My boyfriend is a womanizer. He told me so when we started dating and I accepted it. I set some boundaries, I don't mind him flirting with other girls, touching breasts playfully or kissing others but I don't want him doing anything too sexually and nothing passionate.
I invited him to a party with my mates. We got drunk and I noticed he was getting flirty but I didn't mind. Then he started kissing my mates, I kinda got a little upset especially since I seemed to be ignored. Then He started touching them at the groin, over the clothes then he admitted he went under them. I told him I was hurt, I didn't expect to be left on my own while my boyfriend was making out with another woman, Didn't expect him to do such a thing. I was also hurt with my mate who let him, who pushed back. He apologized.
My question is, how do I deal with this? I love him, he is perfect in every other way to me but I can't get hurt again. I don't want to chain him down or change him. I want to be able to deal with it if he does attempt something like that again or maybe try to prevent some of the more sexual stuff? :(
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Honestly, calling yourself a "womanizer" is no excuse for acting like that while in a relationship. If I called myself "horny" does that mean that I should be allowed to have sex with girls while my girlfriend is away? It undermines the entire basis for a relationship. It's absurd to tell someone that you'll be in a relationship but explain that you will meanwhile be fingering other girls, because you have "womanizer's" disease. He makes it sound like it's something that he can't control. Here's a piece of advice: all men are womanizers, but the rest of us have enough integrity to stop ourselves when there is someone that we care about. Hold him accountable to that, or tell him to move on.1