Texting guide for Guys

Texting is a game of tennis!

Texting guide for Guys

1. When you text her wait for her reply

Just like a game of tennis when you hit the ball over the net you have to wait for the ball to be hit back over the net to you.

2. Only use 1 ball at a time

There is 2 players in our game of tennis. The guy and the girl. They use 1 ball and 1 ball only. This means that when you send a text you only send 1 text and 1 text only.

Example of wrong.

Guy: Hey whats happening

Guy: Hello ?

Guy: Guess your busy.

Girl: Sorry only just saw your text.

Example of right.

Guy: Hey whats happening

Girl: Hey nothing much and you ?

This still applies if she has read your text but has not replied. The ball is still in her court. So you have to wait for her to hit it back over the net.


Don't over do it

1. Dont write essays. Do keep it simple!

2. Dont try so hard

Do not try so hard gentlemen. Stop writing stories and stories of what you did today.

Remember keep it simple.

When you write these wonderfull A+ essays with perfect storyline you are coming on too strong for the girl. She is immeddialty thinking wow this guy must like me if he is telling me this much and taking so much time to write this TEXT MESSAGE. You are killing your mystery by just openely telling her what you did instead of letting her ask you. Woman Love Mystery ! They love to investigate and figure out things about you ! You should be a mystery to her. Remember Woman are curious creatures. So by you telling her all this stuff over text your leaving nothing for her to be curious over.

Dont kill the mystery

3. Dont text everyday

When you text her everyday you become boring and predictable. When its predictable there is no more mystery. What did i say before? O yea thats right Dont kill the mystery. If you text her everyday you dont leave her to wonder about you. These thoughts "Who is he with ? " "What is he doing?" "Why haven't i heard from him yet?" They won't enter a girls mind if your texting her everyday. So stop trying so hard and leave her alone for a bit. She won't forget you if you dont talk to her for a few days. She will instead miss you and make her wonder about you and be curious. This is a good thing. And besides you should be busy working on something that you love. Fix the shed if you have to. Be busy it will make you feel like a man.


Dont be so sexual

1. Stop trying to "Turn her on" over text.

This does not work.

You telling her your going to lick her neck does nothing but make her think " Arghh they are all the same" You dont want to be the same. Because then you are killing the mystery !

Dont kill the mystery.

If you are the same as the other guys then what does she have left to figure out about you. Nothing ! isn't that boring. So stop just stop trying to make a bedroom out of your words. Unless you are E. L. James's brother then dont try being sexual because chances are you will not succeed in turning her on. You do want to succeed right ? I will show you how later...

2.) What if she is being sexy mexy on the texts?

Think about what she will be doing if you were together ?

So get together.


Be direct and to the point

Confidence is not only shown in person gentlemen.

1. If you are texting a girl chances are you like her. But i have news for you. No matter how great your writing is this won't make her feel more attracted to you. That is done in person.

To be self-confident is to be secure in yourself and your abilities.

So instead of doing what most guys do which is beat around the bush. Yea yea beat around the bush and text her all day long looking for signs wheter or not she is intrested... Looking for hints. Just all day long. Not anymore!

You are going to be confident and sure of yourself.

YOU ARE NOT

You are not going to beat around the bush.

You are not going to wait for signs.

You are not going to have useless text conversations.

YOU ARE

You are going to be direct.

You are going to be confident.

You are going to be quick and desisive.

Let me introduce to you The Game Changer.

"Hey i would like to see you, when are you free ? "

That is it gentlemen. When you are texting a girl you are going to ask her out on a date. You will do this quickly. Dont have a bs conversation first.

Be direct and to the point.

How do i do that ?

"Hey i would like to see you, when are you free ? "

You will wait for her to tell you and then you will set a time that you will either meet her at a place or pick her up.


VERY IMPORTANT

After you have set the date you will then get off the phone.

You no longer need to talk.. you have a date set and can talk there. If you talk before the date then you may run the risk of running out of things to say on the date. You are the man so you steer the conversation. So dont shoot yourself in the foot.

Example of wrong.

Guy: Hey whatsup

5mins later

Girl: Nothing much just finished watching my show wbu.

8 mins later

Guy: Just got home you will never guess what happend to me today ?

10 mins later

Girl: What?

15 mins later

Guy: Blah blah blah

10 mins later

Girl: Blah blah blah

7 mins later
Guy : Blah blah blah

20 mins later

Girl Blah blah blah

10 mins later

Guy: oh haha .Hey when are you free to get together i want to see you ?

Did you see how long that took ? Dont be this guy.

Instead

Example of Right

Guy: Hey how is it going.

