Girls: Does weight affect your choice on dating a guy?

Question

if he was cute, would you date him if he was overweight?

4u2nv · Accepted Answer

It all depends. If he was obese, then probably not. But if you define the term "overweight", then yes I would. Overweight is when they aren't substantially large.

I sort of like guys who are like me, athletic. I'm a fairly good weight with a big a** haha, like a black booty as some guys call it. But despite that, I am in good shape and I like to keep in shape. So other guys who like to keep in shape, attract me, even if they are overweight.

Also I have this thing where I love to pick up guys haha... well I'm really strong and my boyfriend (ex now) weighed 230something and I could pick him up. He was really tall though (6'8). So if I couldn't pick a guy up, Idk, maybe. But it's just something I like doing haha.

If he has a great personality (really funny and not a jerk), then of course I'd date him if he was cute! I like a guy to be strong though, so if he's muscular and you can see some of his definition, then yeah! I like a guy to be able to pick me up easily also. If he cannot keep up with my daily activities and slows me down, I don't think I'd date him. I like to go out and do fun stuff that involves moving, well for example: if I am at the mall, and I have to keep stopping for him to catch up with my walking. I guess I wouldn't like that haha.

trendigirl · Accepted Answer

Think about it. Would you date a girl that was cute even if she was overweight? Some guys wouldn't mind, but others would. From our perspective, we may date the guy if we didn't mind a guy with more meat on him. If the guy is really cute or has a nice smile, smart/sweet, then those features might overpower his weight. Plus his confidence can't be low, it will reflect off on the girls, and they will have no attraction towards him. So be yourself, and don't think that someones weight can get in the way (or weigh! lol) of finding that girl. Honestly, it's not a big turn-off for me and many others, but girls are all different, and we all have different turn-offs.

BrettH · Accepted Answer

im overwheight and I am atracted to larger women. but I have a question. does the wheight of the guy or the build of him decied if he's overwheight or obease?

like a guy my height my wheight and he has more in the middle as compaired to me where its all over equaly thru my body?

Nosperato · Accepted Answer

A guy does have to show that he cares for himself and being fat is a clear personality weakness. Back home where I come from nobody is fat since they can't afford any food so don't be telling me being fat is naturally inborn in your body structure or something.

Evolution86 · Answer

Depends on a couple of things.  One being who the guy is and what his life style is.  If he only plays video games and drinks all the time, then I would have a problem with extra weight, because he brought it on himself.  Two being the guy himself.  If he works out and is physically fit, whether he's lean and lanky or built, then a little extra weight isn't a bad thing, because he's healthy.  And third being whether or not he's comfortable with his weight.  If he's self-conscious about it, then it can be a problem for me.  A little confidence in yourself goes a long way.

what-do-guys-want · Answer

i was watching the biggest loser the other night, and ther is this guy on there who weighs like 140kgs! but he such a cute face, and you can definitely see that he will be gorgeous when he loses weight. if they had a good smile, good heart, made me laugh, then I would have no problems with it. I probly wouldn't be able to handle an obese guy who can't walk and sweats constantly, but cuddly is A-OK! :P haha.. I love a guy whos bigger then me anyway.. (prefrubly muscely, but wiht a little bit of fat is all good)

ButterflyXkisses · Answer

My ex boyfriend was overweight. He was kind of short, too, maybe about 2 or 3 inches taller than me (I'm 5'1" btw) but he was still awesome. I don't really care about weight until it gets just too much. Chubby=cute. But not...too fat. That sounds mean, ohmg now I feel shallow. But it's true. But I hate skinny guys. They have no ass. No I don't hate them actually, cuhs I guess I'd probably date one if I liked him, but skiny is just...they're so small, you know? ahah. See, now I feel shallow again. Sheesh.  =]

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on how overweight he is. I have several pounds to lose myself so I don't expect a male model. I can find an overweight guy attractive, it just depends on how he carries it and the actual guy.

He cannot be obese

He must wear clothes that flatter him

He must live a somewhat healthy lifestyle. For example if he sits at home watching TV and eating and basically being a couch potato, I wouldn't find that attractive...but if he likes to go out, enjoy himself and has a fun life I would. He shouldn't just NOT care about his health and constantly be eating the worst foods, so I guess he would have to be actively working at him improving his weight similar to me.

