How to spot an attention seeking girl; talking from experience

So I wasn't the most experienced dude when it comes to girls and thats undestandable but then I met this girl she seemed nice, genuine, smart, cute and very similiar to me with very similiar priorities. However due to some issues and misunderstandings everything was over but we remained friends; she started changing into another person and doing weird things. I was sad even depressed for a while then when I found out how different she was I managed to overcome it and move on.

We're friends now but I dont treat her the same or care as much anymore and it's for the best. So I am here to help guys like me figure out if they're being used before getting too comitted to a relationship and feel so depressed when it doesn't work out as intended, at least as they intended. So learn from my experience and enjoy.

How to spot an attention seeking girl , talking from experience

How do you spot an attention seeking girl

1- She takes and rarely gives

She asks for your help and compliment you on your skills and talents then asks for a favor. Even if it sounds simple or unimportant she is just using you for her own good. Try asking her something and she will come up with excuses and later on when you get really mad at her not fulfilling your requests she will blame it on someone else and act as if she cares about you but a a third party is interefering and ruining it.

2- Very few girl friends and doesn't get along with most girls

She has mostly guy friends and guys around her, claiming they're less headache and drama than girls and that she's one of the boys and gets along with guys better and might even go as far as joking with these guys sexually. But the fact remains she likes the attention.

3- She obviously has a boyfriend or has her eyes on someone or even both

So at this point just cut the chase and leave her alone. Dont be mean or anything...Just leave her out of your dating circle and if she asks tell her you're not into girls who are in a realtionship.

4- If you ever get mad with her and start ignoring her, or if you're talking/flirting with other girls in her presence she will be more willing to talk to you

Be nice and get closer and try to make you like her again even flirt with you or try to get you away from these girls. But once thats achieved you're uninteresting...Again, you're her ego boost so watch out for the signs.

5- The closer you are the further she gets

No matter what you do or how you feel, she will always seem really distant. No matter the good things you do or how many times a day you make sure she's fine or the texts you send her, it's all unimportant. She will not give you any attention but will suck the attention out of you.

6- She seems really nice and a good person, trustwhorthy and even an attractive girl next door type of girl, genuine, real and down to earth; not the kind to brag or show off and she seems to be really popular with guys. They're all over her all the time. 70%-80% of her time is spent talking/hugging guys even the ones with GFs, yet at the end of the day she calls them her friend and nothing more, no matter how hard they try.

7- She's a tease as in she knows she won't sleep with you or date you but at the same time she has the most random excuses to show her skin. She would try lifting up her pant a bit to show her leg, show you her shoulder, back, stomach, ask you if her thigh looks and feels toned and if her waist is too wide while lifting her shirt. Or showing you her piercings. She might even let you touch her once or twice but then that's it, if you ever try touching her she will get away from you and no matter how hard you try she will never give it up, at least not for you. So all that flirting is useless, it's just her way to fish for compliments. So be careful to not to give too much of it or even anything for that matter.

I've been there maybe not at the beggining but later on she started acting like that. It's annoying and frustrating but being the person I am, I went to her and told her: "Look I am done playing games so do whatever you want. I am not interested in dating you or following you around like a puppy. You like the attention. I am not like that I avoid girls like you"

Of course she started trying to get closer but I know what's going to happen. So I am being nice to her but never going give her that kind of attention again.

I hope it helps you guys and no offence girls; this is just to help my boys out there who are in similiar situations and dont know why its not working out with them. After all we learn from each other and if I can help then thats good.


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What Girls Said 2

  • All the same points apply for attention seeking men too.

  • Good take. I can see that these are things that happen often and they aren't far fetched.


What Guys Said 2

  • Those are what in Spain we call "calientapollas", and everybody hates them xD

  • #7 is the worst. Good take.

    • thanks man i really wanted to share this and benefit guys like me who have problems with such girls , nothing is more frustrating than being the kindest and most trustworthy person to someone who just doesn't feel it for you but keeps you around because that person likes knowing you're there for them and help boost their self esteem without benefiting you in anyway.

    • also yeah number 7 hhhhhh its annoying tbh she shows skin and you're justing sitting there like "dafuq she's doing? why is showing me her leg or waist or whatever she's showing? " its hot i admit and gives you a boner but you're never going to get anything out of her so its a waste of time and is just meant to tease you and feel better about herself.