5mins later

Girl: Good and you ?

2mins later

Guy: Good hey i want to see you, when are you free to get together?

You have just set yourself apart from all the other guys out there.


Leave conversation for when you are in person

Girls like to talk.

Lets look at how texting conversations normally go.

Guy : So you are born in california ?

Girl : Yea i was raised there too.

Guy : What did you like about it ?

Girl : It was just sunny and fun.

Guy : O really ? What was fun about it ?

Girl : Oh you know just normal childhoods. Running and playing with friends.

Now lets look at how this same convo would have gone in person.

Guy : So you are born in california ?

Girl : Yea i was raised there too. I love it there! It was always so sunny and when me and my friend go to paly outside we always had to wear sunscreen. hahaha i always tried to sneak out of the house before my Mom could stop me so i dont have to put it on.

Guy : Haha what did you and your friends do ?

Girl : hahaha we use to play this game called cat and mouse. Basicly its where .... .... ... .. .

See how much was said in a way shorter space of time and it makes the conversation more valueble and potentially connectful that was compared to doing it over text?. Woman want to connect with you. So leave those conversations for when you are in person.


When she texts you first

When she texts you first. You simply set a date

Because she texted you first she wants to see you. Why ? Well she was thiking about you before she sent the text. She wants to talk to you since she reached out.

So because you are confident you are going to set a date.

Again

YOU ARE NOT

You are not going to beat around the bush.

You are not going to wait for signs.

You are not going to have useless text conversations.

YOU ARE

You are going to be direct.

You are going to be confident.

You are going to be quick and desisive.

You will respond with. "Hey I would like to see you. When are you free to get together ?"

Max 2 to 3 texts then you will ask her when she is free.

Set the date and get of the phone.

And remember dont participate in any bs useless text conversation.

There you go gentlemen!

Girls Guide to texting and Couples Guide to texting coming soon.


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What Girls Said 11

  • I really like this guide!

    But on my end, sometimes I write essays.
    I guess I am the stereotypical woman that loves to engage in rapport.

    But this a great guide for those who want to play it safe and not look clingy.

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  • So quality over quantity huh?

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    • Yea the phone is for appointment/date setting only. Too many people trade this for the real thing in person and never get to experience the magic.

  • You wrote "If you are texting a girl chances are you like her". That does not always happen believe me. It happened to me and it id not work.

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    • Let me add also the part of if a girl text first is becaue she likes him right? Well what if the guy does not get the drift and he is clueless that if the girl is making hte contact first is becaue she likes her. WHat if he ain't got the clue but he kept texting you normally and u both tease a little and flirt, but that does not mean the guy likes the girl.

    • Okay why would he look at this guide if he doesn't like the girl. I said in the guide what to do if a girl texts you first. Its in there. If he is still clueless there is nothing no one but the girl he is texting can do.

  • I prefer some longer texting conversations to decide if I even WANT to meet the guy. If he's rushing to get me on a date after just one or two short messages, I'm assuming he just wants to get laid and will stall or drop him like a rotten tomato.

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    • Plus, most guys I've communicated with don't text often. They don't like to use words. Can't be bothered putting them together in sentences.

      I've only met one, I think, who was anything like your examples. The rest were like pulling teeth to get them to say anything that gave me any clue to their personality, which is super annoying.

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    • With my 45 years of wisdom, I'm going to stop falling for troll bait now. It's been fun.

    • Damn, you really got me too. Lol. I still make the mistake of assuming people are sincere on the Internet.

  • The thing is, if the girl in question actually likes you, there really needn't be 'texting rules' or game-playing involved. If I like a guy, he can text me as much as he wants and I'll like it either way.

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    • There is no game... No you won't like it either way it will get boring. I have done both text everyday and keeping the for date setting. Guess what works. A lit of guys would agree with me here

    • Agree with opinion owner

  • Simply be yourself... If you want to text her daily trust me... She's not going to complain especially if you both have busy schedules, keep it fun and flirty... Convos in text can be carried over in person too... The waiting around doesn't keep me furious or interested - my efforts will go to where I see effort, simple as that... And I find it cute when you can see little hints of him trying to ask you out, beating around the bush before working up the nerve to just come out and ask - it's fun to tease in that flirty way and let's you lead him up to that point... Just have fun with it

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    • *curious not furious 😉

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    • Success does not just happen.