He must also have the qualities I would like in any guy (personality, sense of humor, attitude)

SaucieMaMa · Answer

ofcourse! I personally like my men to be a bit overweight. I don't know why, but I do. I don't like the thin weak men, I like a strong man that can be a cuddle bear and a protective gorilla all in one!

And I usually judge if I like someone on chemistry and personality, if we have that, size weight, looks, nothing matters.

Similipoulette · Answer

I don't mind overweight as long as the guy still ahs an healthy lifestyle. My best friend is overweight, but he plays football three times a week, he eats a lot but never junk food, he's just a big guy, and he's the nicest guy I've ever met. He's got a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend but if we were both single I would not mind dating him.

pumba22 · Answer

i wouldn't date a overweight guy. I know it sounds judgmental, but my guy has to be atheltic/fit. I am very athletic myself, and I want my guy to have the same quality. I like the idea of guys being built, and weight lifting. if he was overweight due to muscle tone that's great, but if he is overweight and chunky/fat...nahh.    muscle is very goood! =D

cheerangelcharity · Answer

no because I'm pretty small myself [not super skinny but short and slim with some curves.]  I'm more attracted to slim guys and think they're cuter just cause of their body and even like hugging them but am hesitant to hug a big guy.  I'm probably going to get some flack over this, but it's just my personal opinion esp. cause, like I said, I'm pretty small myself.

timberlake · Answer

yeah, I definitely would. from your icon, you're a really cute guy. you look like you give awesome hugs :) lol I wouldn't mind the weight at all. you're just as manly as a guy with a six pack to me. treat me like a real man and love me just as unconditionally, and I'm fine with you. I think women have an easier time accepting overweight men than men have with accepting overweight women.

KikiSunshine · Answer

I've liked heavier guys and found them just as attractive as any other guy at an "average" weight. Obviously if the guy is very unhealthy in terms of weight then that would be an issue. Personality is what seals the deal for me anyway, but I have definitely found some heavier guys attractive.

B4286 · Answer

I'm actually not that attracted to skinny guys. I prefer guys that have a little extra padding. But if he was overweight to the point of it being a major risk to his health, I don't know if I'd be ok with him unless he was trying to lower his weight so he could stay healthy.

hayfa · Answer

I wouldn't mind as long as I found him attractive, and not being megafit physically doesn't really matter I think bcause if there's some1 who is mega fit but doesn't hav all the rest of the important qualities in him to hold a solid relationship then why would I wana b with him over some1 who may not be so fit physically but has all the rest of the important qualities in him to make our relationship work and build into something beautiful

yoooitshallie · Answer

a lot of girls actually like guys who are a little overweight because it makes them feel skinnier and more feminine.   A lot of girls I know like bigger guys because they say they're like big teddy bears, and also, if the guy's bigger, they feel like he can wrap them in his arms and protect them.

fartlard · Answer

i think cute and overweight are mutually exclusive.

personally, I want a guy who has control over his life, and that means his health and appearance too. if you can't even keep that under control, how are you supposed to be strong man in the relationship.

there are about a bazillion guys out there who are in control of their appearance and health, so why would I settle for someone who isn't?

what-do-guys-want · Answer

i love solid guys. not fat or obese, bbut solid.

where they is muscle definition and maybe alittle fat to make him that much bigger.

i have always loved bigger guys, but have always atracted sticcks.

i don't mind, but my sexual desire would be a solid man...

mmmmm yes..

rugbybabe66 · Answer

I tend to go for bigger guys so I may be slightly biased when I say this but I do not think weight is a huge account when finding a boyfriend. Don't get me wrong people do take looks into a factor but you have to wake up to the person everyday but I would rather have someone who makes me laugh or gives me the butterflies than someone who I have to fight for the mirror with in the morning. I like meat on my man.

thatssotera · Answer

It really truly doesn't matter when all is said and done. I like a guy to take care of himself, which includes eating right and exercise, but that is no reason to not love somebody. I have had overweight boyfriends. Weight is not static: it can be fixed over time. This is coming from somebody who is 97lbs, with clothes on.

firefightergurlr52 · Answer

i mean it when I say that its all about personality... I'm not exactly a super model myself... but it is all in the personality. you could be the best lookin guy with the best body in the world... but if you can't hold a conversation with me or treat me like I deserve to be treated.. thers nothing there anyway! so yes I would date a guy who was on the heavier side!

