Why don't girls find me attractive or notice me?

[Anonymous]

I feel empty and depressed. It's like when I go places and I see cute girls they never notice me. It's like am a ghosts to them. They always look at my brother. My family and friends tell me I'm not ugly. If I'm not ugly then why don't girls look at me or notice me. I try to lift weights and get in better shape so girls can notice me. But it didn't help. I'm 16 never kissed a girl, never held hands with a girl. Sometimes I feel like giving up and wishing I was never born. I see my brother and my friends getting cute girls but I can't get anyone. You know I wanna have a cute girl. I just feel like killing myself. I just give up with life.

[Willow4]

Hey :)

Well firstly it really is true when people say looks aren't everything. If you notice that your brother gets more attention, watch closely at how he acts and behaves, how he interacts with women. It's a lot to do with putting yourself out there. A lot of good looking guys and girls aren't in relationships because they think that just looking good with get people to approach you and a lot of less attractive people are in relationships because they are able to draw people towards them with MORE than just looks. Remember you date a whole person not just a cardboard cutout.

It's great you're working so hard on your appearance, but try to be a little more confident and if you see a girl you like try smiling at her. If you get a good reaction maybe say hi, ask her how she is and what she's up to. Think of yourself as a peacock :) You have all that great plumage (in your case muscles and looks) but if you walk around with no confidence in it and keeping it all hidden, that cute girl that you're going to date one day won't be able to see it.

Don't feel depressed and unhappy about it, loads of people aren't in relationships not because they're not attractive or because they have nothing to offer - because they don't put themselves out there. Whether that be because of fear of rejection, lack of confidence, insecurity etc. They're all things that, when dealt with, GREATLY increase your chance of finding a date. Don't base your self worth on what women think.. certainly not when you don't give them a chance to really 'see' you :)

[DDiana]

There's no need to kill yourself for something like this. I go through the same thing but I don't have a sister. But it happened with a girl that I used to be friends with, every time I would become close with a boy she just appeared and the boy will just forget about my existence and be with her. It was her fault too but anyway..
My best friend keeps telling me that we're waiting more but then we will find someone really special, I don't buy it but it's a nice thing to hope for. :)
Just try to think about something else and eventually it will happen when you don't expect it.

[lonegirl]

Don't give up! I know it's hard but you gotta believe that you can get the girl you've always wanted. Girls don't like making the first move, if you like a girl, you need to give her a hint that you do. Ask to hang out or compliment her. It takes time to get in a relationship so just have patience and it will happen. Who knows, that cute girl could be closer than you think. Also, life isn't all about cute girls and relationships and love. You're still young and you got plenty of time to find the one for you. Don't kill yourself cause of it, there is just too much to live for.

[FlyBoyBlu]

Dude, give yourself time. The biggest wallflowers in school become the biggest studs after they nature. The guys who mature early usually end up developing a personality that is self serving and unattractive to a really great woman. The lack of attention now will make you appreciate the value derived from having the right attention not the wrong attention. I know not what you wanted to hear but it is true. Appreciate that fact that you are not one of the jerks that get al of the attention and usually step all over the ones who aren't so lucky at this time...

[MysteryBoy95]

Girls won't make the first move man like most of the time even if you are very good looking, looks are just one part of it. It might be hard in the beginning but if you see a girl you like in certain social setting I would say start doing this at a bar, club for example to build confidence. Less pressure we're all gonna make it, also you can ask friends ( guys/girls) that you are looking for a girl they might be able to hook you up with someone.

[sawno]

I know the situation. I used to have this extremely attractive friend. He looked good, knew exactly how to talk to girls and was a musician. So he always got all the girls and i never got anything. It made me feel a similar way back then although not as extreme.

But lets look again shall we? He looked good, KNEW EXACTLY HOW TO TALK and was a musician.
He >>Talked>Approached<< them. Sure it was often a miss but he always got a nice girl out of it in the end. Meanwhile i was always hoping for girls to notice me but since i never put myself out there nothing happened.

What you should be doing is be out there, don't play to much games (games with girls, video games and stuff is fine of course haha) , don't try to act like your someone else but be yourself and let them get to know you. Eventually (Might take a while) you are going to find a girl who is right for you and you get everything you want.

Never give up life before you started living.

[sawno]

Why does gag have this annoying word correct thing that screws up my non standard way of putting things? I obviously said talked and approached them with the proper signs pointing to the words -.-

[scarletxx]

Girls probably do look at you but you probably don't notice. There are girls in this world that do find you attractive. And oI don't know you or know what you look like but I know that for a fact. Be confident. And be nice to girls and one day you will laugh at the fact you felt this way. You're young and so are the girls you're probably attracted to. Be patient x and good luck

[boredalishes]

First off don't kill yourself over some girls and I know its hard and lonely and you want a girlfriend that u can huge , kiss, hold hands with, etc... but theirs always that one girl who's the one for you. you might have to wait for her but its worth it. also be confident in yourself that's whats going to get you a girl and you don't have to try so hard

[kaangah]

build on your confidence and self esteem. Girls can smell a guy who is got none of that from afar and just be you. Just do your own thing. Free your mind. They will come at you.

[KindMoriaty]

There are women who will approach, its just very rare.

Listen to those below.

[PleaselllBeNiceNat]

Achieve aesthetics, you're life will change.
Fucking ded srs m8

[BertMacklinFBI]

just keep trying. that's all it is.

[hazza101]

i feel the same way mate