I want to understand my boyfriend from a guy's point of view

First I'm going to say this is only my opinion and you may not like what I have to say. A man who truly loves his woman is not going to be searching for another. One of the "Family" might just be the problem, he loves you but maybe because you are also part of his family now its more like a sisterly love. I hate to say this to you but, trust me I know, if a man can cheat in his mind it will happen for real when the opportunity is there and the moment is right., its just a matter of time. He's probably taking you for granted and needs to be reminded that you could just as easily disappear from his life. A family member is permanent and no matter how close you are to him and his family is things go bad it will effect that, he needs to know that.
Whatever you do just be cautious and don't settle for anything less than number one.
Jeff

So 1 of the things that I am thinking (though I am 2nd guessing here), is that he maybe into whoever it is that you are talking about & biding his time, might be loosing interest, or 1 of the things that I realize & have acted on… is that there is certain wisdom in casting your net wide, & not putting all your eggs in the same basket. Especially if you are not serious yet. There have been a couple times that I have met someone that I was interested in, was thinking that they were getting sweet on me, thinking that it was going to go somewhere, but a month or 2 later after actually starting talking to them/got their #, they met some other guy… & kicked me to the curb. I wouldn’t know if you would call it a fear per say… but 1 of the things that gets me nervous is someone looking at me, prejudging me, & basically making me feel like I am unrated, belittled, or worthless. The grass is always greener… but in a way… women in a certain degree (though there are pro & cons to everything) have it easier than men when it comes to dating. Maybe it’s the male point of view & I am missing something… but generally… from my experience, a woman only has to say yes or no to the guy if he’s interested. Though things are changing it’s more acceptable in this day & age for a woman to be more aggressive than my parent’s age, or my grandparent’s age… but women certainly have the upper hand in that department. Especially if they know that you emotionally like them. I’ve known a few that had no problem digging their meat hooks into me when they thought that they had me. The gamey, insecure type. The 1’s that go hand & hand with a player. The other ½ of the circle. Like that odd adage… what came 1st… the chicken or the egg?

So he might be very well might be interested… just testing the waters a little bit 1st. Or like I said, he might be moving on. Kinda hard to tell since I am not in his head. I hope this helps.

I agree there are elements of unfaithfulness. If she was someone who didn't matter all that much (like an old friend he just wanted to say hi to), then he should be able to do it above board. He may not truly believe that it would have been wise. And I'm usually one to say a person should get another chance. But in this case, it's not like you've been married forever and the love has waned over many years. You're not at the altar yet and this is happening. Saying he's not technically unfaithful is just semantics. He got caught and he's trying anything to lessen his punishment. Then, he's having a hard time with you asking him to say the same thing he is supposed to vow in the future. What will be running through your mind during the ceremony? I think the majority of guys at the time they say their vows do mean it. Him I would be wondering about.