I've mainly had short relationships that werent serious, cuz I would crush on guys not interested in me so I would end up settling for the guys that came after me (all very average) & it wouldn't go far, I couldnt get physical w/ them & if I did, it would be SO awkward cuz they knew that I wasn't attracted to them & I learned my lesson & NEVER making that mistake again. My most serious relationship was for 2 yrs, he was my first love & to make a very LONG story short, it didn't work out & yes I got hurt & it sucked. its been over 2 years since that ended. I've moved on & taken time to myself, I've traveled, I've spent time w/ family & friends & now I definitely think I am at a point where I am ready for something serious w/ someone I could potentially have a future w/. But here's my problem, Im STILL getting approached by the same old type of guys, very average & just not my type & I no what ur thinking well maybe ur not all that great urself & I promise u Im not average & thats actually something I've been asking myself lately, “Wait am I ugly? Is this really all I can get? Is that ‘guy-of-my-dreams’ ever going to want me back?” but I won't let those thoughts creep into my head, cuz all its going to do is just ruin my self-esteem. But when I am getting approached by men within this profile: mid-late 30’s (keep in mind I’m 23), overweight, losing his hair (Im very petite & take very good care of myself), saying things like “OMG I am mesmerized by ur beauty…” DOES NOT make me feel good about myself. & ok I know what u are going to say well maybe he's a good guy & ya u know what, he might be, but Im not going to date someone just cuz theyre nice but unattractive. If its ok to cancel out looks for niceness then I guess its ok to cancel out looks for money in a gold-digger scenario? y can i attract the guys I would NEVER consider but not the ones who I can see myself w/. please do not JUDGE me! what is SO wrong w/ wanting an attractive bf? Specially if Im attractive
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Being an attractive girl, you're going to get sexual attention from all sorts of men.
You don't really have a way of filtering that.
The kicker is that a highly attractive man does not have a reason to go out of his way to try and approach an attractive girl.
Usually the interactions just kind of happen or he gets approached.
But the thirst isn't very real for him. He's generally pretty well-quenched.3