How do you usually feel after breakups, and what affects that?

[Rangers]

I've had mixed reactions to breakups. One in which I recognized was basically over anyways, I felt nothing. I felt angry and sad when infidelity occurred, but my last one, I feel relieved.

It was hardly a relationship, just 18 days of lots of talking and all. But her need for attention became insatiable, I spent hours a day talking and it was never enough. She blew my phone the hell up when I went to make soup and tend to my dogs for 10 minutes.

I go to the bathroom, I come back to several missed calls and accusations that I cheated. No matter how much time i spent talking to her, the next day, she always wanted even more time commitment and on video calls, she got mad when I tried to multi task.

Her constant needs for reassurance, short fuse and a relationship in which she'd already brought up marriage several times, her need for attention and validation being exhausting, and it felt like being suffocated.

I told her over and over I needed space, she'd send 10 messages within a minute of me saying it. All this to say I am happy she is out of my life, she was very toxic and controlling, and I won't be with someone who doesn't even respect me enough to stop pestering me every 2 seconds.

She got me out of my comfort zone with cooking, that's the best thing I got from it. I ended it with her, brushing off her angry closing remarks. I'll find someone else, it's okay.

I hope the next woman I form a connection with will be more mature and reasonable. How do you usually feel after breakups and why?

I feel sad

I feel relieved

[Anonymous]

Relieved.

Don't get me wrong, on some level I'm mourning it. But I'll do everything within my power to save a relationship. Hell, I'll do everything within my power to make sure it doesn't get to that point. But when it ends, it has to. On this site people always ask questions like, "how many chances do you give someone" (as in taking them back). And I always respond the same, "1 chance." I never take someone back. And they may sound harsh, but it's not. As I said, "if it ended, it had to". They are still the same person, so am I. What would be different? If it didn't work before it won't work now. I don't want to do that to her, and I don't want to do that to myself. I always want to end on good terms with everyone I date. And this is why. I never stop loving or caring about anyone. If you date me, you take a peace of my heart with you. You can only lose so much of your heart before it stops functioning. Get it?

[NathanDavis]

bittersweet... it was always a mutual and well thought decision/choice based on the circumstances, but it was for the best and better, and for the both of us too

so... yeah, bittersweet

[Rangers]

Sometimes we just need to accept that some relationships just aren't meant to be. Some people just can't be together

[NathanDavis]

some can be together... but not continue together through the same exact path.. that's also a thing

[Abbycado]

I’ve only had one. It was mutual and necessary. I was sad. I waited over a year to even contemplated dating.

I wasn’t going to make the same mistake and date in high school a second time just to have to break up if we didn’t go to the same college.

[bobalife]

Each break up is different… but mostly sad and numb.
Last ex boyfriend was a very depressing period. Slightly angry and first time feeling lonely.
One other ex boyfriend, I think I felt more relief since I was already checked out.

[Anonymous]

First relationship ship. Didn't really care. It was mutual. Nice girl. Hope she's doing well.

I didn't realize how abusive my second relationship was until we broke up. I felt like myself again after.

I'd be sad if my current girlfriend broke up with me, but as of now, I haven't had a serious heartbreak. Growing apart from friends is the worst thing I've experienced.

[sage2021]

I miss them and listening to music and hearing certain songs makes missing them even worse.😔

[Godihateyou]

I don't feel anything. I'm a sociopath. Our time came to an end when your benefit was less than your upkeep.

[Anonymous]

I never had a breakup, or a relationship, all I had were unrequited loves, and I feel really sad about it.

[Sweetdreams1950]

Depressed and heartbroken.

[christy1qw]

Sad emotion more than relieved