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Do you feel bad about cheating?

I cheat all the time on any girl who I date even if I really like them or have fallen in love with them. I don't feel bad about it at all and don't... Show More

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  • Dude. Seriously? How does it not affect your conscience at all? I would NEVER cheat on my girlfriend. That is so absolutely low! It's betraying their trust, they want you to be a strong, supportive figure in their life, but how can you be that when you're off getting tail behind their bac? I think you need to take a step back and really do something man.

    • I really do want to feel bad about it. I treat my girlfriends very well and I am always there for them no matter what. It's not like I would choose seeing someone else over them but if my girlfriend was busy and another girl called I would have no problem going and having her. I just can't seem to make myself see sex as something that I shouldn't be having outside of relationships. It basically feels the same to me as watching TV without your girlfriend would to you. It's just feels like an activity.

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    • I don't think it's just an activity. What happens if you make a MISTAKE an accident happens? The other girl gets pregnant or you contract a disease? Sorry, I"m in a bad mood right now, I might have an STD because my guy slept with a girl who slept with 100+ guys, he thinks he's clean but we'll see because I got tested and it looks like I do, and he's the only one I've been with... so his mistake will cause me pain. Maybe that will help you out, probably not. Sorry I'm venting here...bad moo

    • If I could click the 'up' arrow on this answer about 9823749873234 more times, I would. It explains exactly what I was thinking!

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  • Ok, I am in a slightly bad mood so my answer is going to be sort of grim. Anyways, I don't think people should sleep with so many people! that is a seriously bad thing. I mean, I never slept with anyone so my guy cannot say I will give him an STD or have a secret child. He has slept with someone who has slept with 100+ other guys (who knows how many) and the 100+ other guys she slept with slept with another 100+ other girls, get what I'm saying? That's how STDs are spreading. I should have stayed a virgin. I should have never gotten married. I had been having some internal bleeding and I got it check out 2 hours ago and they said I smelled funny and gave me a ton of medicine. I don't know the total results yet but if I have something then it is from my husband who has slept with a whore who slept around with other whores. OMG! Why do that? If I find out I have and STD or something, or even if I don't and I just have this scare, why put me through this scare or why give me a disease if he loves me so much? OMG! I am really mad right now. I never slept with anyone, so I don't have anything. I got checked out in July 2010 and I have NOTHING. so now what? Don't go sleep around... gee! What is so hard about that. I will never sleep with anyone but this one guy. If I slept with another guy, and he is a virgin then it would be like he slept with me, my guy, my guy's ex and his whore and all the guys who slept with his whore and all the girls who slept with her whores... I'm just really mad. I think you shouldn't cheat. You don't want to cause her pain. Just sit around and wait for her... be faithful to her so that she is the only one that deserves you, you truly love her right? She is the only one you want to admire right? Then just save sex for her. Don't go sleeping around, who knows if you will contract a disease. Again I am in a really bad mood right now. I mean, yeah I love my guy and if he had to die for a sin then I will die in his place... yeah yeah yeah... but seriously I wouldn't want to be punished for a sin he did... but that's what love does... I mean... HELLO! Do you want to be punished for a sin that your one night stander did? Like for example, you sleep with someone and you don't know 100% sure she is clean (because she probably sleeps around, that's why she is sleeping with you), and then you get the STD, then you are being punished for her getting the STD because you now have the STD and you don't even love her! If that makes any sense at all! Whatever... Ok... I"m done venting. have a great day.

  • I have never, nor would I ever, cheat. I would feel very guilty and terrible about it.

    I never understood cheating at all. I mean, why be with someone, if you're just going to cheat on them? Don't get into a relationship and just do whatever else you're doing. All you are doing is upsetting people who probably don't even deserve it.

    Stop cheating!

  • meh...it would end up affecting her when you ditch her, or she finds out or she has her suspicions. Its difficult to have a consequence-less romp consistently.

  • Why don't you feel bad about cheating? And if you cheat, why do you even get in serious relatoinships, what's the point of a serious relationship, if you are not faithful?

    • I still like the emotional connection of a serious relationship just like anyone else. I feel love and I'm very caring. It is unfortunate that my current girlfriend does not like sex.

