Is OK to ask girl out via text message or IM?

Yeah totally ask her! It can be really awkward in person, through text you can ask someone out without the awkwardness. When you do meet up you can concerntrate on having fun! If she rejects you, it's not so awkward either! Texting rules! :)

that's sweet that you're thinking about how comfortable she'd be rejecting you, if she were to do that, via phone call. BUT if you call her, and she doesn't want to, then she'll just have to do it. It's best to call. Never text and ask someone out, not personal enough. IM, meh, don't try that one either; again, not personal enough. If she knows that you're really shy and you actually call, you're gonna win a lot of points. Go for it, if you fumble or stutter or whatever, it's okay because she'll feel like you're really making an effort and you MUST like her AND the cuteness factor might increase - it would for me:)

ok but not ok... I'd rather be asked in person... whether she says yes or no. at least she knows you're not a chicken and you never know it might change her perception of you.

just grow a pair and call her. getting asked out via text message is kinda lame and she might think its a joke. do it in person or over the phone so she can see your sincerity and nervousness. :)

I think that's not a very good idea. The best way to always do it is in person. To show that you really are interested in her. Also by doing it in person you can see her body language and her facial expressions. I think it's just so much better that way. And the truth is if she don't want to go out with you she'd reject you no matter what method you use. And remember that a girl will always love a confident guy, so if you really want to talk to her on the phone call her up. Good luck! :)

Please don't text her. It's a bad idea. In person is best, but I understand what you mean in your update. In that case, call her at a time when you know she can't pick up her phone (or maybe if she turns it off at night, call then), and leave a message. But please don't text her. That's like asking someone out in an IM. D:

I mean you COULD, but, would she prefer that, no. This happened to my friend 2 weeks ago, and to be honest I thought it was weird, but it seems to be the norm these days. If I've been talking to a guy only thru texts, I would find it odd he wasn't calling me. So send her a text today and in the midst of convo tell her your going to call her later tonight before bed. That's usually the perfect time because the hussle and bussle of the day is over. Don't be shy either! You've talked in person so the worst is over :) Good Luck!

I had a guy ask me out last week via text and it was not charming or special in any way. At least have the guts to pick up the phone, call her, and ask her out! C'mon dude.

if you absolutly can't call then via text message but don't hope she responds right away, you're still better off calling but it seems like guys don't do that anymore

It's 'ok' if that's all you feel comfortable with but honestly, it will be awkward when you do see her in person and at least you'll both be able to clearly convey your meaning if you can hear her voice or see her face when you are talking.

No, becuase honestly it will be awkward when you do see her. Just do it in real life, that's the safest bet. Don't be a pansy.

Yes, but your success rate climbs when she's able to laugh and chat with you on the phone. But if you're so insecure that you know you'll screw it up, then text her... at least you're doing SOMETHING.

Just don't make it a dramatic Date request... that might scare her away.

Instead, after the next good text message (something that made you laugh) text her this,
"Ha! Hey, I'm heading to that new dessert place downtown this week, wanna join me for 30 minutes of chocolate and tea?! I'm thinking Wednesday."

If possible offer to pick her up too. This puts you in the "driver's seat" and unconsciously invites her to follow your leadership (helps build attraction.)

What girl will say no to chocolate?

Good luck!

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