    • Why is this man poor? was it meant to be? Bullshit

  • Most of this is actually fantastic advice for guys when texting the girl you fancy. Boys, please read this twice. You're gonna need it

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  • I prefer essays than just a couple of words lol If he didn't have much to say i would think he felt indifferent about me. Plus, if he didn't text me every day i wouldn't bother keeping in touch with him. I need to know a guy is interested. It is so much harder to know if someone is interested via texting, That is why it is important to text regularly, be reliable and have more to say than a few words, I expect to have a convo via a text,

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    • " Plus, if he didn't text me every day i wouldn't bother keeping in touch with him" - if a guy did this to you.. You won't be wondering about him... you will instead be wondering why is this guy not texting me everyday? What is he doing? And if your busy with your purpose you don't have time to text. In and out of meetings. Busy planning there is no time to text all day.
      "It is so much harder to know if someone is interested via texting" If he is asking you out on a date... Well maybe he is interested? If he is doing certain things in person.. Well just maybe he is interested. You can say what you want. I know for a fact if a guy was typing essays to you everyday.. You will not be so excited to go out with him than the other guy who is being direct and straight up " Hey id like to see you.. When are you free? " Men don't go out of there way to go out with girls they DON'T like. "I expect to have a convo via a text" - You expect a convo via text because that's what all the guys do.

    • "That is why it is important to text regularly, be reliable and have more to say than a few words, I expect to have a convo via a text"
      And thats what always happened so this is strange to you. And this is different to texting when your in a relationship by the way. This is a guy you only been on 1 date with or not even first date is still coming. You will feel "confused" if a guy you have only gone on 1 date with.. Starts blowing up your phone.. You will think he is needy, obsessive etc. I advise everyone out in the world to not take advise about this stuff from anyone who is not in a loving relationship.. That you can see. Woman will sugar coat things and tell you what they "think" they want aka what they show in the movies. And Men will be more upfront but still tell you to be like they are in the movies.
      The movies have it very wrong.

  • I don't agree with much of the stuff in this post. If you want to talk to me just talk to me, don't play games.

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    • What don't you agree with?

    • And this isn't a game. Its like maturity and efficiency. Study it all and think about it deeply. You will see how this will mend with your life if you are living to your full potential as a man.

    • "If you want to talk to me just talk to me, don't play games." - Talking in person is better than text. Agree? So why have a conversation that could be very meaningful in person but then do it over text which you forget cause its so bland. No game. If you are confident, efficient, socially intelligent and ambitious passion driven hard working man then You will do this naturally. No game.

  • Great advice for guys. You seem to know women quite well, I found myself agreeing with pretty much all of it.

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    • Yea when I was like 10.. I remember asking my Granddad "I don't understand woman?" and he said " Neither do I.. No one does." I was annoyed by that i thought there must be a way. I asked my Dad he said " Don't try to understand them the more you try the more confused you get" I thought to my self that's bs ! There must be a way! All the guy older than me continued telling me the same thing don't try too its impossible , woman don't even understand themselves and your asking me this? and If i knew i would tell you. I was so frustrated.. How is this possible. No one understands? No one ! And of course i asked woman but they explained in their language which was foreign to me so that got me no where. When I was 17 I found some materials, books , you tube channels, life coaches the works and i started reading, watching , putting it to the test, observing it and just studying it like it was a sbjct i can't fail. And now here I am at 18 so lucky to know these things so young. Had to share!

    • Yeah I wish I had someone to tell me this stuff 10 years ago. Would have been a much better class subject than music appreciation

  • Awesome job Mr. Mystery!

    And men please keep in mind not to say "lol" so much. It throws me off.

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    • Thank you !

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    • @Swanny Why aren't you confident man. I was once so scared I couldn't even talk to a girl even if I didn't like her. I turned it all around and so can you !

    • @MrMystery28 Simply because I did not have an easy childhood so I guess I've been negatively affected. For the time being, I'm trying my best to overcome these issues :)

What Guys Said 24

  • This is really good. Some of it I consider to be "common sense" but then again, who knows what common sense even is these days. Great reminder and I agree with this information.
    Basically, I just see texting as an informal way to filter out dates and get to know them initially and setup meeting face-to-face, where the game REALLY begins.
    If someone struggles with being patient/over-invested emotionally, this is what you do: text/talk to MULTIPLE women. Cast your net wide, it works!

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    • Yea talking to multiple woman is very good.. It like makes you live in abdunace since if one girl acts flakey your not bothered as the other girl is way more into you so you spend your time with her. Instead of pleasing the flakey girl spending ages to get her to go out with you. Just a waste of time. You should spend your time with those who are just as excited to see you as you are to see them.

  • Hi, awesome read and I will certainly use it. Need some advice, so I asked this girl out last Monday for next Friday (valentines weekend) when should I confirm time with her? After reading your article I haven't messaged her for about 2 days now. My buddy tells me not to message her till Sunday or Monday. Should I wait that long? Any suggestions will help. by the way we did meet online.

