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What happened to MY life?

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Posted 4 months ago

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I'm all cool and collect with the girl I just met. We're taking it slow and everything is going according to plan. Then we become exclusive and SUDDENLY I'M LOST! I start to open up and take things faster. I'm always thinking about her and starting to picture my life with her. I send her a text message and I don't get a response. I start to have anxiety. I start to believe she isn't interested anymore. What's going on? What have I done wrong? I know I shouldn't be thinking constantly about her but I can't stop. It's killing me. She has become the center of my life...

...My life *take a deep breathe* My life is gone. It is important no more. Why? Why is it that this woman has become so important to me in such a small amount of time? She seems like she is losing interest but, is she? or is she still moving at that slow pace that we started with. I have lost myself. Nothing is important to me any longer except my relationship with her and that only seems to be getting worse...

*take a step back* What has been going on here? She is just going about her day. She is just doing things that are important in her life. Then why is this bothering me so much. What has happened? I have lost focus. Work is not important. Family is not important. The only thing I have been focusing on is her...

That is it. That is my problem. I've given up on my own life. I need to begin to FOCUS ON ME, because MY LIFE IS IMPORTANT! I need to relieve myself of this anxiety. I need to release my grasp that is suffocating her.

Did I pay those bills today? Did I clean my car? I need to laundry. I'm going to clean the sink and the bathroom. I need to call my family and friends. I need to make plans for the future. My schedule is busy again. I have been focusing on my life. My mind has been clear the anxiety has gone. Then...

*ring ring* The phone I pick it up. It's her!
"Hey what's up?"
"Nothing I was just calling to find out if you wanted to hang out?"
"Yeah I think I have some time to"
"Me too"
"Should I pick you up?"
"Sure, I'll be ready"

Life is better. My life is back on track. I am happier and so is she.

The fact that I have focused on my own life has made me a happier person.

Focus on yourself first and everything else will fall into place.

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Jonathan

Good advice. - 4 months ago

glowgirl3

Awesome article!! Women go throught this same thought process and it's nice to hear that men do as well. - 3 months ago

lainie

Wonderful wonderful article... suffice to say, been there done that on the anxiety blues.. and it helps to know that we are not alone on this crazy merry-go-round suckfest.. - 2 months ago

Hunterboyz

Been there, and done that. I just didn't catch myself like you did.
I remember that feeling. Just remembering how we were so in sync with each other. Then she was away, and I missed her so much that I'd do anything to make her happy from where I was, and I became needy, but she still loved me.
After school took her away from me, work took me away from her. We agreed to not be together. I'm with another that I love greatly, my heart will always be with her.

Sincerely,
A Loving Black Man - 2 months ago

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