  • Wow.. you sound like the guy I'm trying to get over right now. He had a girlfriend for 4 years and went out with me for almost 1 and a half ... I had no idea. Don't you care how it would mess up the person if they found out? I'm going through HELL ..I really loved that boy.. Honestly. Best part? He got dumped by that girl after he dumped me. So.. don't forget about karma!

    He's going to miss out on a girl who could've given him so much.

    But seriously... don't guys like you give a 2nd thought to how the girls your with are feeling?

    Just tell me what guys like you think... Ya'll act as if ya'll could care less if we dropped dead and died in a moment as long as you had another girl around your arms, yet you chase after us anyway? In my opinion, guys like you are the most selfish kind that exist. You put your own needs and demands before anyone else's, even if all the while the other person is thinking about You.

  • You need only feel as bad about it as she would if she found out. In your case, it's not about how bad your conscience punishes you, it's about the pain it would cause her. You say you've cheated on girls you were in love with - I don't think that would be true. Like I said, you may be perfectly able to sleep with 20 girls and love one, but you should know how much it'd hurt her, and how dishonest you're being. Remember it's called 'cheating' for a reason.

    Any time you're tempted, imagine what she'd do if she found out - what she'd look like, what she'd say, etc. If you really like or love her at all, you should respect her enough not to take the chance of that happening. Remember your relationship is worth more than a quick screw - if it isn't, you shouldn't be promising to be faithful to her. But somebody mentioned an open relationship; sounds like that'd be more suited to you.

    • I really like your answer. It does hurt me to think about what my current girlfriend would look like if she found out. I just know that she won't though and that I give her everything she needs. Like I've said before I would never do anything if my baby was available and wanted to be with me. Maybe I take from this that I should be even more careful not to be caught but I am thinking abour changing my ways,

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    • won't. I know if you were my guy (and for all I know, you could be ha) it'd be crushing for me to find out. If I just happened to somehow suspect that you were cheating and then proved it, it'd destroy the sense of trust entirely. Not only with you, but it'd take such a long time for me to be able to trust men again, because you'd been telling me so assuredly that you WEREN'T cheating. And to be honest, I'd go round town telling every girl I could get hold of what a lying bastard you were.

    • There's a lot of consequence in it for both of you. I think there are a lot of reasons cheating is generally frowned upon, you know? Just think about it

  • I cheated on my last ex once, but I feel no guilt about it. It's not something I thought I'd ever do, and it's something that I now feel more assured in my power to stop it.

  • Would you like it if your girlfriend was cheating on you? Would that make you feel good?

  • You're shameful. You have no idea what love is.

  • Oh my gosh. That is definitely something you should be feel bad about. When you go into a relationship you are suppose to be able to trust the person you are with. Being with someone is a commitment, and if you are not willing to commit don't go into a relationship. I think it kinda is a big deal..

  • kay, you're an asshole.

    what if the girl you loved cheated on you?

    you know.. once I had a boyfriend. and he cheated on me.

    and I told him it was okay, that I would give him another chance.

    then I cheated on him, on purpose, to get him back.

    but it only made things WAY worse ..

    & I felt horrible about it, even though he cheated on me first.

    i realized relationships isn't about games,

    its about being loyal to eachother,

    and you are clearly not loyal to your girlfriends.

    • Great answer. The cheating game isn't fun. The once I've done it I felt really bad. I wish women were less jealous and open relationships with limited indiscretion were allowed - both sexes cheat and it might ease some artificial limitations on human connection... But if you commit you commit, honor it shameless bastard

    • are you talking to me?

  • I think you have a big problem

    If you really love someone , you'll know how to feel bad

    If you want to have an open relationship with many girls at the same time, you should let them know and let them made their own decisions to join you or not. Don' t cheat or hide the truth. If you don't feel bad about cheating, at least you have to feel ashamed that you're not an honesty man.

  • Omg... if you loved her can't you figure in your mind that your actions would hurt her. Even id you have no remorse about it, a non retarted person would realize the potential harm it could do to their loved one.

  • Its CRAZY how some guys actually think its OK to cheat as long as he is taking care of his girl/wife. This is sad. We hate it not only because you lied and made her smile and feel special and all that but.. let me ask.. Do you think we LIKE doing laundry, dishes, cleaning up after u? No, but we do it because we want you to know you can depend on us to take care of u. How is it that we do all the crappy stuff and put up with your morning breath and stinky poops and she only sees the best of u. That's y its hard to swallow and that's y we hate the "other girl" so much because she doesn't KNOW you she only see what you want her to see.

