Is it too cliche to have sex on prom night?

[bitsoglass]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 months. We are pretty much at the stage where the only thing in our relationship that we haven't done is have sex. Recently when we were at his house making out he asked me if we were ready to have sex. I told him that I wasn't quite ready yet and he then proceeded to ask if I would be ready by prom. I told him probably not, but ended up mulling this over for a while. I am not quite sure what bothers me more. The thought that if I have sex with him I lose my virginity, and once it is gone it is gone, or the fact that having sex on prom night is extremely cliche and that is not exactly how I want my first time to be. So actually, I'm asking three questions. (1) Should I wait if it is something he really wants to do and I'm not 100% against it? (2) Are things moving too fast? and (3) [like the title says] Is it too cliche to have sex on prom night?

Please and Thank you for your possibly helpful insight.

[Anonymous]

1) Yes

2) Yes

3) You being concerned whether or not it is cliché is a red flag that you should not.

As you stated before, once you give up your virginity you cannot get it back. Three months of dating does not a long lasting relationship make. I am sure if you look back at to when you first started dating he was probably pushing for sex after a few weeks. Sadly enough, we guys are pigs. We want in your pants and the minute you let us in, that is all we are going to ask of you. Forget about dating and going out, it is going to become, "where can we do it". Not sure if you have ever watched "That 70's Show", but Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis' relationship is a pretty accurate description of a "post sex relationship" for a very young couple. If he is still around once your are both in college, maybe you can rethink this.

[jincuj33]

Your guy is being a dick for pressuring you into it by prom, especially if you already told him you aren't ready yet. Sex on prom is definitely cliche so don't do anything you don't want to. Don't let him pressure you into it or make you feel bad for not wanting to.

[puiimun]

Do NOT lost your virginity on prom night; it is SO cliche and not memorable. Also, do not have sex with your boyfriend unless you are 100% sure you want to lose your virginity to him. You do not want to regret it later if you two ever break up. You have to be sure you want to lose it to him. Different relationships move at different speeds; it's what feels comfortable and right to you. It seems like you are a bit hesitant to have sex with him, and the fact that you are asking us whether you should have sex with him or not makes me think you are not ready to have sex yet, but ultimately, it is your choice, just make sure when you do have sex, it is what YOU want. :) Stay safe and good luck.

Oh, and my boyfriend and I just lost it to each other around our one year just an fyi.

[SavannahBanana]

If your not comfortable for sex, then don't do it!

Like you said, once its gone, its gone.

Only you can decide if its too fast. Me and my boyfriend will be together for three months this Monday and we haven't gotten to that point in our relationship.

And at my prom, I know a few people that did, prom was such an amazing time, that if that is something you do in your relationship then it would be fine to me.

[june1216]

to your first question don't do anything YOU don't want to do, sex should be decided by both not just one person.

to your second question, every relationship is different so I can't really say if you're moving to fast or not.

to your thrid, if you're ready on prom night then I don't think its cliche.

[martyfellow]

Yes, it's a dumb idea and WAy too 'cliche.'