I really like you. I do. You're so nice, and sweet, and you listen to all my problems and respond with the appropriate compliments. But, well, I don't really see a relationship in our future. It would be terrible if we let sex destroy this great friendship we have where I get everything I want and you get nothing you want. Don't you think?
I knew you would understand. You always do.
We're so perfect as friends, you know? I can tell you anything, and you know you can always come to me anytime you need to hear me bitch about work or how ugly I feel. You wouldn't want to ruin a friendship like that just so you could be my boyfriend, and have me look at you with desire and longing in my eyes, if only once—would you? Of course not. Well, if we started dating, it would only complicate this wonderful setup I've got going here.
It's just…you're like my best friend, and I would hate for something you desperately want to change that. I mean, sure, we could go on some dates, maybe mess around a little and finally validate the six years you've spent languishing in this platonic nightmare, but then what? How could we ever go back to the way we were, where I take advantage of your clear attraction to me so I can have someone at my beck and call? That part of our friendship means so much to me.
No. We are just destined to be really, really good friends who only hang out when I don't have a boyfriend, but still need male attention to boost my fragile and all-consuming ego.
Anything can happen once you bring romance in. Think about how awful my last relationship was at the end, remember? The guy I'd call you crying about at 3 a.m. because he wouldn't answer my texts? The guy I met at the birthday party you threw me? I had insanely passionate sex with him for four months and now we don't even talk anymore. God, I would die if something like that happened to us.
Plus, ick, can you even imagine getting naked in front of each other? I've known you so long, you're more like a brother that I've drunkenly made out with twice and never mentioned again. It'd be way too weird. And if we did, then whenever you'd come shopping with me, or go to one of my performances or charity events, or take me for ice cream when I've had a bad day at work, you'd be looking at me like, "I've seen her breasts." God, I can't think of anything more awkward that that.
Oh, before I forget, my mom says hi.
Anyway, you would totally hate me as your girlfriend. I'd be all needy and dramatic and slowly growing to love you. If I was your girlfriend, I would never be able to tell you all about the other asshole guys I date and pretend I don't see how much it crushes you. Let's never lose that. That's what makes us us.
Don't worry. You're so funny and smart and amazing, any girl but me would be lucky to date you. You'll find someone, I know it. And when you do, I'll be right by your side to suddenly become all flirty and affectionate with you in front of her, until she grows jealous and won't believe it when you say we're just friends. But when she dumps you, that's just what we'll be.
Best friends. Friends forever.
Article By Kimberly Pruitt not me :)
Bahahaha I love it! you know I don't know why girls do this? its that male attention they just seam to love and devour and can't get enough of? Though I have/had a very good guy mate but I always made it clear there would never be anything more then friends, you would class him as a BADboy lol acting tough, scared inside cheating on every girlfriend and can't get his sh*t together.. THATS why we would never have been more then mates... cos I deserved better :)
once ur in the friend zone 95% never leave it :D
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So basically... "I love you... but I love you and how we are too much to risk what we have..."?
That's what love is! Girls are just too scared to take the chance... besides, the great guyfriend wouldn't treat her like the rest of her "idiot boyfriends"... I don't get why girls think every relationship is meant to be so unhealthy like that. She's just afraid no? Yeah? Well, love is scary.
Good guys don't finish last because they're boring, they finish last because girls are afraid IMO.
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Often times people really want to be friends& its not based on them bitching. Friendship give and take-which you definitely didn't illustrate using a narcissist as an example to show how you can't force love.You painted a picture of a needy pathetic obnoxious narcissist. Seen way more guys act this way than girls. Funny how this site is so focused on girls playing games because guys are too 'simple'. Yet the same site will directly say how stupid & incompetent girls are in relation to guys. I think this-
Forget girls ask guys more like: Hypocrisy in Action. Projection proficiency. How full of sh*t can I get. I don't know you so why not lie about you. Proclivity to prejudge. Let their be 'piece' .
Then there are alo a lot of really cool posts and people here which is why constant stereotyping is so irritating. Sometimes, it feels more like people want to keep trouble alive , then try to come to an understanding or realization... Some people would rather be 'right' at any cost than learn...I was laughing at the whole article then that last paragraph hit a spot and the smiling stopped....
ive been told that to many times... almost the exact same words....
shoot... it makes me wonder if a girl enjoys the pain she inflicts on a guy she claims to be her "bff"
?_?This was written by a woman, and many girls in the comments below have agreed to it, and many guys reading the article have compared it to their own experiences. I by all means approve of genuine friendships with women, not only will you meet all her friends but when you approach other girls with a girl it makes it so much easier to build a connection. This is something else tho, it's not a friendship, it's a horrible mutation
This is not what goes through a girls head.
and it is just as much the guys fault as the girls.
if she doesn't want to be more than friends then accept that, she doesn't have to go out with you just because you're there for her.
im there for my friends cos I want to be, if I get rejected by a friend I like I don't care.
its not why I start friendships.
ive posted a similiar message in various places in the last few days but.
if you are this guy, question your motives...To be honest, I would love to have this type of close friendship with a woman! A woman who saw me as a close personal friend, at this stage of my life would be fantastic. I am married with a young family but my wife can't provide all of the emotional needs I have. I can't provide everything for her either. I wouldn't get involved like the male in this article.
