He talked badly about me to my boyfriend, until we broke up. Only to try and sleep with me after...
I was dating my college sweetheart, Thomas. We were together for a year and I was loving his thoughtfulness, and funny immature humor. Things were going well, and I enjoyed what we had going. It was our 1 year anniversary, so Thomas bought me a plane ticket to visit his home town. I was super excited to meet his family as well as his best friends.
When we arrived, his parents were super warm and just as I had imagined. Afterwards, we wandered off to visit his best friend Paul. Paul seemed like a good guy, and had an odd sense of humor, but it was Thomas' best buddy, so I tried my best to make an impression. The three of us spent the week together, going out, playing cards against humanity, and just having tons of fun. I actually really enjoyed spending time with Paul.
A week after Thomas and I got back to our place, I saw Thomas left his Facebook messenger open on his lap top. I saw a message from Paul, "yeah I know what you mean, but honestly she just seems young and not for you". That was the first sign that something was up but I let it go.
The following week, Thomas and I were watching a movie, when he got a text message on his cell. He asked me to hand him his phone, so I did. After a few message exchanges, he put his phone away. That evening, I was super curious- so I did the inevitable and peeked. The messages were from Paul. They were talking about a cool car, and then Paul mentioned "if you can get the ol' ball and chain to let you get away for the weekend". This seemingly agitated me, but again I didn't want to stir anything up.
Finally, the last straw was when a month later Thomas and I got into an argument. He was complaining that I wasn't affectionate and that "everyone" could see that I was too young and immature. This enraged me... I blurted out "who is everyone? You mean Paul?"... Thomas was shocked and said, "well, yeah". I was super angry at this point, and replied with "good then listen to him, we are done and I'm moving out". Thomas was silent, as I grabbed my jacket and went to sleep at my parents' place.
After 3 days went by, and Thomas didn't call- I was extremely sad and disappointed. But what shocked me the most is that, Paul sent me a message on Facebook asking me to meet him for coffee to talk, as he was in town. I agreed and went to meet him at Starbucks.
When I arrived Paul looked concerned, and started telling me that Thomas needs space, and that we didn't seem compatible anyways. I thought Paul was genuine, until the conversation went to a different place. "You're super hot, and Thomas knows you're too good for him", "My hotel is around the corner, do you wanna come in?"- Paul was firing away... I was confused and didn't know what to say, and then it finally came to me. "I'm not good enough for Thomas but good enough for you?" I smirked. He smiled and replied with "I always thought you were good looking, we could have some fun". My heart sank, and I excused myself and walked away.
Thomas tried to get back together with me for the next month, but I declined. I don't need someone who can be so easily influenced by someone else. He obviously didn't love me. As for Paul, yeah he sent me a few texts and tried to get together and hook up... No surprise that I didn't reply- and Thomas and Paul are no longer friends, as I found out through a mutual friend.
Sometimes you have to question your friends and their intentions when they talk badly about your partner and later try to get with them.