank you. - 7 months ago
mellowmood You made some seriously good points, and I couldn't have read this article at a better time. - 7 months ago
HeyDudes I agree with mellowmood. I really like it. It's preety cool, I'll keep it in mind. Thanxs a bunch! - 7 months ago
deanat78 How right you are!! A lot of girls asked me how to tell if a guy likes them, this really sums it all up - if he's around you, he likes you. Nice and simple. Very well written! - 7 months ago
sparklenshine Great article. Thanks for this. Though does this same logic apply to guys who are your friends? I mean if they were your friend, wouldn't he choose to be around you without having feelings for you? Or am I overthinking the point? haha Thanks again. - 6 months ago
BeautifulDoll392 Thanks. great article! It's true! - 5 months ago
ladysooodivine This article is amazing - simple and straight to the point. Thank you for the advice! This guy I casually know always went to the place I work, says HI to me and nothing more. He then asked me out to dinner by the end of the week ;).. "now I get it!" lol - 5 months ago
blondeblueyes Beautiful,... even if too late haha - 5 months ago
kiamia Well written too, funny :) - 5 months ago
alexvasquez PREACH!!! - 5 months ago
banker Really?! very nice, well written and very informative... thank you!!! =) - 4 months ago
tatilovesu But see I lke my best friends brother so no matter wat I'm always around him now what do I do - 3 months ago
rhoda This article actually does help. my crush lives 2 hours away (we just met online) and had a GREAT date but I did not hear back for 4 days post-date. so I called him and left a message. he called me RIGHT BACK and is finding some excuse to come to my race this weekend - which is right near his home. he also said I could borrow his $$ gear (i said no) but I said i'd take him up on getting me a discount on a new bike this august. but so far, he does not call me. would rather I call him. sorta weird - 2 months ago
blush What if a guy doesn't fit into that? - 2 months ago
 
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