Should I take my wife back for a 2nd time?

[arcanus6669]

After 3 years of living together my girlfriend left me to "find herself" (after cheating on me). She came crawling back a few months later & I took her back. She already had 1 kid from her previous marriage, but she wanted to have a baby with me. I agreed and we eventually got married. Now about 4 years later our little girl just turned 3, my wife is pulling the same thing again. She says she loves me but hasn't been happy and she wants to find herself. I think she must be depressed. I love our family, but this has been really hard on me. How can someone that says she loves me be able to leave me for a second time? And if it is something she will eventually snap out of should I take her back? It was hard enough trusting her after the first time, how could I do it again? I tried to be understanding the 1st time; she had gotten married & had a baby when she was 17, so I know she missed out on a lot, but she doesn't seem to understand it's just to late to get that back.

Thank you for any feedback

[brooke006]

Maybe you are doing something she does not like and is tired of talking to you about it. I am not agreeing with her behavior as a wife but you need to ask her what she is thinking about when she said find herself! sometimes love makes you feel and do crazy things you might regret, give her time to see things clear and support her if you still want to be with her even if she were to play you again. In most cases I need to find myself is not a good sign and she is probably seeing another person. And she already proved what she meant by that the first time she played you. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Tell her she can leave but if she does you will not take her back. She has to make a decision.