I understand, you don't want to hurt us but in essence beating around the bush or trying to make things what they aren't hurts us even more. When we do find out it hurts just as bad if not more, so why not tell us from the start. I'm talking about if you're not feeling "us" anymore and you're dating someone else. Just tell me that plain and simple. If we're in the stages of talking it shouldn't be hard to clear that up, it's just common courtesy. I have no problem moving on and yes it might hurt me that we weren't able to work out but at least I'll have closure and clarification. Instead you choose to go absent on me and I'm stuck wondering what the heck I did wrong. Girls, don't just leave us hanging, if you at least kind of care about us just let us know, you don't even have to say why exactly just at least tell us that we're not working out. Leaving a guy wondering hurts him way more than telling him the truth. Pulling a disappearing act on us makes our mind wander and think even more and in the end our feelings are hurt a lot more. I just felt like writing this because there's this girl I liked and we were talking and I don't know what happened but she started dating someone else and I found out she apparently still has feelings for me but she didn't want to hurt me so she just flaked on our date and didn't ever contact me again. It hurt really bad and if she had just told me when I had asked her out that she was talking to someone else I would have been hurt less and moved on. So ladies, please think about us before you try to "spare our feelings" ok.