Why do guys prefer controlling/bossy girlfriends?

To answer your question.. first consider that men and women are the same animal; human.. then ask yourself.. "do women ever flirt with/date men they don't feel strongly about; do to insecurities?" do you know any women like this? disgusting isn't it? makes you feel ashamed to be associated with the same gender.. Well.. there are plenty of men out there who would do the same exact thing.. it's less about what they're interested in.. and more about what their insecurities and self-esteem need..

For women.. maybe they have a ton of unresolved daddy issues.. maybe they have a history of abusive @sshole boyfriends.. and even though they are ATTRACTED to the same type of man.. they flirt with and date a guy they know is weak.. because they like the feeling of being in control.. being able to walk all over someone and get their way.. they enjoy having power over s/o.. even if he cares about her and loves her.. because it's something she never got to feel and she NEEDS to feel that way with s/o..

For men.. it's not so simple.. I could write a book on why different men date different women and for very different reasons.. and the rarest reason of them all is because they are both attracted to and interested in her..

To transition from the female example onto men.. let's start with the @sshole father complex.. the male version of daddy issues.. guy grows up with a controlling father.. one who beats him.. tells him what to do.. and is always right.. which means the guy is always wrong.. in his relationships.. he seeks the control and power over someone he never had.. these men actively look for caring/loving/sweet girls they can walk all over.. honesty & respect are seen as weakness that can be exploited

Let's move on to masculine identity and social validation.. where a boy convinces himself that his self-worth and number of women he has had sex with are one in the same.. such guys rarely date.. but when they do.. they have a habit of going after emotionally unstable women.. the unconscious attraction they feel towards these women is due to knowing they will have a bulletproof excuse to end the relationship; getting involved with the exit strategy in mind

Mr. stereotypes.. a guy that's convinced himself that women are not interested or not as interested in sex as he is.. so he will date any woman that will have sex with him.. because he sees women who don't have sex with him as women who are just either not interested in him.. or not interested in sex.. needless to say.. this guy will probably settle down with the first girl who doesn't cheat on him.. and then catch her with his best friend after the wedding..

Mr. low self-esteem.. ever wonder how the lowest filth on earth can be married to such a wonderful guy.. and how all the great girls are single and lonely? look no further.. this guy feels that he is ugly, worthless and a loser, unless he has a woman in his life.. he will basically date ANYTHING that is female and will pay attentiont o him.. added bonus point if she has sex with him too.. that might just be enough for him to propose and spend the rest of his life being her workhorse

Mr. insecure.. these guys are fairly simple.. he feels his penis isn't big enough.. he isn't successful enough.. he isn't good-looking enough.. etc.. all of a sudden.. he finds a woman who tells him and makes him feel that he IS.. that's it.. he's sold.. no matter how she looks.. no matter what kind of person she is.. or what she's doing with her life.. for as long as she's comforting his insecurities.. he's deeply in love with her..

Mr. I'm too afraid to talk to girls.. this one is also fairly simple.. guess who the ONLY girls he up with are? that's right you cleaver devil.. if he doesn't talk to girls.. and he's not lonely.. then that means the girls talked to him.. needless to say.. these guys only date girls who approach them first..

Mr. I'm tired of female bullsh*t.. these guys are tired of dealing with the natural human insecurities most women have.. and have zero tolerance for hard-to-get acts, playing games, or testing for reactions.. this of course disqualifies 99.99999% of women.. which means.. nearly all the relationships he enters are ones he sees no real future with.. because he's already labeled those women as dishonest, emotionally unstable, selfish and manipulative..

Mr. my mother was a loser.. this guy's mother was a loser.. she probably had no job.. was always in debt.. couldn't control her spending.. and if it wasn't for s/o taking care of her.. she probably couple have the lifestyle she had, much less survive, on her own.. As a result.. this guy is trying to find the same useless human paracite he will feel sorry for and want to help, save, and take care of for the rest of his life.. the way to his heart is by being a total loser & waste of life..