Lovely-Eyes · Answer

i don't mean to sound cliché, but if the guy had a great personality and was cute, I wouldn't mind if he was overweight. I have seen so many cute thin guys that were just so full of themselves. And I am not saying that all thin guys are like that, but I just go for the personality.

Hope this helps!

= )

sammyangel9991 · Answer

I have fallen for a bigger guy but it was because he had amazing eyes and a pretty smile and a great personallity. And he was also athletic. Guys that are only average looking or weird looking and bigger are not very attractive to me. If he is bigger, he can get away with it if his face and personality are amazing.

elvarain · Answer

No, sorry but what matters is what his father looks like. Yeah its shallow but what your father looks like the son will also look like.

Doesn't mean that if your fluffy I won't look, but overweight please take care of yourself. I you can't take care of and respect your own body then why should you even try to take of me.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, overweight isn't a problem but definitely not obese.

I know it isn't easy to loose weight , I totally understand, but in attraction theory these things take a back seat.

My date shouldn't be extra good looking but should be personable.

Tell me would you like to date a girl who is ballooned, doesn't groom well ?

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know about most girls, but for weight doesn't matter.  What matters is how you treat her.  If you treat her with respect and show your true self, then she'll probably see that you have more charm.  Because if you notice, guys/ girls that are beautiful/handsome, but don't have a good personality, end up having short relationships, but people who are normal looking and have a good personality, usually end up having long term relationships and maybe even getting married.  So just be a nice person and show her your charms...

Anonymous · Answer

I would.  I have a few pounds too so I'm not expecting a male model.  But it depends how much overweight we are talking.  Chubby to chunky, I can do that.   40 lbs overweight to obese is not a good look.  Taller guys can carry weight better than shorter ones.  Weight doesn't matter so much, it's only when he gets seriously overweight when it starts making him less attractive.  He has to be confident and overall look good though.

gravygirl · Answer

I'd kind of like to say that I'd be okay with dating an overweight guy, but it's probably not true.  I've never been attracted to one at all.  Between the two extremes, I much prefer skinny.

lilac90 · Answer

there is also more to someone than just their weight, so if they won me over by other things such as humour then if I liked him I would date him, I wouldn't care about the weight.

Its the whole package that makes me want someone.

Merman · Answer

This is one of those "in theory" questions.  "*In theory*, would you date an overweight guy?" And most girls think, "I wouldn't rule it out..."  But there's a huge gap between theory and practice.

theadventure · Answer

I won't date an overweight guy. They tend to be insecure and I don't need a guy who always needs me to tell him how great he is, and also, if he was insecure then he would feel the need to keep tabs on me all the time to make sure I wasn't with any other guy. And that's not my thing, I like to be out by myself sometimes. Also, my guy needs to be able to pick me up and carry me around (: He needs to be in good physical condition also, so I have motivation to constantly help keep me in line(:

scarlett19 · Answer

it depends how overweight and if that is a sign of laziness/lack of motivation and energy or not. if he is a muscular kind of heavy or not too much overweight of course that's fine. if ur asking about yourself, I can see from your pic that you look muscular and healthy. you have an attractive body type.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't mean to sound shallow but for me personally I don't think I'd go for somebody overweight. I work so hard to maintain a healthy lifestyle and stay fit, I expect the person I'm with to do the same. That's just me.

Reeses-pieces777 · Answer

i wouldn't mind honestly I'm not shallow

however

i'm fit and I do work out

i would encourage him to also take care of his health for his own good. I am disciplined myself in terms of health so I would like it that my boyfriend also recognizes this

jess7 · Answer

for me what truly matters are the feelings that the guy had for me... I like guys that make me laugh and that is enough for me.  I think if he was overweight it would not bother me and specially if he's cute that is fine.. : )

suesnagglepuss · Answer

Yeah - I really don't like skinny guys!  But that said... I do think there is a limit of being too big.  Personality and an ability to make me laugh are way more important to me than body size/shape!

SoMeThInGtOsAy · Answer

to me weight isn't the deal breaker. the guy can't be a jerk tho and if he is overweight he can't be making fun of or putting down overweight girls. I think that's the worst. my guy can't be horribly obese and he needs some muscle. In my opinion guys discriminate against overweight girls more than girls do to guys...

