Ex boyfriend asked me for nudes today?

[Anonymous]

My ex boyfriend who sternly told me to move on and who I have not been messaging texted me today.
We were having a normal convo and I could tell he still didn't want me back. I was asking about the new girl who he has been talking to for about a month. They are long distance as he is working in Puerto Rico and she lives in MI.

He says he loves her but they are not going to be official boyfriend and girlfriend until he visits the states in 3 months. She might visit him tho. Him and I had a long distance relationship for 1.5 yr which the distance caused too much stress for us. He is now trying it out again with her I guess.

Anyway, he says that they are pretty much dating and that they love each other.

I have been struggling to get over him and I have resisted texting him until today. After having a somewhat normal conversation he asked for nudes from any girl on my phone. First off I don't have other chicks nudes on my phone and second off I'm thinking, if he truly loves this chick, why is he asking ME for nudes.

I planned on setting him up some how but I need advice. I sent him nudes just to see if he was being serious when asking. It sounds desperate of me but hey.

If I want him back, did I make the wrong decision? Should I tell the girlfriend he is talking to what he did so I can get my boyfriend back? What should I do?

I know many will say, "Why would you want this guy back?" But I just think he's still attracted to me and maybe wants me back. What do you think? He was stern when we broke up that we were never getting back together but he has always been the one to change his mind.

Advice?

[Anonymous]

Do not blackmail him. I suggest telling the girl, and cutting him from your lifd completley. Any guy who loved or respected you would not ask for nudes after breaking up with you. If he wanted you he would say so. He would try to set up a meeting. Its clear he had bad intentions with you to start and I know this hurts deeply but if he can do this behind someones back he claims to love, think about what could have went on behind your back? Sending her the pictures of what went on will not make him want you back. You sent the nudes so you will look just as bad and the girl may even start drama with you. Think rationally. If your sister or good friend was in this situation, would things still look the way you are viewing them now?

[Asker]

What do you think would be the repercussions of sending the girl the screenshots?

Since we were long distance, nudes were normal for us to be sending. I realize we are no longer dating but I feel that he would be more inclined to ask me, his ex, for nudes since he may still have some feelings for me...

[Anonymous]

if you have her Fb account I think it would be great if you sent her the screenshot of him asking for nude photos... he deserves it.
if he loved her he wouldn't ask anyone for such photos, other than that he's just using you and I'm advising you not to do something stupid and send it to him.. just block this mothafuker

[Asker]

But if I want him back would sending screenshots to his new girl just piss him off even more and ruin all chances I have with him in the future?

He's not a bad guy and its not as bad because he is asking ME for nudes not some random person...

Is there any chance that him asking for pics in a sign that he wants me back?

[Opinion Owner]

Definitely not the sign you're thinking of... it's not the way you're trying to win or take someone back into your life by asking such things... while telling you about the love he holds for someone else...
I've read some of your replies with another person that he forcing himself to move on but why starting something new while you might feel something for person you used to be... I'm telling you that he only using you because he's in distance relationship and not able to be with that girl and he needs some sexual fulfiling and he found you to use up for it

[Asker]

doesn't make sense that he would tell me he is in love and then ask for nudes... like duh I'm gonna see how fishy that sounds

[Asker]

would him seeing my body again make him want me back? that is the worst thing ever to say but could it sway his emotions enough to forgive me and then we could fix the relationship from there?

[Asker]

what would happen if I sent her the screenshots?

[Opinion Owner]

why don't you send me why you've broke up at first place by private message and I'll try to help you how to know if he want things to go back before you do something which you can rerget later?

[Asker]

Can you private message me? im new here and not sure how to

[Opinion Owner]

unfortunately no bcoz you've posted this as anymous

[Asker]

Id love your advice but unsure as to how i can message you

[Opinion Owner]

wait

[Opinion Owner]

well send it here than

[Asker]

InNeedOfGreatAdvice5

[1truekhaleesi]

She deserves to know what is going on. Send the screenshot of him asking for the nudes. And yes, sending him nudes a terrible idea.

