Your Friends Just Ruined Your Relationship!

I just came out of a crazy 2 year relationship. The craziest part? How I didn't see it coming! The biased advice, the strong criticism, the eye rolls and the whispers- YES, those were the best friends that ruined my relationship!

I can't say that my relationship was perfect. In fact we fought a lot about silly things! My boyfriend was a warm, care-free guy, while I was always the super optimistic worrier. Well one night I came home from a late night at work... the house was a mess, no dinner, dirty dishes- and my special boyfriend was sitting on the couch playing his PS4. One thing led to another, and we had a very big fight! This one fight slowly progressed into other fights, and before we knew it (months later)- he moved out.

I was devastated because our issues really weren't so big that we couldn't overcome this- but my boyfriend fled, after 2 years! I spent the next few days furiously talking to him, trying to figure it out, as we both missed each other. Until one evening, I turned on my computer & I came across the answer.

My boyfriend had been logged into his Facebook account on my laptop, and what I saw, took me back. An open chat window revealed the growth of a seed, that has been planted long before I ever knew we had problems. My bf's best friend of 8 years (single & opinionated) had been giving my boyfriend advice on how to handle me, when I was difficult. "Don't listen to her, you don't need that" or "Trust me, she needs an older guy to cope with her", my most favorite; "You need to be single, you're so young". February, April, May, August, October... month after month, I was made to be the enemy!

I was so fed up with seeing this! I went to the gym for an hour, and came home to a message from the boyfriend "Let's talk later, I am going out for a drink with Chris (his best friend of 8 years)", I smiled and said "enjoy".

I was so angry at Chris for the longest time. He didn't even know me that well! He only heard one side of the story! Why didn't he see how much I loved my bf? He ruined my relationship!

But then a funny thing happened! 2 months later I met a guy. He was outspoken, and charming and fun... 5 months in, we had an argument, and I walked out. 2 days later, he reached out and we talked it out. He even showed me a text from a "friend" of his; "She is a bit too dramatic for you, don't you think?" and he replied with "I asked for your help, not a psychological evaluation". AND BAM! IT HIT ME!

Yes, Chris undermined my relationship. And he even said things that were so out of line- I was appalled. BUT WAIT A MINUTE? It was my boyfriend that allowed Chris to plant the seed of doubt about me. It was my boyfriend that didn't stand up for us, and it was most certainly my boyfriend that allowed a "friend" to ruin something that he so called "cared" about. HA!

Friends don't belong in a relationship between 2 people- but its up to the 2 parties to keep it this way. Sometimes you have to make a choice between a friend and a partner... BUT can friends really ruin your relationship? SURE! If you let them!


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  • 3mo

    Nah your re wrong.

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  • 3mo

    ... I reread this 2 times... I don't know. I had a girlfriend who treated me like shit. You tell her what she did wrong then suddenly I'm the bad guy. By looking at this post. You say you argue over little stuff.

    " GUYS HATE THAT SHIT!"

    Then it built up to bigger and other fights.
    Depending on what's that's about you were doomed from the get go. Now if dishes and all that jazz wasn't done. You say your peace and let it go. No need to argue. If you were my girlfriend I'd ignore you after you repeat yourself. Mistakes are bound to happen weither we know better or not. That guy know you worked those long hard days but rather game all day. I'd be pissed too especially nothing to eat that's solid.

    Alright I'm going everywhere. But your basically telling us that prove Chris right. Only thing you said what your boyfriend did is at the beginning. After that your making it seem like you start fights, you can't control your emotions, and he is in the wrong too but not enough info given.

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    • 3mo

      I wish I can talk to you more about this but I'm sure your ready to put this to rest.

    • 3mo

      Well.. People fight though. That doesn't necessarily have to do with not being able to control one's emotions. Sometimes it's due to different opinions, isn't it?

      (You're right, there's not enough information. But there are so many factors. Sometimes people just don't care about what's important to the other person.)

    • 3mo

      @NanaXXXX I do care. Cause I don't want to sit here pick on you and he's at fault too. That's one sided and I'm not that type. but when it all boils down you had a moment of revelation and you withstood the test of time.

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