Ok, so everyone knows that the dreaded friendzone (which shouldn't be confused with friendship) is the worst possible insult a person can experience form someone he/she likes more as a friend, although no one openly admits that its an insult.
Anyway, if you friendzone someone, do you intend it to be 'permanent', or are you willing to let this person out of the friendzone if he/she changed in some way over time (not necessarily to impress you) and became more of your 'type' (because apparently 'you're not my type' is the most common excuse given by people when they friendzone someone)?
So in short.. if you friendzone someone, would you be open minded enough to give them a chance if they changed over time, or do you shut them off romantically forever once you put them in the friendzone? And if you're open to letting people out of the frierndzone, does it require a lot more effort from them to get out of it as opposed to trying from scratch (that is, if they were not frienezoned)?
Both guys and girls are most welcome to vote/answer, so shoot!
- Yes, its permanentVote A
- No, I'd let them out of the friendzone if they changedVote B
- I can un-friendone them but it would require a lot more effort from them then if they were never in the friendzoneVote C
- I'm confused, show me the resultsb already!Vote D
Most Helpful Girl
It's not like I want to "friendzone" a guy, it just happens when I'm not attracted to him. If I ever were to be attracted to him, because he changed or I changed, then he's not in it anymore. It's not consciously up to me though, I don't hold some kind of key that I can use to open or close a door at will, it's about vague things like feelings and chemistry that's either there or not. It can't be forced.2
Most Helpful Guy
Well there's two kinds of "friend zones"...
The first is when a woman just isn't interested in you romantically, but does like you as a friend.
The second is when a woman is somewhat interested in you romantically, but chooses not to go out with you because "she doesn't want to ruin the friendship."
If you're talking about the first situation, then you're looking at it wrong. The question should be "will she ever change her mind about me," and the answer to that is "maybe." But maybe not. I don't think it's really a conscious decision, so there's not really room to ask "will you let someone out of the friend zone" as if they've specifically decided to keep them there.
If the second situation, person A wants to date person B but person B is afraid of ruining the friendship, my advice to person A would be to make his intentions known, ask once to give it a try, and then if person B still says no, just leave the ball in person B's court. It's understandable to be frustrated, but person A can't force person B to date him/her if person B is uncomfortable with it. Person A should try to move on and if Person B catches him/her before they are with someone else, then things can begin.1