[Asker]

I felt like I could have either set him up or won him back by sparking sexual interest in me again. I thought he might want to work things out again... Is this an irrational thought?

[Asker]

Would sending her screenshots ruin a potential future with my bf? Should I message my boyfriend first and be like " you realize what you sent me earlier was wrong and kind of shows how little you valued ________ (new girl)?"

and then maybe "i will send her the screenshots or you can stop talking to her and we can try to work things out"

[1truekhaleesi]

He doesn't deserve you. If he wanted you, he would've said so. If he asked for nudes, he doesn't respect you.

[PurpleTeardrops2]

Omg, no he just wants to use you. Sending him nudes was VERY STUPID! Block and delete his number

[Asker]

I was trying to set him up... but now I am thinking it could have been a bad idea

[Anonymous]

do you actively talk to him still. or was it out of nowhere?

[Asker]

We broke up about 3 months ago. We both had a lot of stress in our lives and it was long distance. He lost job and crashed car and I went to college and had to make new friends etc.
I think the stress in his life made him jealous of the fun I was having in college. I will admit I didn't give him enough attention after going to college.

We casually talked but still bickered for the first 2 months of the break up. However about a month ago he got a new great job AND started talking to a new girl and he quit talking to me. This is when the heartbreak came for me. I was being replaced and I feel he wanted someone new. The breakup was mainly my fault but I only realized it was my fault about 2 weeks ago.

Anyway, he says he loves this new girl but I feel like a great relationship was thrown out. I feel like I am being associated with the depressing time in his life when he was out of work and generally unhappy with how his life was going

[Opinion Owner]

then you need to decide if you want to associate with someone who apparently only associates you with sadness

[Asker]

That is just my guess as to why he was so stern on the breakup and unwilling to try fixing it with me.

Do you think it is wrong of him to be sending me nudes and asking when he says he is in love with someone new?

[Opinion Owner]

yeah, i think that would be wrong. i mean, you're his ex

[Asker]

Do you think I should send screenshots to his new girl as a way to set him up? I know it seems immature but I want him back. Would that just piss him off more and make him never want me in the future?

[Opinion Owner]

i dont think he deserves either one of you

[Anonymous]

Don't be that cheap he wants to use u

[Asker]

Why was the conversation normal at first? Why wouldn't he just ask straight up?

Why wouldn't he ask some random girl instead of his ex? Does he want me to have feelings for him again?

[spunky_chancellor]

he wants u back

[Asker]

Please check out my other posts for more details on the breakup!

He was very stern that he did not want me back. But I'm starting to think it was a coverup for wanting to be single/finding someone new.

Hard to believe he would want another long distance relationship.

He also asked me if I had kissed a guy or had sex yet. (nope)

He truly comes off as though he has this new love of his life and I'm not sure if he just wants to use me as a side chick or if he still has feelings...

[spunky_chancellor]

he wants to use u as a side chick and leave ur ass

[Asker]

Do you think it is wrong of him to be sending me nudes and asking when he says he is in love with someone new?

[spunky_chancellor]

Yeah it is

[spunky_chancellor]

but if he's hot...

[Asker]

I am honestly chill af with him. I get why people want to be single. At the same time I think we work well together.

Why leave my ass for someone who is leagues below me? If he is really trying to use me why wouldn't he find someone who is hot AND makes him happier than I was able to

[Asker]

He got all butt hurt when I sent an old pic of us together. Like he is trying to remove all memories and force himself to move on

[spunky_chancellor]

because u provide the sex she provides the feelings

[Asker]

why not have me for both? I feel like if one thing taints the relationship he calls it off. Still a little fucked up that he was asking me for nudes when he claims he is in love with someone else...

[spunky_chancellor]

Yeah it's true

[spunky_chancellor]

pm me