  • If you aren't the least bit guilty or ashamed, then why are you posting this anonymously? Don't you want us knowing who's asking? Because you know it's bad. My father's cheated twice on my mother and it's a terrible, pathetic, disgusting thing. It's plain selfish and you're an utter twit for doing it, and for thinking it's NOT a big deal. Those that at least feel guilty, like my father, are a little less shallow, I admit, but still... it's simply terrible.

    • I understand the stigma surrounding cheating so yes I didn't want it to get out that I cheat. Also wouldn't it just be amazing if my girlfriend went on this site and saw this question along with my account and picture of me?

    • You know that it's terrible and that it would hurt your girlfriend immensely if she found out, yet you still do it. :C

  • Really, Wth... Why would you deliberatly hurt someone. Do you have no heart. Stay out of relationships and just go for the one night stands or the fwb.. Seriously you are the type of guy that ruins girls trust forever. You need to talk to a counslor. Grow up cause a real man would never do this.

  • Sex is an intimate experience - two people share their bodies with one another, completely opening themselves up to be judged and looked at. When someone is nude it's when they are most vulnerable, emotionally and physically.

    The fact that you treat something as serious as this with a laid-back attitude is a little sad. The fact that you don't even care about it is even more sad. You're taking away what could be a special moment for someone and tainting it by just considering it some silly activity.

    Despite this, it would still look much better on your part if you didn't lie about it. You can't have a real relationship with someone if you're holding that big of a secret. Being cheated on is a very, very, very, very big deal to nearly everyone. The fact that you can promise not to cheat while knowingly saying you're going to do it anyways is dreadful and heartless. You can not tell any of us that you have loved a person and been able to do that to them.

    I doubt my opinion matters because obviously your view of sex is very tainted, but I think you lack any sort of emotion at all if you can not feel sympathy for those that you have hurt.

    • Wow, you described sex really well! :) I think you're completely right. It's hard to explain the significance of something like sex, but you did it pretty well lol.

    • Believe it or not I actually believe in a lot of what you said

  • love..?!?! I think you have never been in love I have cheated 2 times the first I didn't really care because I was trying to get back at the guy ..2nd unintentionally but even though I wasn't in love I felt guilty (like I used to beg him to forgive me) ..i think you are very careless...(sorry to be so blunt)

    do you even have a reason to cheat or do you "just" do it like out blue? I think you just don't really care cus you haven't found real love ..u prob have "thought " you in love ...but maybe you should not be in relationships (settle for one night stands, f*** buddies, friends with benefits, open relationships, booty calls.. whatever) cus that ruins girls for when they really find a guy WORTH fallin in love with

  • You don't know what is respect and you don't love, you haven't fallen in love really. If you had you will not cheat, becaus eyour mind will be in teh person you love and respect. You just want to have fun, and that is why you don't feel bad about it, you just see relationships as fun, but you don't take the seriously with respect.

    If you keep like that you will end alone, wihout even knowing what real love means, It easy to say I love you, but is not easy to prove it, and cheating prove an act that you don't really love..

    • love is a motherf***er.. who needs it

  • My only issue is why even waist your time dating if you know your not going to be faithful. MAN ARE YOU ONE COLD HEARTED ASS PERSON! But really like it makes no sense to be dating someone and end up going to another female. Worst part ALREADY KNOW YOUR GOING TO DO IT ALREADY KNOW YOU DON'T REALLY CARE. Why even put yourself in that position to heaR females sh*t when you do it. HONESTLY if I was a guy I,would tell the female straight up I'm not looking for a relationship just relations. If she had a problem with it oh well on to the next one right? If you really didn't care then why waist your time even dating. Tell the truth to females. That's what they want THE TRUTH. if they don't like it kiss your ass if they DOnt liKe it. What I'm saying is if your gonna cheat anyway stop putting yourself in that situatiON and Just stay single and blow females off the TRUE WAY and not the dumb way. PlAY IT SMART! PAY IT TRUE! F*** WHAT THEY SAY JUST BE YOU! (THATS IF YOUR AS COLD HEARTED AS YOU PERSUME TO BE)

  • You obviously aren't going out with the right girls. I suggest you go for someone different who'll be able to keep you interested...