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    • Okay when you set a date you should have a time while doing that. What you can do when doing that is this. Right you set the date you have a date Friday. Now just say sweet l will pick you up at 7. Now if she has a problem with that she will say something like. No that's too early or I am home at 8 pick me up then you know. Woman help you if they like you. Otherwise she will be like okay or see you then. You know? For your case tho just text her something like this. Hey for Friday I am going to come you up at X. So be ready ;). She will suggest a time if its inconvenient. You can really just message her like right now if you want. Then confirms the times and be like alright cool i have to run but I will see you then.

  • In no way is this a texting guide. This is a douchey generalization of how to act like an alpha via text message. The best guide is to fucking text her when you feel like it and be up front. If you want to date her you should state that pretty early and set a date but while your planning the date you should be having a side conversation meanwhile. Especially online you havnt met this girl yet so you need to do a little get to knowingg

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    • This is a douchey generalization of how to act like an alpha via text message? How is this douchey?
      You go do that bro see how well it goes. No one said you have to follow this. If you don't want to don't. My guide for online would be completely different. You would have a phone call before you even ask her out. People need to use their own thinking too its not a step 1 step 2 process.

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    • i never had a question i was posting an opinion.

    • I see from your profile. You are suffering from nice guy syndrome correct?

  • Na, i say trash the whole thing.

    NED'S GUIDE TO MALE - FEMALE INTERACTION:
    -Step 1. Find a female with which you wish to converse
    -Step 2. When you wish to talk to that person, open your damn mouth and talk to them you little sissy bitches.
    -------1.5: This can be achieved through face-to-face communication or over the phone by calling them.

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  • thanks for making this mytake, this will help me so much!

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  • Very nice advice, this is very true. How about calling her? I know this is just texting, but calling is the next step. When to call her? Should i even call her?

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    • If you are going to call and not text same thing. Make it short and to the point... Ask her out in like 10 mins max make it definite date and get of the phone.

  • Great my take. Not all women like that cause the ones that find the guy so mysterious end up thinking that you're a creep or something. But the majority of women probly liked a guy like that. Id say maybe like 5 or 6 txts 3 to 4 is too short. You wanna make sure she's comfortable with you in order for them to go on a date right? But overall this is a great guide!👍

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    • Well you have talked in person and got her number so you should already be sure she is interested. She will test you if she is not comfortable with you. Act flakey too see what you do. aka Are you really as confident as you portray you are.

    • True that! Your a f**** genius man! And you're young too. So let me tell you that you're gonna have a great life!

    • Thanks for the compliment man! But I am not a genius I am just another guy who is trying to get a little bit better everyday and pay everything I learn forward. And it is my mission to have a great and happy life no matter what happens. You only live once. Its so cliche people overlook it. But people always ask for answers to why and how. You only live once will usually come up but its said so much the meaning is lost. Sometimes you just need to stop and look at things for what it really is and not what everyone else says it is.

  • But what if your first text was an ace or an unreturnable?

    Or what if she does text back but you play a drop volley and she gets caught on the baseline of texting?

    Or what if you text on a break point and its a double fault?

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    • What in the world are you talking about?
      ace or an unreturnable?
      drop volley
      gets caught on the baseline of texting?
      break point and its a double fault?
      "Complexity is the enemy of execution" - Tony Robbins

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    • Sometimes even when you're 2 sets to love down and 40 love and match point down, you can come back to win in 5 sets.

    • Its never to late to be the Confident Alpha male you were suppose to be in life.

  • Very nice take, I know from experience talking to her for hours through text everyday is just a bad bad idea...

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    • Exactly she gets used to having you around and then takes you for granted. And when you get together there is nothing exciting you have already had the conversations on the text. You will be like what I say? Just a bad way to go...

  • Would this work with an ex of 3 months ago? Is there anything i would need to do differently?

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    • If the ex contacted you. State you are not interested in friends but only romance. And make a date. If the ex didn't contact you not much you can do except go out there and find someone a million times better.

  • Stopped reading at..

    "Dont be so sexual
    1. Stop trying to "Turn her on" over text.
    This does not work."

    Dude you should see my collection of nudes lmao

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  • "Don't beat around the bush".

    This is helpful. Thanks.

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  • This is really good bro!!!

    Damn wish I was as skilled as you. What if they read and maybe your message was ambiguous. Does that prevent you from initiating next time?

    Or else if you end the convo can you initiate next time?

    In fact, how do you end and deal with initiation techniques in general if that makes sense?

