My ex boyfriend has a new girlfriend?
...but had sex with me. ok well me and my ex were dating for 17months and we were each others first loves. I loved him more than anything in the... Show More
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He's a complete waste of your time... you're young and there are plenty more better fishes in the sea. Don't stress yourself over one dude, it's so not worth your time.
What Guys Said 16
Keep in mind that you are only 16 and have many more heartbreaks to measure against this one. I am not trying to dismiss your pain or how real it feels, because I remember one similar when I was 17. That was over 30 years ago, and now I barely remember her name.
She ended up marrying one of my good friends. So I lost her and my friend. Turns out that neither of them were major contributors to my life. It did take me almost a year to get over her, but once I decided to let it go, it got a whole lot easier. Love is usually painful until replaced.
Looks like he likes a lot of things about you and some things he does not like and does not know how to tell them to you. Also, he seems to have some deep psychological issues. He needs to become more mature before he can be in a loving relationship.
I think you are smart to save your heart. Your body is another thing, and since he is a previous lover, maybe he is a good choice for now. Time will direct you as to who you should be with, but most important, don't give up your guy friend, because he might end up being "the one".
If he's dating someone and had sex with you. He's a bad road. No matter what just don't go for him.
question how does it make you feel that he has had lots of sex with another girl? or maybe more girls? have you had sex with guys too? how does a person do that?
I'm not going to give you advice for the mainline questions, but I do want you to think about the root cause of all this, which is that you got intimate with another guy while "on a break" and that it hurt him. How would you feel if the situation were reversed?
nothing more than just a booty call
sounds to me like he's using you as a crutch. he's a teenager and has no idea what the hell he wants. if he's just gonna run back and forth to you at his own leasure, he doesn't value you like you do him. don't settle for that sh*t. and the fact that he was coming to you for sex when his other girl wouldnt, is extremely low of him. if I were you I would break it off entirely. stop sleeping with him 1st of all. don't give him the time of day. blow him off, make him feel like sh*t because it sounds like that's exactly what he is. make him understand that you are far more important than he is and you by no means need him in your life. it will hurt, that's for sure, but your still young and you sound like a sweet girl, and it won't be long before a more quality guy takes an interest in you. don't do it to get back at him, do it to move on. because it sounds like he is not going to change who he is for you. right now he's getting exactly what he wants and he's not giving you anything you deserve. its not going to be easy, it never is. but eventually you will have moved on and you'll be asking yourself "what the hell did I ever see in that douche?" I really hope things turn out well for you , and I hope that I was helpful. good luck :)
Just some insight from an older guy. the only reason most straight boys are friends with girls is that they like them or just want in her pants. girls don't get that
Ok, I've read your story and I guess I can understand the whole things.
First off all, he is a player, I just curious that he has a new car then he probably has a job. Well, plus he has a look, money, and gfs. He seems to have everything now. Look, he broke up with you and tried to date your friend. That's not actually normal, but that is not really special at all, but what happens if a guy does that? There is only one answer for that question. "player", Player is the only question, I think you know it more than I do so you decide it if he is a player or not."stop reading and leave yourself for 15seconds to think about it"
I have a question, does a girl know that you were his gf? I guess she does right? Look, she knows it but she still wants to date him and this is showing alot. That girl has been in loved with him for a long time and now she has a chance when you both broke up. There is no way he can date her in just only 1 week besides she knows that you and him were in loved. Well, I think you should give up I know its hard to do but if you don't try it then you keep staying like this forever and keep having sex with him in his car or his house instead. And later you realize that he is not your bf, but your friend's boy friend! But that's too late because you had been wasting a lot of your time over a guy who already have a new gf. Remember time can't go back. However, it's not too late. STUMBLE OUT RIGHT NOW! There are a lot of boys in this world, some grow up, some move on, some singles, and some still alive! You don't have to be like this. Don't be afraid of losing a toy. Boys are toys for girl just thinking it. I'm a boy too and I think if a girl thinks that I respect her more because at least she knows that boys are not as value as something is called value. "BOY ARE TOYS! Remember no one would think your dumb if you decide to move on, but everyone would think it if you choose staying!
