Why is my boyfriend hiding photos of all his ex girlfriends and secret admirers?

[unhappygirl]

Why is it that my boyfriend is hiding photos of his ex gfs and won't tell me. I has a portfolio of them. I have ask him to be honest with me and be up front. I came a crossed a cd and looked at it. I was shocked. I have not said anything to him yet. We have been dating for over a year now. I have asked for an commit with him. He still has not done nothing. We get along great have a lot in common do alt together. I just felling so used right now. Help me understand... please

[TheStaff_Sergeant]

I'll be honest. I have done this. On some level or another, I was still emotionally connected to exes, and thus, I wanted to reminisce about and relive the good times that we shared. Basically, I wasn't ready to let go of the past. As such, looking at their picture from time to time soothed the feelings of missing them.

I should add that on the few occasions that I've been in love, I no longer felt the need to walk in my former shoes. Love naturally cancelled them out.

To answer your question, your guy isn't truly in love with you yet, or he's not the guy for you. After a year and half of being with you, he exes should be out of sight, out of mind, for the most part.

[unhappygirl]

He into p*rn. A lot of these pics are of his old girl friends naked. And the ones he was admiring was not. I don't know whatvto do. When he's with me its wonderful. When we are not he's right on the computer. Justbas soon as I leave. He up dates them as often as he can

[Shimmyshammy]

What if it a guy you like and aren't dating? He has no problem showing other girls the pics of his exes but for some reason can't show you?

[TheStaff_Sergeant]

Then it's safe to assume that he really likes you.

[martyfellow]

Some guys who have never ben in a LTR compensate by keeping albums of photos of casual gf's, usually ALL the girls he's ever dated even once... Naturally he hides them from you because he thinks yoou'll be upset by looking at them.

I'm sure he'd be upset if you had an album of all your past bfs, too!

Such a guy is always going to find itdifficult to settle down with ANY one woman; don't take it personally!

But after a year, it's time tohave 'the talk' with him about commitment! That's a separate issue from his album.

I'd let the album ride for now (lol):you have more important things to talk to him about, don't you?

[unhappygirl]

I have tried. He doesn't know that I know about his portfolio of his women yet. I did tell him about one cd that I found. He got mad. He's not coming clean with any of them. I feel so used. Like a number on his little page.

[martyfellow]

He might not think of you the wsame way. AFter a year, you're not just a casual gf.

But he doesn't want to give up his past adventures...This isn't rare. It's better than having a guy looking at p*rn all the time!

And the album is secondary to the main issue, commitment.

[martyfellow]

Thanks for the BA, and good luck to both of you! When you find where he hides this album, burn it...

[Darkfairie17]

I think it's pretty disrespectful for him to have pictures of his ex's and girls he admires if he is seeing someone. It's not like you two have only dated for a few weeks, you have been together for a year.

He should be more sensitive to your feelings about this. How would he feel if you had pictures of your ex's or guys that liked you? I'm sure he wouldn't like that.

You need to sit down and talk to him. Let him know how it makes you feel. If he is unwilling to change this behavior then you need to make a decision. Do you stay or go?

I know it's hard to leave, but maybe he isn't right for you? He doesn't seem to give you any respect.

[unhappygirl]

Its magical when we are together. I feel so at piece with him. We laugh cry tease and go on a lot of vacations and he pays for it all. I know he's not cheating on me. But these pics just bother me. The ones gets on line. These girls are far away. But some we both work with. I feel weired when I see them know... ewwww just seeing what I seen. Makes me sick.

[3xotica]

Maybe he does love you. I don't have pictures of my ex but every now and them I find my self on his face book. I love my boyfriend very much and I wouldn't leave him for anyone in the world. But sometimes I feel like reliving the moments I had with my ex. I do miss him and I still care for him I loved him very much and I probly will never forget him. Doesn't mean I,m not truly in love with my boyfriend because I am. What you need to do is get all those pictures and videos you found and throw them away. If he dumps you for that he never cared if he lo9ves you for real he will stay with you.

[unhappygirl]

I want to do that. But in all do time. I have a key to his house and can come and go. But when I seen them I felt so used. I think he's a stalker. Or just has a problem