ILoveCefalu · Answer

Umm, yeah, a person's weight has to do with how attractive I view them. There's a general ball park of what I like- I wouldn't count a guy out for his weight, but if you're like 600 pounds, then we have to be really compatible personality wise.

ivarei · Answer

i like a healthy medium.  but initially I might be put off by a bit of extra weight, but if he had a fantastic personality, weight wouldn't stop me from falling for him.

funky909 · Answer

i think its a first impression matter so if she give him a chance to show how funny and cute and sexy he is, she won't mind dating him

pastelcolors · Answer

nope. how can we expect guys to accept us with a few extra pounds if we can't accept them that way too?

fivecolours · Answer

I love guys who are a bit overweight or big build, I'm not attracted to guys who are skinny. Average is okay, but I'd prefer a guy who was a little bigger

queenb2000 · Answer

maaaaan I had a crush on a guy in high school and he was cuuuute AND 200 plus pounds :)  However, I admire a guy that can keep his weight under control. To me, it shows he has self discipline.

gonaners16 · Answer

Not if he was a lot overweight.  Fat guys are not really cute to me. . . If they are big because of muscle, sure.  I like the tall and skinny/athletic guys =)

mybabiikisses · Answer

Well it kinda deepends! How cute lolz well for me I would go for the guy with the bodii well built lolz but weight shouldnt have nothin to do with how you look at a guy it depends on how he treats u...so its up to the grl but if she's a true grl it shouldnt realli mater

katiegal · Answer

Of course,i like "chubby" guys,mmm they are soo sexy!really...weight does not matter,look does,but weight no.

Anonymous · Answer

it depends.  there are some guys that I find attractive with a little extra weight on them.  but if you're badly over weight, then no.  Though, it does depend on personality for me, the whole sex thing doesn't really matter to me all the much.

micmac76 · Answer

Most of the men I have dated are kinda chunky.  I love to feel big strong arms around me.  Also, men that are bigger seem to have more power in bed.  I love it when I am "man handled".  I don't think a thin guy could do that as easy!

girlsguys88 · Answer

for me yes, but for a lot of girls, hot cute whatever, no not at all. i think most girls would prefer tall and overweight versus shortish

flukedflautist · Answer

I would rather have a chunky guy over a skinny guy anytime. But then again, I'm attracted to the personality of a man than his looks.

2innocentq · Answer

yea I still would.wut matters the most is wut kinda guy he is.if she won't date you just cus ur overweight,then she don't deserve u.

riseandshine · Answer

I would only date an overweight guy if he was trying to change his lifestlye so he could be healthy. If he lived an unhealthy lifestlye NO

Takkunlee · Answer

Not unless he was working on losing it. I keep myself in shape so I want someone who wants to keep themselves in shape as well.

jamers2008 · Answer

i actually perfer those kinda of guys. skinny guys are gross and I always feel like I would break them if I hugged them to tight or something. haha

Mr_is_fine · Answer

so which women on here are okay with a guy having man breasts? sexy aren't they...

paigexhottness · Answer

Yes. I'm not concerned about a guy's weight, I'm more focus on how he treats me.

WisteriaStars · Answer

depends on how much over weight... I would date you (assuming the question is about your weight)

sweet17 · Answer

I wouldn't mind if he had a great personality. Like if he was cute, funny, and sweet. No, if he was all those things, I totally wouln't mind!

Teebiri · Answer

I actually don't like thin guys. I don't rly go for HUGE men but I want some meat on my baby :]

thumbelinasplace01 · Answer

Yes! But if he was obese than no, overweight yes, obese no.

Anonymous · Answer

Women are just making all sorts of excuses.

have it be about the guys' health

Or if he can defend himself and the woman he loves.

All it is just more BULLSHIT men have to go thru with women

and all the games women play

hearts_TI · Answer

It all depend how over weight. I don't really like guys that are really skinny honestly.

AgentX · Answer

Probably.  As long as he is not obese, I would definitely date him if he is a sincere and caring person.  I also tend to have a thing for chubbier guys, like Kevin James.  Absolutely adorable.  A lot of muscles is a turn-off for me, personally.

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