I can't tell you how many times I hear from a woman that she'd like her man to try harder. She'd like him to buy her flowers, take her on dates, ask her insightful questions about herself, etc. And when he doesn't she gets angry and thinks her guy doesn't care.
Well, unfortunately for guys she's right. Guys aren't socialized to be the relationship pros that women are. A good relationship for a guy is one where they don't have to talk a lot and doesn't require a lot of maintenance. But the truth is, relationships should take effort. They should be interesting, romantic and fulfilling. And as everyone knows nothing worth having ever came free. So guys, take more initiative and think about how to be more romantic.
Having said that, women also need to work harder, too. A lot of women have what I call the "Disney idea" of relationships. Which is that the guy should do most of the work to romance, woo and sweep his princess of her feet. As a result, a lot of women are good at playing hard to get or are waiting for a guy to come along who will sweep them off their feet.
Sure, it looks great in the Disney movie but in real life this isn't a healthy relationship. In fact, it's really one sided and perpetuates challenging gender norms as well. Women can do a lot more to communicate with their man. They should also be asking insightful questions and taking initiative for romance, too.
What do you think? Why do you think guys don't try harder? And why do you think so many girls complain that guys don't try hard enough?