I was in my first serious relationship with a guy three years older than me when I first went away to college. I was all the way in the Arizona and he was in Connecticut. The long distance relationship was hard. It made me paranoid and jealous because he has cheated on me before I left for school so I thought why would I even trust him. I didn't know what I wanted but I was starting to become attracted to one of my neighbors in my apartment building. I loved my boyfriend at the time but I knew I wasn't going to marry him. I kept our relationship going. But I was seeing my neighbor at parties and he was always coming over to hang out. I really liked the way he treated me. My own boyfriend didn't treat me so nicely and offered to do nice things for me. My neighbor knew I had a boyfriend so he never acted on his feelings. I was the first. I told him I really liked him and wanted to see how things went. We hooked up off and on and it turned out to be awkward. So we just ended up staying friends. I wouldn't ever cheat again because I didn't like the way I felt afterward. And it's something I don't want done to me. I never told my boyfriend but a couple years after we broke up we ran into each other and I told him to just make him angry. But he was doing it to me all long too. It was the only time and haven't since. Haven't even considered cheating on my fiance now.
I have to say, the number of confessions here is quite saddening.
I've never cheated or been cheated on. If my boyfriend ever did, I'd be absolutely gutted. I can't imagine how one can rationalise infidelity and genuinely able to live with themselves after what they've done.
Cheating is despicable and hiding it is even worse.
To all my fellow women: No, it was not a "mistake". Cheating is DELIBERATE. You don't just trip and fall on a dick. Accept the fact that you acted on your selfish urges and work on becoming a less shitty person instead of making up excuses for your whoring behaviour.
A bad boyfriend does not justify your actions. If he was so terrible, why didn't you leave him, then?
Because you wanted to have your cake and eat it too.
Have I ever cheated? (I define cheating as intercourse or oral sex; as such, hugging and kissing or copping a feel are not cheating.) And the answer is yes. Once. Spring break, freshman year of college; boyfriend didn't go with us, and well, I met a hot guy and we ended up in my motel room together.
1) Were you in love with you boyfriend? Not 'true love" but I did like him a lot. 2) Did you have feelings for the new guy? Nope. Just the mental rush of doing something that was forbidden. 3) Did the new guy know you were in a relationship? Nope, it wasn't a topic of discussion. 4) Did you ever do it again? Nope, we both got what we wanted, never even made an effort of get his contact info. 5) Did you ever tell your boyfriend? Nope, didn't see how it would be much benefit in telling him about a one-time thing.
For those who define "cheating" more broadly, I have "cheated" a couple more times; things like truth or dare games (had to kiss a boy), or being somewhat intoxicated at a party and making out with some hot guy. But all that sort of behavior ended by the time I got out of college.
Yes I cheat on my husband all the time Because I haven't had sex with my husband in over two years and Yes I love him been married almost 6 years. Have I had feeling for the other no I never have and Yes the other guys knew I was married it was always. Fwb relationships would I do it again Yes I got plans tomorrow to hook you and yes my husband knows about every time it was his idea because he can't get it up I'm 24 my husband is 54 and my husband knows I'm not going to be happy with not getting sex
I cheated on my second boyfriend and no I was not in love with my boyfriend. The second one was suppose to be just a casual fling, it started right after me and my first boyfriend of five years broke up, and he knew this. I flat out told him I was cheating on him and that is when the second one wanted to break up, yes I had genuine feelings for the guy I was cheating with and I told him about my boyfriend. So when me and my boyfriend split up me and the guy I cheated with stopped sleeping together, remained friends for over a year, and in that year I did not date. My feelings for him never left, I just wanted to be absolutely sure we could get through the baggage together. We are still together, and I have not cheated again.
2) kind of, I had a lot more history with the "new" guy...it was kind of returning to an old fling.
3) I think he knew, idk.
4) No, I broke off the relationship as soon as it happened.
I only did once, but the relationship was pretty much over by the time I cheated anyway-- we had gone out for only a couple weeks before I left for college, and the long distance was not working.
I'm in another long-distance relationship now where I am tempted to cheat on my boyfriend, but I don't think I could ever go through with it (see my most recent question for a better explanation of that haha).
I kissed another guy while I was with my last boyfriend once. Me and my ex were constantly arguing and I never felt appreciated. This other guy was a friend of mine for a long time who had been trying to get with me for years. I didn't have any feelings for him, but I wanted to feel wanted and I also felt like I should throw the guy a bone after all those years. The kiss was disgusting and it didn't mean anything to me. But it was still a bad decision and I don't see myself ever doing it again.
yes I cheated once just before I got married ..I was testing myself and my commitment to my other relationship as he was ten years older than me at time ...I felt guilty I told him he didn't believe me ..he just laughed in my face as he just thought I was making it up..so much for being honest ..I ended up marrying my guy and five years later we had two kids he left me for an affair so well ..I got my karma back
No, I never have personally because I love my boyfriend with all my heart and soul and would never do anything to hurt him. If I ever did, I would be honest and fess up. If I did it once, I would never do it again because I would break up with the person I cheated on because they deserve better.
