So I've been trying to get over my girlfriend who recently broke up with me/try to get back together with her at some point in time? There are a lot of factors that made this breakup so complicated. I need straight answers because all my advice I've heard have been from mutual friends so of course they're going to be nice towards me and her. By the way, I'm 18 and she's 19. We both go to the same college and live very close to each other at college, not at our actual homes, and our friends places at college and we see each other a lot.
Things you should know: - She broke up with her last boyfriend after she and I had been flirting for about a month first year of college. - She met this 25 year old guy, we'll pretend his name is Jim, near the end of summer and now they're "best friends." - They've been to movies together, she's hung out at his house until midnight, and they text each other all the time. - Around the same time she became friends with Jim, she started becoming less interested in our conversations but claimed it was because she was tired from her volunteer job.
So what happened was that one night I had a talk with her. I wanted there to be communication between us because I knew that's what's needed in order for there to be a strong relationship. I decided to be honest with my feelings and asked her if there was anything going on between her and Jim. She said no and proceeded to become a little angered at the fact I didn't trust her 100%. She said she needed some time and space so I did so. 3 days later we went on a walk and had a talk about how I wasn't being her friend anymore and that it was affecting our relationship. She even went to ask if I wanted it "to be a 1 person relationship" because she didn't have that spark anymore whenever she saw me. So we broke up that day but she said that she still loved me and whatnot.
I tried not to see her and tried to move on but it's hard seeing as how we lived very close to each other and saw each other everyday unavoidably. 2 days after the breakup, we were at our friends house hanging out when suddenly my ex leaves and comes back with Jim. She then proceeds to flirt with him occasionally throughout the night in front of me. Eventually I couldn't take it and said that I wasn't feeling well and went back to my house. Apparently he was invited over for the weekend to hang out with her and throughout the weekend, anytime I hung out with our mutual friends when they were around, I'd see her flirting with him.
She was my first serious relationship and I really miss her as my girlfriend. I know she wants to be friends still, but how can I even start to rebuild that friendship with her when all I see right now is her laughing it up with Jim and avoiding having to talk to me, let alone our friends even.
That's karma for you. You stole her from another guy, now another guy has stolen her from you. Not that she seems to be much of a catch anyway... It's probably a game she's been playing long before you met her, I can see her being one of those girls that went out with everyone in seventh grade for at least a /day/... She seems fickle, and undecided. I would suggest that you try and find someone more level-headed, and perhaps someone who doesn't text? Cause really, texting just kills actual conversation, and kills social skills. If you really need a close conversation to get closer to someone, than be wary of girls who are constantly at their phones.
okay, well she doesn't deserve you. you seen like a really sweet guy, and she sounds like a flirt. && since it was your first serious relationship then of course your goingot miss her. but you should know someone that doesn mean things to you obviously doesn't truly care. i;m sorry this happened to you.,
I know this sucks but you gotta hear it...she is a bitch. She is a flirt and always will be, you deserve better and you need to forget about her, she sound like a slut to me...sorry, you asked me to be straightforward
i'm so sorry man, this must be really painful to you, I kinda know this feeling. the other girls are right, she is... well, I wouldn't say a bitch, but let's say she likes to flirt and feel that a guy is attracted to her and she takes things way too lightly, she just wants to have fun and when something gets a little too serious then she breaks it off. my last girlfriend was like this and the only thing you can do is trust you were a great boyfriend and you did the best you could, so DO NOT think you're worth any less than this Jim guy. He's just another victim and your girlfriend loved you for who you are so you're probably a great boyfriend. You will be able to be a great boyfriend for another girl that will be more worth it.
Also, I have no idea how you can change that, but you NEED to cut contacts with her. Don't see her all the time, don't hang out with the same friends etc. I know that because of your situations that's what's happening, but it is a terrible situation, you're gonna have to find a solution because no matter how well you can move on, seeing her will just bring back memories. It's always the case. I've moved on from my last girlfriend and it was easier than usual because she was a little like your ex, so I understood that I needed to find a better girl, but still, I would HATE to see her with her boyfriend. We are on the same campus and I am careful to look around to make sure she's not there. If you ever see her without that Jim or another guy, then it will probably be okay, but either don't stop to talk to her or just say hi.
In order to move on you first need to understand how she is and why it really is good for you that you move on to another girl, and you need not to see her.
sounds like she has a habit of dumping guys for new ones. I wouldn't be surprised if she dumps this guy for someone in a few months. It hurts more because she was you first serious relationship, but eventually you'll get over her. for the time being just give yourself some space and when you're ready you'll start looking for someone new.
You know. The more I think about it, which I know I shouldn't in the first place, the more I feel like you're exactly right. A month or so before she broke up with her last boyfriend, she was already flirting with me so that she'd have someone there for her when she finally broke up. Same with me. A month before she broke up with me, she already had him twirled around her finger and was probably just waiting to find a way to break it to me. - 2 months ago
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