    Because in all honesty, that's messed up that you don't feel bad at all.

  • I feel bad about about it but then I do it again. It's like buying the Carte' Dor and then wishing you'd bought the ben and jerrys instead. Temptation is overwhelming :(

  • it depends on who you are with. I think people meet for just friendship but then they claim as relationship because they are afraid of meeting people. So they comfort each others then they go out with others. then, they shouldn't feel bad about each others but if they are involved seriously then they will know it's bad until they meet each others face to face.

  • if you cheat you don't really love her it works the same both ways if she cheated she does'nt really love you its kinda like if you really cared you wouldn't take the risk in the fact you might lose her or will lose her over this !Everyone has been in a situation where they've been tempted but it takes a real man to resist ,woman like feeling secure in the fact that you could never make love to another or be with another the same way ,It's the same for you. Men need to own there p***y if they don't they start getting insecure so stop being a loser and man up for your actions the biggest mistake people make when it comes to love is false hope even if I knew my guy could cheat or might id feel better in the fact that if I asked him he would tell me the truth ,not only are you a cheater wich can be forgivable you are a liar wich is disgusting there is no relationship without trust honesty and respect and you give her none of the three key components to a successful relationship you are going to lose her forsure and the way you treat her is beyond WRONG don't be supprised if she falls out of love with you quickly and looks at you with disgust, even if she does forgive you it will never be the same because she will never feel the same toards you

  • wow really? you don't feel bad? I don't understand. not saying you're a douchbag, but that is a douchbag move. How would you feel if they cheated on you? yes, most people would at least feel bad. I would be devistated if I knew someone cheated on me. I am a loyal person, so I don't understand your mentality at all. I don't think someone would cheat on someone they love or like. If your not married then just break up, it's that simple.

    I'm interested in one thing though. I read this article that girls/guys cheat if they didn't get the sexual attention they wanted when they were younger so they're making up for lost time. Is that why you're cheating?

    • I actually think that I cheat because I am a relatively private person most of the time. I'm usual content just spending time with my girlfriend (now fiance) and doing what she wants to do. I do go out a few times a week but I'm not usually allowed to go to a bar/club without her (I sometimes do anyways). So my point is that it is hard to get a connection with other people because I don't spend a lot of time on other relationships so cheating is a great way to get extremely pleasurable attention

    • tell her that. she is not handling it the right way. But I no wonder she feels the way she does, because you do cheat on her.

  • well your not the first guy I've heard of like this.

    i have cheated one time in my whole life, and I felt so horrible. he doesn't know tho. we brokeup but I still feel very bad about it. but the only thing I did was peck a guy.but I think that you should think about what if a girl did that to you all the time, that would suck really bad!

  • Wow kid, way to be an asshole.

    • Well, at least he's asking for help... we have to give that to him.

    • He's not really asking for help, he's more so wondering if other people think that what he does is wrong.

  • Dude why on freakin earth would you do that? Seriously what the heck and you don't feel bad at all. If all your going to do is cheat then why do you date girls seriously? If you keep cheating and if the girl you dated finds out and other girls find out then you won't ever date again just saying.

  • Yes, I would feel bad. I don't think I could deserve somebody's love if I cheated on them. I won't judge you though, sex isn't all about love for me either. It can be, but sometimes it isn't.

  • I always wanted to ask a guy who cheats, what do you do it? I just want to know the reason behind it...

    • It's pretty easy to put everything that tells us that we shouldn't to the back of our minds and have fun. We usually don't mean anything against our girlfriend and would love it if they wouldn't find out. It's exciting and fun to be wanted by other women.

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    • I've been cheated on many times. Women cheat a lot too. They also manipulate and lie as much as men do. People say they would rather be miserable knowing they are being cheated on rather than be blissfully ignorant to it and that's just crazy.

    • I'd rather know someone cheated on me because I think I have the right to break up with them. You may not think it is a big deal, but you must respect it is a big deal to others. So, if my guy cheated, I'd want him to tell me so I could find someone else. It is selfish not to tell your partner you cheated just so they don't dump you. Also, cheating is a major sign that you don't respect your partner, & I can't date someone who doesn't respect me.

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What Guys Said 14

  • Really it doesn't matter unless there's a ring on the finger go for it bra :)

    • Bahahaha! You think like I do...that's awesome!

