Alright so I've been dumped after going with this girl for about 3 1/2 years. I've been working on a few personal flaws while we were going out but she says she doesn't feel that I should have to change for her. We discussed about a few things but she never went into how she really felt about some of the situations. From what I gather the breaking point was when I was stressing out about getting into a college (got into junior college around when we met and applied to a private university just recently) I blew up at her after she said she was tired of hearing about it.
After the breakup I sent her an email thanking her for everything she did for me in our relationship and I hope I had a positive influence on her. She then sent back an email listing out what she felt was wrong in our relationship and why we couldn't go back. I then sent her an email saying I understand. I also added a warning for her (nothing malicious). She has an STD and I knew about it before we got together (thought she was worth it). We always used protection but I eventually got it. I found out about it around the time we got into our argument (don't know if it contributed to me blowing up at her). I kept it from her but figured that if she was to go with another guy she shouldn't think that because she didn't think I got it, some other guy wouldn't either. I didn't do this to make her feel guilty (I'm serious).
So she texted me the next day asking why I didn't tell her and said it made a big difference. She said I still hurt her but she didn't know. I don't want her to get back with me because she feels sorry for me. She said she couldn't talk to me anymore about this and that she felt like shit. She said she needs space and time to think about stuff. I've been giving her space but just wanted to know what other people think.
Forget her. You are making strides to improve yourself. The problem is that she believes too strongly in her perfection and feels you are the cause of all her sorrow. Another case of "Men Are Trash and Women are Goddesses" deal here. You wasted too much of your life on her, she's not going to change.
Find someone else. She can take all the space she wants. By herself. She can to all the thinking she wants, it's bad thinking anyway. Dude, plenty of women with their head on straight for you to pickup out there.
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