While I love the story, I feel that there still needs to be clarification (yes, I am aware that this is not your original work).
This only applies to the guys who have made their intentions known. There are a number of guys who act like friends, make no notion of romantic/sexual interest, but still expect the girl to know. Those guys don't fit here because she may have no idea of his feelings towards her.
The girls who HAVE been told of his intent and exploit this stuff are the real bitches."Don't worry. You're so funny and smart and amazing, any girl but me would be lucky to date you. You'll find someone, I know it. And when you do, I'll be right by your side to suddenly become all flirty and affectionate with you in front of her, until she grows jealous and won't believe it when you say we're just friends. But when she dumps you, that's just what we'll be."
I love that part. It's all so true. Not for me, I don't have a friend like that, but I know a girl like that.I remember seeing a quote on a forum I frequent that went something like this:
Being friendzoned is like applying for a job interview, and being told by the interviewer that, even though you're the ideal candidate for the job, they will never hire you, and instead complain to you whenever the next person they hire for the job turns out to be unqualified.Actually, the article was written by a staff writer at "The Onion"
They often put fake names at the end of their articles
linkTHANK YOU SO F***ING MUCH FOR POSTING THIS! x3 I read this once a long time ago, and I really liked it. I tried so f***ing long to find it again, but I couldn't remember you username. I literally spent like THREE DAYS trying to find it on Google, till I eventually searched for: girlsaskguys "read the story in my profile"
And your answer came up, which is how I originally found your profile. And now I'm here again, and just wanted to say, THAAANKS!!! And sorry for the super-hyper comment. o.oThe analogy would be to a guy, who strings a girl along, giving her hope of a relationship or marriage with her one day, has sex with her for years, keeps using her to satisfy only HIS needs, while her needs go completely ignored. All the mean while, taking advantage of how nice the girl is, he feeds her bullsh*t justifications for this one-way relationship that only caters to what's important to him as a man, w/o caring what's important to her as a woman.
You didn't read the story, or read it but didn't get it. This story isn't about a girl that simply rejects a guy, this is about a girl that strings a guy along giving them enough to feel like they are just about win her over, in the process they put aside any other nice women that come along and any advances they have with how to attract women honestly
It's the guy's fault for playing this game. The 'friends' to lovers' aspect. It's passive and puts the control in the girl's hands. So for all those saying that the girl is a b*tch for using the guy - it's also his fault for being a p*ssy with no balls. Don't be her friend - be her lover. If she rejects, you calm your emotions and accept her as a friend as long as you can handle it. She can be the link to your next girlfriend. Or you never see her again.
Man, I hate this kind of chick. She makes my life hell. I'll date a guy I really like, who has given up on his super-close-female-friend/crush and decided to move on, and suddenly she'll be constantly flirting with him and wanting his attention and luring him back. I'll react with jealousy, get labeled controlling by the female friend, break up with the guy... and right back into the friend zone he goes for her! UGH.
HAHA the last part I call "the evil cycle of the single evil piranah ladies" It is so true, when ever a guy is single and available no one pays him mind BUT when he finally finds a girl all of the other girls sense it with their "miserable RADAR" and go in for the bait, even though he ain't single anymore, they get jelouse... It is so stupid
Killfest was the only guy that said bitch, and it was when a girl takes advantage of a guys emotions for her and uses him to do things and be her emotional tampon and self esteem boost. And I agree, a cool girl would not be close with a guy she knows that likes her, she would set him up with one of her friends maybe.
Have you guys who feel like the girl who says this is the bitch, ever though about it from the other side. pretend its you who has to say this. its just as hard. Someone commented on the fact its like an interview where your perfect for the job but don't get hired. YOU might think your perfect for it but clearly she doesn't feel the same way and trust me most girls who have gone through this feel awful about everything!
She's never said I was a brother to her. In fact, I said she was like my best friend, and she didn't reply saying I was hers. She doesn't always come to me when she's in trouble. She sometimes tells me stuff, but most likely always goes to some other guy I don't know.
If that's what you think have fun waiting for your friend to break up with the guy she is seeing, I'm sure she will need a nice shoulder to cry on and will treat you nothing like the guy in this article is
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