Yes and no. By my definition of cheating I have, as I have had a few "relationships" online while in a relationship and since I would consider that cheating if someone were to do it to me I will say yes.
2: yes I did, only because we were such good friends and had a strong connection.
3:Yeah he sorta knew but he really could have cared less. But after me and the new guy got into a fight he brought it up .
4: no I never did it again because I loved my boyfriend. && I just didn't feel like it was right.
5: Yes I told him because I felt like he need to know. It was not like I had the intentions of being with this new guy but I had liked him for so long. My boyfriend was very understand and said that it would take a while for him to trust me again. But he said that he loved me for my brokenness and every flaw I had
What made me do it… well, first off I owed my FWB, nd I wanted to show him what I had learned since the last time I saw him. 2nd, my boyfriend was begining to get lazy in bed. And 3rd, my boyfriend was starting to become a total ass.
Interestingly enough, I got "3 chances to cheat. The 3rd time, I'm gone for good" I was up to chance 2, but he never found out about tw other 4 :D
yeah I have . it was my boyfriend for like 2 years and out of no where I started tlk to some other guy . and outta no where her kissed me . and I pulled away but the second time I didn't . I told him and he told me he knew and he forgave me. but I wouldn't do it again. it felt really awful and guilty . and then I happened to me with another boyfriend and it hurt.
Lmao pretty much all woman who say they haven't are liars or just incredibly young. I can seriously name maybe BIG maybe 5 girls max who range from decent in looks to really pretty who have never cheated. Prolly less than that. I can name mass guys, you woman are spoiled rotten from the get go (On average their are some exceptions) and that's proven to develop narcissism and all kinda other self-centered shit. Guys grow up not being called prince's being spoiled we play with like action figures that actually have morales behind them other than image. Where as girls are literally brainwashed from a young age by playing with barbie dolls and shit like that. Just making them completley obsess over their image in an unpractical unhealthy way. So many woman these days literally can't accomplish anything without their looks. Foreal, you all have beauty pagents where 3 year olds dress up like sluts and wear mass make-up and shit and these insane woman think thats cute haha.
Lets not forget all this online dating going on right now either! Any half decent woman can get on tinder and hand pick just about any dude and hook up at a drop of the hat. Dudes have to go threw soooo much more effort because how narcacistic spoiled and picky these woman become from all these things. They dont appriciate a good mans effort anymore. Its also why these girls think their shit doesn't stink when they really aren't hott stuff like they think so they only try to mess with these super good looking or rich guys who end up being complete fuck boys and seriously see them as a peice of meat and end up cheating on them and treating them like shit. Usually when a girls crying about some shit like that that is why. Sorry but its true on average men cheat WAY less you just hear about it more because girls these days look for men for materialistic things and popularity and end up with the bad ones.
Relationships in this generation have gone to shit. If i ever wanted to talk to my parents for advice they would have no idea how to relate. Because shit wasent half as rachet as it is now. Thats also why the good dudes like me experience this type of shit and just give up on woman and just hook up whenever is clever because you cannot trust these woman AT ALL these days.
Well that confirmed a lot.
I won't get married. And I will use a surrogate mother to obtain my children.
To the females who claim men cheat just as much as women if not more, you're so full of sh*t its coming out your ears. Women can get laid whenever they want, and are better at lying to boot. Women will cheat and everyone will blame the boyfriend/husband for it. If HE cheats, its also his fault. To the guys: dont believe what these women tell you. Dont believe any online surveys, or what some chick tells you in person. If a woman thinks/knows she can get away with it, she WILL cheat. Simply for the sake of experiencing new c*ck, getting off, or some other reason she will rationalize into it being YOUR fault. She'll go to the club, suck some guy off in the VIP, kiss some other dude at the bar, then leave with another guy and f*ck him, then tell the boyfriend/husband she slept at her girlfriends house. And if dude has two brain cells to rub together he'll find out, and when he confronts her guess what... its HIS fault. The female response query to the above question validates it.
Jesus is it that hard to keep your legs closed!? Or break up with the boyfriend which by the way we will find out. Girls like this are the reason there are so many serial killers. Better believe when I found out the other guy better move to china cause he's going to die other wise
Man there are a lot of sluts on this site. I'm totally serious when I say this
Adulterous women should be stoned to death. Sluts aren't people