So I know this guy for like 5 months before I gave in and decided to start dating him, Him and I had a Tom and Jerry Relationship for these 5 months Now we are 3 months into our relationship and he then comes out and tells me that a girl who we both worked with but no longer with us. He slept with her. Its like every week or so he comes out and tell me something that he did in his past. Now this affects the present, because for the 5 months we had some kind of feeling but never acted on it. Now this girl comes for 1 month and he kissed her and then had sex with her. When I ask why tell me this now he says he rather hearing it from him than from her or her friends. Can I not meet a nice guy. Its like he doesn't understand the damage that he has caused out relationship for when he told me the first time that he kissed her he lied about sleeping with her. And now it comes out. What else is there. Seriously. I deserve so much better you know. What is wrong with me. Please help me.
Ask any man this, if he's into his girlfriend and she brings out the past, they always hold it against the girls, mainly men are not designed to handle and balance stuff that is emotional, no wonder we give birth, because we are able to handle the pain,. I say if it hurts you, than ask him not to tell you, getting close doesn't mean you have to tell something from your past that will have no positive effect, its nothing but a memory that happened. Think about it. Its holding your relationship to go forward.
Thanks girl. We will see where this relationship goes to. But to be honest. I do look at him in a different light. For who knows what else will come out. I know bad. But men as I know in my past relationship have always disappoint me in the end. But I am being open minded with this one. So we will see. - 4 months ago
Well its quite simple, you need to separate and sort out your facts in reality sweetie, you have to look at from a guys perspective hes telling you this because he wants no lies, hidden from you. Or anything to come between you guys. plus most importantly, what he didn't with other women, that is his past, which you had not connection to, doesn't matter if you were flirting, you still weren't 'together' that's what the dating scene is all about, meet various people, get to know them, and go with the one that is most compatible and interesting, obviously he went with you, that says a lot, so start to judge him from the day you became officially involved, anything before is meaningless fights, and unsolved issues. My best bet is to not even confront him, just tell him, what happens now and from on here, is what you would judge him on. Hope that helps
Thanks but honestly it hurts for really I started liking him..and knowing that if he was honest then would be so different than him telling me now..I don't know..I hate his past that's for sure..But him in his present I do like... - 4 months ago
Nothing wrong with you some guys are jerk for explain mine is sometimes he cheated on me in the past and then we went on a break. Yet I am stupid and still slept with him cause I really love him and he met a other woman when we were on a break and start sleeping with her. Now he says he will stop cause it hurts me. The bottom line is guy can be jerks some find it hard to be loyal how long have you dated this guy.
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