    Erm.. could you help me out since you know your stuff?

    girlsaskguys. com/girls-behavior/q1889570-why-would-a-woman-group-message-you-in-this-special-circumstance

    girlsaskguys. com/flirting/q1889572-if-you-meet-a-nice-girl-at-uni-but-she-has-a-boyfriend-then-she-is

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    • End the text like this : "Alright cool i will talk to you then ( Date) I have to run Enjoy.
      And initiate like a few days after date to get anopther date. Eventually she will text you.

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    • You and Me dinner. 1on1 conversation with amazing food. When are you free?
      1on1 I think that makes it very clear. The bowling and skating keep it a secret make the dinner near the bowling or skating. Just as your walking to the dinner place. Be like lets go bowling. Grab her hand and just go. Afterwards have dinner. Or have dinner then go bowling. Just lead. Plan it out man. Make her think your with another girl on valentine. Thats why if you are message her then she knows you are free and open/ not seeing anyone. And Chinese new year like no its not sexy or anything just leave that. And um Check your msgs you need to read this book asap before that day comes. You need to fill in these gaps your asking me about quickly and the book covers it.

    • I'll check it out.

      Yeah I am just scared to say the words, you me 1 on 1 convo. Is it too forward? I mean can I really say I want her to myself? Or pls can I meet u without those socially awkward people lol?

      Right so make it clear.. yeah I guess. In terms of valentines, what about sending a message to have a good day/weekend/whatever. Just not using the valentine word?

      Is it bad not to text her chinese new yr?

  • 💯/💯

    *bows*

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  • I hate all of this cause it attributes too a women's game
    but it's very true
    but I don't follow an of this and won't

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    • There is no Game it makes sense if you think about it deeply. There is no game. If you are busy you can't text all the time. You talk more if you dont "talk" before the date. No game. But you dont have believe any of it. All of this works.. you can choose if you follow it or not. Everyone knows being healthy feels and looks good. But people don't follow it.

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    • like I said you don't know what an alpha is its not a leader
      and no im not scared
      people say stupid shit and I call them out on there stupid shit,
      that's the difference between me and them, I'm not a kiss ass,
      and dude don't try to play ohh you've been cheated on crap now your mad at women cause everyone has been cheated on, not just once but multiple times that's how life works,
      and don't talk about ohhhh negativity with so much going on and you want me too ignore it WHAT!!! like I said not an alpha
      I hate that term anyway

    • I didn't say everyones been cheated on... Who said you were scared? That must be what you think we think of you then... And negativity does not mean you ignore things... You dont let it affect you badly aka getting angry/ upset or even miserable.. Instead your happy and focus on the good and why this shitty thing that happened to me is good. Thats being positive does not meaan you ignore anything. You seem to try really hard to feel significant.. First you stated your older than me making you more wiser by societies terms which in turn makes you feel significant. Like you matter more. You hate the term Alpha because deep down you dont feel alpha so if someone says Im alpha or talks about alphas you feel inferior/ less significant which makes you feel shitty. So you ended up hating the term. By saying everyone gets cheated on it makes the fact that you were cheated on less severe. Cause it happens to everyone and thats how "your life" works. It doesn't make you feel as bad by saying tht

  • This is why I hate texting. You make valid points but it seems like some girls think you're over doing it by texting them a few days after a date but also not interested if you wait long enough.

    But I agree about getting straight to the point when asking for a date, beating around the bushes is useless.

    I prefer to have conversations through person and not text, whether its with a date or friend because if you text too much then you might not have anything to talk about in person.

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    • @MrMystery28 do you think just sending a simple hey what's up? after a first date is overdoing it?

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    • Yeah, it's just weird because 2 days ago I had this amazing date with this girl I just met and she was already asking me if I wanted to go to this brewery with her on Wednesday. She even said hit me up before we parted ways. Then I texted her about a few hours ago and she hasn't even responded.

      I mean not to over analyze but that's just strange.

    • Just wait she is probably busy. When she replies make the date. Don't stress.

  • i figured most of this is common sense. do people really not know these? never double text... NEVER!!!

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    • Everyone knows something but its the things they don't know that's "Killing" them in a sense.

  • Heck yeah, this is the kinds good advise this site needs

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  • Solid advice. The most important part is definitely that it's best to be direct in text messages and not beat around the bush about asking her out.

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    • Yea it shows confidence and it saves you so much time. Time is your most valuable resource.

  • This is great! Thanks for this - I definitely text way too much and beat around the bush - these are things I need to keep in the back of my mind

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    • No worries man! You will definitely see a difference in the woman you are dating's interest level towards you.

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