Mr. desperate.. he believes that no woman would ever date him.. he feels he has nothing to offer.. his looks, penis, sexual performance, personality and lifestyle (aka. money) are average at best.. he's usually strongly attracted to bratty, demanding, spoiled princess types.. (aka. the kind of women other men are repulsed by).. their sense of entitlement turn him on.. when she says "I expect the man to pay on the first date!" it might just cause him to blow his load in his pants..

Mr. penis.. this guy's brain is located just below his waist.. while other men chase after girls with stupid qualities like personality, intelligence, honesty, respect, education, career, etc.. he is busy picking up what he considers treasures left behind by all the other stupid men.. Mr. penis will eventually knock up a useless paracitic luxury item that looks hot at the time.. and start to see why other guys ignored what he thought was a trease.. as she gets older and more demanding..

Mr. asexual/lonely.. this guy is actually pretty funny.. in a sad way.. he has almost zero sex drive.. and instead chases after his idealized romantic love fantasy.. when girls meet him.. they think he's just feeding them what they want to hear to get into their pants.. so his honesty ironically filters those girls away.. and he's stuck with sluts who toy with his search for a relationship.. and when they realize he has a low sex drive.. they cheat on him or leave him for s/o else..

Mr. shallow.. Mr. shallow gets his self-esteem from how he looks.. which is very good.. but he's usually dumb as sh*t and doing nothing with his life.. in an attempt to live in his bubble.. he will only date women who also look good.. as if to convince himself that the ONLY thing that matters are looks.. because to make himself aware of other things that give value to a person would only bring down his self-esteem and self-worth.. and why would he want to do something like that?

Mr. valuable.. usually very successful.. measures a person's value in terms of dollars.. dating is not about romance, but a business merger to him.. so 90% of women are considered additional expenses and liabilities.. he's only looking for additional income and assets.. which is the women he dates.. successful professionals or self-made women.. these men also suffer from megalomania and narcassistic tendencies.. maybe even the full blown disorder too

Mr. easy going.. nothing is ever a big deal.. this guy avoids hard work.. and doesn't like putting in more effort when he can do the same thing with less.. since his ambitions and desires for anything in life are quite low.. it makes no difference to him how great a girl looks or what she's doing with her life.. he's more interested in how easy she is to get along with.. the less she likes to do.. the more attracted he feels to her.. because she makes him feel normal.. as opposed to lazy

Mr. ego.. this guy was probably too sensitive to attention as a child.. his desire for attention and praise is insatiable.. his whole life is speant looking for others to validate his sense of self-worth.. he needs them to envy his car, his house, his education, career, success, children, lifestyle, and woman.. he needs a woman to show off to feel that others are jealous of him.. so he dates only super-model hot women and pretends his sex life is amazing..

Mr. bored.. this guy has it all.. he's good looking, charming, smart, funny, rich, successful.. and BORED.. he's dated so much he knows every dating game in the book.. he's bored with sex, with relationships, with life.. this guy actively seeks disorder in his life to escape order and stability in his life.. women who are cold, heartless, manipulative, druggies, low-lives, losers get his attention and turn him on.. he wants chaos, disorder & excitement and they don't fail to deliver..

Mr. emotional tampon.. these guys are usually very sensitive and sweet.. they're kind and enjoy taking care of those they love.. sounds like the perfect guy.. except.. they're probably not interested in you.. if you're not constantly calling them.. needing s/o to talk to.. s/o to share your feelings & problems with.. they're not interested.. they want someone who is clingy and can make them feel useful.. good about themselves for being there to listen and help.. and that's who they date..

Oh screw this.. those are pretty much the bulky groups.. every other instance of male insanity probably represents less than 1% of the population.. so they're not even worth writing about..

A thing to remember is that you often play the role you are given or the one you are forced to take.

If you constantly remind your boyfriend of things, he will eventually stop taking responsibility for the things he know you will take care of. Why would we spend energy on checking things when he knows you will double check it for him? It's wasted energy. If you stop taking responsibility for others around you I think you will find it that many will start taking responsibility for themselves...

I think it's a combination of you being a person who likes to be in control of things and the guys you are with a probably just lazy and you become their extra mother who takes care of things. If you want a guy to take charge you have to stop taking charge yourself. Especially young guys can lack the confidence and leadership skills needed.