It frustrates me sometimes when I hear both guys and girls talk about themselves as if they are nobodies in the dating world because they haven't been successful in the dating pool. It's frustrating, it is, but on the same token, you have to know your worth and know that yes, even though you may have gone through a lot of rejection or not had any real success, that it isn't always you or some fault of your own as the reason why you aren't in a relationship or hooking up.
Ladies and Gentlemen, get out of the friend zone
As tempting as it may seem to stick around and see if the guy/girl you're after will just magically decide one day that you're it, don't do it. Don't get stuck in that quick sand of "we can just be friends," because that's just it isn't it...YOU don't want to be friends. You want this person. You like, lust, love this person and you want to be with them, not sitting on the side lines waiting for them to call, to notice you, to hell, remember what your name really is. I'll call it what it is. It's pathetic, and it's only pathetic because you could be going after people who actually show interest in you. You should be investing your precious time in those that acknowledge your pursuit of them, and not sit by idly on some never ending wait list.
Rejection isn't always about you
When you put your heart out there, when you put your ego up, it sucks to get rejected, but sometimes it has nothing to do with you. He or she could be just out trying to relax with their friends, or pissed off about work, or married, or tired at the end of the night, already hooking up with someone else, any number of things. Not everyone in a bar or club or wherever is primed and ready and looking for a date or sex, but you can't take it personally. You just have to write it off and keep it moving, instead of falling into a pit of despair. Also don't fall into the trap of assuming everyone is just a "bitch," or a "jerk" because they say no. Think of the people you've rejected in your lifetime. Do you think you're a bitch or a jerk for saying no to them? On the flip side, stop thinking every single person on earth "should" like you just because you've asked them out. Ego much? You wouldn't have to ask if there were some type of guaranteed response, so it is part of the risk you take.
Your value shouldn't be dependent on getting a date
Your entire world should not revolve around some guy or some girl or the prospects of getting a guy or a girl. How do so many people so easily reduce their entire life to nothingness because they are single? If you're lonely and striking out, work on accomplishing something...anything else, in the meantime that has nothing to do with the opposite sex. Fulfill your life with other hobbies, pursuits, travel, career aspirations, self-improvement, something. Make your life story more interesting for you, so when someone else comes along it isn't, I was just some lonely person sitting in a dark corner crying and waiting for you to appear. You're better then that, and if you aren't, become better than that!
Desperation is an ugly look, especially when it becomes your whole life. You are not a special flower who is the only one on the planet to have had to kiss a lot of frogs before they get to their prince or princess. Don't just snap up the next one you see because they showed any kind of interest in you. You need to believe deep down inside your soul that you deserve the best. You deserve someone who is going to be 100% in love with you and all the things that make you, you. No one truly lives a happy and fulfilled love life when they settle for someone out of sheer panic or desperation. When you see the glaring signs that this person isn't really there for you, cheats on you, abuses you, treats you with disrespect, is using you, don't stay with them out of fear of being lonely. In some cases, it really is better that you are a lone and working on yourself, than being with someone who is going to end up trying to destroy you.