Think about it.
ur ex.boy is confused and I don't fink you should be an in it with him..k
He is confused, you need to ask him straight up what he wants. You, or her. You were each others first and your more than just a f*** buddy when he's lonely. He sounds like a really goo guy but he is confused and I would be shocked if he wasnt thinking the same things you are. Your both scared and confused and have all you need for a good relationship. He just needs to straighten things out in his mind. Good luck you two, I hope you two will stay together once and for all
It sounds like you have some major drama going on there with this guy. I guess the reason why you broke up with him because you got tired of arguing with him because of his accusations of cheating with his friend. Then you get a message from his girlfriend calling you a liar so I would not confront his girlfriend directly anymore because if you do then there might be a girl on girl big cat fight over this guy. I would talk to him and see if he wants to continue seeing his girlfriend and if he doesn't want to see her then ask him if he wants to change a few things or work things out.. I get the gut feeling that if he used his current girlfriend for sex then he probably will do the same to you. Then you have those feelings of jealously that he is still harboring that he is afraid of you getting a new boyfriend and the drama continues from there. You feel that you both had something special when you where both dating but now he is a different person. For him to be that different person or that person he used to be in your relationship then it means changing himself. If he is going to change then he must do that himself and you cannot convince him to change himself. If he changes himself then he must make that decision. How long will that take? Who knows? What you should really do is to trust your first instinct on this view because you said in your message that you feel used and if he breaks that cycle of using women for sex then you might have a good chance of winning him back in your arms. If he doesn't change and remains the same then when you get back into the relationship you will feel used again. It is never an easy decision when you break up with your first love but sometimes that is the way life is. Life is never going to be easy either. Then again you have that drama and competition to deal with his current girlfriend which could get confrontational.
its obvious he still loves you I would say ask him if he wants to try the whole relationship thing again and leave the past the past and start new. the feelings between you two are obvious.
Please flag on the play.
You broke up for a reason the 1st time
What makes you think it'll be any different the 2nd time?
Than you break up again,and again(rah,again,rah again)
it starts to become a cycle my question
How many chances do you give a guy?
Ohh duhhh is it because the sex is good?
Duhhh how dumb can women be?
He's too confused with himself...get out of it.
It may seem like coincidence, but the first half of your story resembles mine...I am that FRIEND guy in it. I can imagine how much stress you may go in future...so just gradually come out of it.
What Girls Said 23
this guy sounds like a player or if he isn't, he's very indecisive.
so you see how he is, what is going to stop him from cheating on you if you like hook up with this guy?
i don't think he's serious.
i mean if a guy did that to me, I would tell him to go die or just to f*** himself.
he obviously has no respect for women
oh my goodness honey. Cut that boy off! If he wants you...tell him to wine and dine you without any sex! He has to work for it now. He already messed up and was playing games. I say dump his booty to the side. But, its hard. So as a back up, just make him work for it!
Move on. Tell him to F*** Off, and to leave you alone. He is just using you. And he isn't worth your feelings.
one find a stress release try yoga... two let go of everything that's hindering you. three...start over its hard letting a guy go devote your self to sommething worth yourtime and don't center him.its what's making you stressed.
What do you mean by make out? Did you cheat or what?
Maybe he's angry about that, you don't even admit that you MAY have done something wrong.
OMG! You are a Dumb Ass! You don't see that the ony thing he's using you for is to have sex. you are his F*** Buddy. If he cheated on her then he might have cheated on you too. that's something to look at. END IT!
STOP FUCKING HIM.
move on please. I know its hard to hear but he keeps messin with your head and you'll just get hurt more in the longrun.
girl I've been in your shoes before. sucks to be that "other girl" but you having sex with him means that he still has feelings for you, sexually & emotionally.
He sounds like an asshole first of all. And he's not only playing his girlfriend, but you. Get out while you can and get with a guy that treasures you.
i noe its hard because yu loved him so much ;
but whut each time he breaks up with yu has a nother girl wants sex he's gonna go to yu .
thats how he sees it .
im srry but yur too good .
get out of it .
yur already in deep but yu don't wnna dig yur own grave just
leave no more texting him .
move on ;
--good luck .
I Don't Think You should keep going back to him. cut him off completely you seem like you have much ahead of you the last thing you need is a selfish bastard like him holding you back. find yourself a guy who deserves you and leave your Ex in the past.
i think he still loves you. but he doesn't want to be with you. if he has a new girlfriend and she doesn't want to have sex with him, he will come back to you just for the sex. I know because this just happened to me... now he is with one of his co workers how weird huh , Just becarefull us gurls give our heart away too easily
basically he wants to be with his new girl friend and have sex with you. you definitely deserve better!
giiiiirl I totally went through this with my ex boyfriend, ill tell you my story so that you can see the resemblence.
dated a guy for a year, he broke up with me through an email, I was absoultly devistated and heartbroken so I seeked advice from one of my good friends. Two days later I hear rumours going around about them flirting. within a week they were dating.
so 2 months into our break up and his new relationship, he starts msging me, telling me he rly misses me and wants to get together to talk. soo I go over to get my stuff, we hook up.