      It's not really cheating unless you're married, right? XD

    • exaactly... but I got minus 5 ='(

  • Well you should start caring about the girl you are with. It really really really hurts to be cheated on if you unable to comprehend that. People do kill themselves over getting cheated on.

  • You don't have to do that, there are plenty of women out there that will hook up with men and just date them without exclusivity.

    • You're living up to your user name admirably.

  • Hahahahaha. I've read two retarded questions in a row. If you didn't expect to get a bunch of girls flaming you and guys talking about how they'd never cheat, you may actually be retarded. I've never cheated on a girl, and I wouldn't put up with a girl cheating on me. It's some serious BS. It actually makes me mad when people cheat, I can honestly say that I hate it. And if you don't think it's a big deal, try askin you're girl (assuming you even have one) how she feels about it.

  • Way to p*ss off every girl in the world man! I know why you went anonymous!

  • Don't mean to be a jerk, but lack of empathy, which is what you are showing, is a sign of clinical psychopathy :s Are you so nonchalant about other morally ambiguous things? You should think about how much it hurts these women and out of respect and general empathy not cheat on them or at the very least feel guilty about it.

  • use your left or right hand

  • You're a twat. 'nuff said

  • well the reality is about this question is that your not actually interested in anyones opinion, you just want to appear like a badass with a cold heart. Do people feel bad about cheating? What a stupid question honestly, your obviously just fishing for hate.

    • Believe it or not this is a real question. Society tells me I have a problem and I think that maybe I should fix it.

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    • see that's exactly what he wants everyone to think , that he "doesnt care" because he's so cold!

      If he was ACTUALLY that cold he wouldn't be sitting here on a message board reflecting off other peoples opinions xD

    • I'm not at all a cold person. I'm nice, I'm a pacifist and I wouldn't cheat if I knew I was going to get caught because that would hurt somebody who I care about. I'm just confused as to why I don't feel bad about cheating when everyone says its wrong. On the other hand I would think that buying something for the girl on the side would be wrong especially if its something that my girlfriend might enjoy. Also, I would never choose seeing another woman over my girl.

  • Think of something that upsets you. When you cheat you break your word of commitment to her, which will upset her a lot. You say you've fallen in love with them but don't care if you hurt them deeply? Either you're stupid or lying.

  • Imagine you gave a girl everything she has ever dreamed of and all she does is bitch and whine. They want you, they want a guy too good to be true, they don't know it now but maybe after you break their heart they will. Maybe you did them a favor? maybe they should thank you? yeah right as if! Remember like with everything if its too good too be true then it probably is girls! A lot of girls from my experience have unrealistic expectations, they want the world, you give them the world and in return get a mchappy meal, great, thanks for that. Some of them think because they love you so much and they have 'given so much' they deserve a repayment with loan shark interest. The only problem is what they 'gave' was a piece of chalk when you really wanted a piece of cheese ahh thanks again. Some girls expect to be constantly swept off their feet and not willing to take the time and make an effort in ensuring to make your dreams come true in return. If they love a guy so much then they should find out what makes him tick just like he did for them before they got into this preidicument. I reckon if girls took the time to work out why guys cheat instead of placing blame it would help to prevent a repeat of events. To be honest there could be thousand different reasons why a guy would cheat ranging from relationship issues from childhood, believe system, feeling neglected, misunderstood, low self esteem etc etc. Remember it could be any number of reasons like most things in life there's no definite answer. Remember it takes two to make a healthy relationship, and if a girl wants her cake and eat it she will have to add some ingredients otherwise they may be received from another source. This is just another angle to consider from my personal experiences, not all girls are saints and guys are the devil. Remember at the end of the day our end game is the same, happiness. This is just my take from my personal experiences, hope this helps someone out there.

    • Great answer!

  • That's totally f**k*d up! I have never cheated on any of my girlfriends and never will! They are people man. They have feelings. Are you completely without a heart? a robot? You need to change or you will die all alone! Harsh but, true! Hopefully those girls find out and dump your a**! It's guys like you that make us all look bad. That's why girls think that guys are cheaters because there are guys like you!

  • troll. to the max. you see how much heat you just got. your just looking for attention. you f***ing asshole. and I'm calling you out on it

    • Seems like trolling. It isn't.

    • obviously you are

    • +1 to this statement. Its pure trolling

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