Let's start at the beginning with the my friend, I'll call her Jane* My father and her's were friends before I was born so I was basically forced to be around this girl I didn't really like but It was okay because she basically ignored me. When she was 18 she started dating James* It lasted three years and they were the couple that alwayss faught. On and off, on and off again. She was the drunk girl screaming at him in front of everyone that he needed to pay more attention to her, he was the embarrised guy waiting for her to calm down enought to let him drive her home.
I was the girl she complained to about him. I only really got to know James* after they broke up so I took her words blindly.
Eventually he dumped her. A month later he was at my place working on my dad's car, I was the only one home and it was going to take a few days of him coming over. We started talking more and more, after a week I kissed him. A month later... He asked me to be his girlfriend.
When Stella* found out she freaked, she told people he was only with me for my virginity (I'm 17, he's 23) she told people he cheated on her with me and that I had a smoking problem. All lies... Lies my parents even ended up hearing but I was lucky, they trust me enough to know what's true and what's not.
I'm one of the lucky girls, my relationship is going strong and I had the will power to stand up to his ex. For any other girls out there in this situation think it through before you do anything. Make sure you're willing to deal with the possible loss of a friend, backstabbing and an uphill battle to gain the respect of some close minded people.
If he's worth it though then do it! Go for the guy and make yourself happy because you deserve it.