Best way to end a casual dating relationship?

[Anonymous]

we see each other 1-2x a week, text pretty much daily at his initiative, and phone talk sometimes too.

but it isn't going anywhere serious.

i don't even know if I really want to end it either. in a way I should because he's a jerk and I want a boyfriend and he won't be one. on the other hand I have fun with him, I never let myself have fun, and I just...can't let go because I'm so hot for him that it's not normal. and I am single and free to meet other guys even with him.

when we don't talk for a few hours I'm making lists of why I should end it but I just don't want to right now, truthfully. he just frustrates me so in my frustrated state I think about dumping him.

but, how do I end it? what do I say? I guess the best excuse is that I decided I want a serious relationship and I know he won't give me that?

or that I worry that if we have sex I'll get attached?

i don't think the truth, which is that he acts like a pompous a**hole and frustrates me, will fly? or can I rephrase that? help?

Updates

+1 y

i can get attached yes but I really like being with him...he was sweeter at first and I guess now that it's been well over a month and we talk a lot he's getting "comfortable" and is confident that he has me. that's what makes me want to end it, so I guess I could tell him I'm thinking of walking away because he used to be nicer to me and now he isn't, but what's a good way to communicate that?

[Confussions]

Honestly, I had been through the exact same thing about 2 1/2 months ago LIKE EXACTLY SAME. At times when I was super frustrated I just wanted to end it, but at times when we were together (1-2 times a week) everything was right, AND I honestly believe that these are the best relationships because every time you are together it feels more cherished. Really though a guy being in a "casual relationship" wouldn't really text you every second of everyday and try to make time for you if he didn't care. That's got to say something right? But of course being girls (of course) we are always going to want more.. because we can't always see the good in things. So finally for me after being completely pissed I blow up and ended it (BIG MISTAKE) I realized after that- that communication would have helped the situation instead of just freaking out about it. Most relationships of this day, people never truly commincate properly and open up for reasons. For me being that it didn't always seem like we completely could, some guys are just harder to open up with. So what I'm trying to say is don't make the same mistake I made, because most likely you will regret it especailly if he didn't have a conversation with him expalining how you feel.. which isn't always easy to do. AND especailly if you have such an amazing connection with that person and don't even fight. What is there to be mad about? So now I just sit her wondering what if.. don't be like me its horrible

[TeamNiceGuy]

I was in the same situation but we talked the other day and worked things out a bit. She's really busy so we can't afford to have a relationship where we see each other every day(for now) but when I do see her it makes me really happy and I then realize how much I love her. Communication is the anwser! Tell him how you feel

[Confussions]

Ya but now that it's been so long, I don't know if he is interested anymore because I told him off -_- lol I doubt he's thinking about me anymore..

[TeamNiceGuy]

Depends, someone like me would keep thinking about my girlfriend for a very long time. I don't get to see her much but she's an amazing girl who would be impossible to forget. Every day I think about her there really isn't a time where I'm not, chances are that If you guys broke up while you still had feelings for each other, than he's thinking about you too.

[Confussions]

Well we did end things when I'm sure we both had feelings, its just been so long but he is usually the one to get back into contact with me when things go bad, but basically after I blew up, I just wanted to see what he'd say and if he cared.. But he said nothing. Maybe he thought it was better to leave it and not hurt me anymore because we are too busy idk.. lol Fml

[12elizabeth]

If he's not willing to commit and he's being a jerk then I don't see why you haven't ended this already. Remember it's always important to look at a relationship for what it IS, and not for what it COULD be.

[Anonymous]

if you are still hot for him the you should stay with him because you still have feelings for him clearly and you will end up regretting leaving him. Have you talked to him about having a serious relationship? unless he has actually said to you "i don't want a serious relationship" do not expect that he doesn't want one. You have to communicate how you feel to him. If he texts you everyday then clearly he cares about you and wants more of you, if you're the one who wants the serious relationship why don't you initiate the conversations?

[Anonymous]

Don't dump him unless you are sure you want to end it or unless he mistreats you physically and verbally abusing you. How long have you been together? How is he being a jerk?

[AllDay]

Asking for a serious relationship isn't an excuse and if you feel that he doesn't respect your feelings or acts mature enough for you then tell him.

Next time you see him let him now

Never feel sorry for telling someone how you feel.

[TeamNiceGuy]

I agree with you, she needs to talk to him and straiten things out. In any relationship, communication is key it is absolutely vital for people to talk about their needs and wants in the relationship to keep each other happy. You want a serious relationship then let him know

[gummybear888]

phone him.

him: 'hello?''

you: 'goodbye'

the end.

it's just that simple.

[Anonymous]

Since it's just a casual relationship, you shouldn't be expecting anything more from him. I think you should just break up with him. You could try looking for someone who wants something serious not just a hook up.

[Anonymous]

How does he act like he is comfortable? What kind of things would he do that were sweet that he doesn't do anymore?

[Anonymous]

Tell him what you're telling us. You already know what you want.

Tell him you're not the same person I met.

And if he says he'll change I wouldn't believe him