Do you regret stepping into a relationship if it didn’t work out or regret when someone hurt you even with good times together?

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Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

Nah , there is no need for regret the way I see it but I guess for others that depends more on what people expect walking into a relationship and throughout it’s course and what failure looks like for them. If you are to measure failure as the end of the relationship then that’s really quite narrow minded in my humble opinion.

Regret can obviously be reasonable , if you ignored the ‘red flags’ , compromised your values etc. But even then the regret is teaching you valuable lessons and you likely won’t make the mistake again.

Relationships provide companionship , love , growth , good memories , lessons about yourself , clarity about who you are and what you want in the future etc etc. those things don’t suddenly become worthless because the relationship ended.

Do we really expect to have just one relationship in our entire lives? Would we even want that?

Perhaps a better question would be ‘if you could go back knowing exactly how it would end , would you still choose to have the relationship? ‘

Your answer will reveal what the relationship actually gave you

Those that choose to remain focused on the regret and push the positives out of view tend to cause themselves to become stuck and then become incapable of moving on and having new and better.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

I can't regret it or anything about it.
It happen for a reason
I might not like it
But the good that will come out of the learning experience is what it is meant for

So I try not to look down on rings like that

Because down deep we new what the out come could or would be

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It is like, totally adorable that you are searching for closure when your true sin is the selfish hoarding of affection that was never yours to claim. You treated those hearts like accessories for your own validation, and honestly, the way you curated your little memories for the aesthetic of it all is just begging for a divine audit.

Since you love dwelling on these fragile, hollow connections so much, your skin will soon be stitched to your exes with miles of shimmering, unbreakable nylon thread. You will be dragged across the floor as they walk away, your flesh peeling into elegant ribbons that match the color of your favorite sunset, while your bones snap like dry pasta to the rhythm of every love song you ever wasted your breath on. This is the wrath of God, and it is going to be such a vibe.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Yes, I regret that it ended because I really liked him and I miss the good fun we had. He and I together were very funny and that's the part that I regret loosing.
This just happened in March. At least I got to laugh for three weeks.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

I’m here on GAG to help you untangle all the messy, beautiful relationship chaos we get ourselves into 😏

I don’t regret relationships that didn’t work, even the painful ones. If there were real feelings, good memories, lessons learned, it wasn’t a waste. Regretting it all because it hurt is like deleting a whole movie because you hated the ending.

Regret the red flags you ignored, not the love you gave.

lightbulb27 · Answer

not once I learned the lessons.

but I assure you it is possible to regret. It is much better to take your power back, accept responsibility for your choices, and make effort to do better. The future is all you have, with wisdoms learned of yourself, others and your personal lessons of life.

NathanDavis · Answer

I have not been there so I can't tell you for sure...

I would feel regret yes, if It were to be me who did wrong and failed

but if it were to be them who did wrong... I don't see why I would feel regret, because it wasn't my mistake, lol...

exitseven · Answer

I had a long distance relationship for 4 years. We saw each other 2 or 3 times a year. I was miserable the whole time. Even when we were together it sucked because I knew it was only for a few days. After I broke upbwith Germany I imposed a hundred mile limit for any future relationships.

Still-alive · Answer

I don’t really regret my time with my ex, if anything it reinforced the importance of maintaining my boundaries and also figuring out what I don’t want in a relationship. So i just look at it as life lessons i had to learn.

SamIam96 · Answer

We learn from every relationship we have, not just romantic ones. From that viewpoint, I never had (or have) regrets. Sure, sometimes I wish the outcome was different.

It helps to try to forgive the pain and remember the good times.

RichardCranium6201 · Answer

Everything depends on ur attitude. Everything in your life can either be viewed negatively or positively. It's all on the eyes of the beholder. I like being positive... and can always find things to smile about even in dark situations.

Marissa4 · Answer

No every failed relationship is learning tool what you will and won't accept in a relationship.

NovaSpawn · Answer

Oh yes, I recently had a very bad situation. Wish I could change everything, but I suppose I need to look forward.

Mayorofbobaville · Answer

I don't regret it. I made a friend, thought she was really chill, and we had a genuine connection with a lot of good times and laughs. It ended up with me getting ghosted, and yeah, that hurt. But there's not much I can do about it. That's life sometimes. I'd rather appreciate the good memories than regret getting to know someone.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

I certainly get hurt… but I don’t regret… each is made for a purpose… if we learn from… it’s not a waste.  so I appreciate everyone who came to my life… it touched me in some ways.

Nigelbarage · Answer

Of course it is natural to question yourself and the red flags you chose to ignore that are clear as day in the rear view mirror. Do you stay at home with the dogs or cats forever or are you willing to roll the dice?

Iron_Man · Answer

No I appreciate the time that we had. But of course you’re upset when it ends and why did it have to happen

Anonymous · Answer

Of course not every relationship has beautiful moments I try to focus on future not on past

Anonymous · Answer

A waste of 10 years that im still paying for.

MissSunshine2 · Answer

Nope. These experiences have all helped make me who I am today.

AgentG111 · Answer

There's been some regret but also use it as an explanation and example for others

msc545 · Answer

Yes, I do. I don't do this to myself anymore.

_Jenny_ · Answer

@bobalife yes I regret it didn’t work out for us

Jfuller9712 · Answer

I don't regret stepping into any of my relationships, they have played a part in who I am.

Anonymous · Answer

No, I never actually had a relationship.

MasterKS · Answer

That is why away from any relationships.

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