I felt bad but I still completly loved him or I never would have done sucha thing. I felt so stupid especially since he stopped talking to me until a month later when he msgs me again. I go over, he tells me he is confused, and that our relationship was something so special . that he misses me, that he might want me back.
this little pattern went on for a good 4 months until I woke up and realized what I was doing to myself.
- your ex still loves you, no doubt about it but just because he still has feelings for you doesn't mean he still wants to be with you. he wants you and this new girl which clearly isn't gonna happen for him. basically you have two options:
ask him if you wanna start the relationship again but have to live with the mystery if he is cheating on u, because if he did it to this other girl with u, ur never gonna have that trust in him again.
move on, I knoow how hard it is trust me but honestly its so worth it. why should you have to lower yourself and give this guy what he wants when you end up feeling dumb and used. don't little yourself becuz you still love him. you have to love yourself first.
- comparing stories always helps me see things in a different light so I hope this helped and I wish you luck
This guy is clearly using you. Sounds like he was your first boyfriend, but he's not the guy you fell in love with anymore if he will cheat on this girlfriend. He just knows that you'll always be waiting for him, and is abusing his power over you. You sound like an awesome and very loving girl, and it's mature of you to not tell her personally about the sex. There are far better guys out there than this scumbag. You deserve a good guy, and you might need to get away from him (transfer schools, go to different colleges) because you can't get over him if you still see him around. You need to find meaning in your life other than him, pursue the careers or dreams (if you want to help teach underprivileged children, be a CEO, or save the climate) you care about.
I know how you feel because after my boyfriend and I broke up, he met this other girl and began calling / texting her every day. But then he began playing me and told me he still had strong feelings for me, we had amazing sex on a dozen occasions and I thought we would get back together, but he's flirting and telling this girl lovey-dovey things like how happy she makes him at the same time. I'm really tempted to tell this other girl that we've had sex because she doesn't know. I'm stronger than this though, I know I will meet cooler guys than him and hopefully have a promising career in business ahead of me.
I agree with that rudy girl. I know how bad it hurts, but you need to tell him that you're not going to be his f** buddy anymore. Believe me, I've been in the same situation and you will feel so much stronger if you are the one who ends it.
yeh you should give yourself pride..youu both are cheaters and you deserve the pains you are into now..but regret and make better people.or if you can just start fresh with another man and make a good girlfriend that would nevercheat..even if the guy you said you made out with was just a friend it doesn't change the fact that you cheated on your boyfriend.if you are in relationship with someone you don't just decide for yourself you have to include him.he has the reason to date another girl in aweek or so to show you she could find another girl that quick but he choosed to be with you and now he created another problem.both o yas should just move on and find fresh love becuase that kina relationship you're in now?would just end up hurting you both.get out while its early.
have respect for yourself! he come back to you mainly isn't it just for sex? he is still young.. he is not going to stop with you.. dude don't let him uesd you!
I just came across this and I just had to post my comment, sory if I'm hurting anyone's feelings with this:
...this guy that was JUST MY FRIEND...
I did lay on a couch with him tho and I did makeout with him once but me and my ex were on a break up at the time
-> so you did cheat on him! sory to say this, but serves you right Ho! Seems to lme that you're the one confused and he didn't know how to handle it ... You want one straight piece of advice to solve all your problems? just stop fking him? how simple is that? Jesus, get a brain girl!
lol he's like my boyfriend but the difference is I'm there to help him through..he loves his ex but he wants to get over her..they still see each other but I told him to see her from 3 times a week to 1s a week until he could afford to see her nomore..lately he hasn't seen her for 2 weeks she's at the shore..he got more closer to me,and we are getting married.i said ill take the risk for us I know you are weak for now but thank you very much for letting me in ur heart..im here you won't lose nothing but gain..she is lovely and I am lovely my way..he is really good to me..
i think he immature && needs 2 grow up plus I don't think he knows who he wants or loves like all he wants is sex && with guys that's what makes them change. you must really like him but I think you need someone way better who won't just want sex from you all the time that will do other things with u. plus he have you choose between a friend & him which ur friend had nothing 2 do with ur realtionship with ur bf.
he's just treating you as a rebooty... and as rudybooty said, you're still young, you've got plenty more chances out there!
good lucks with everything ;)