Why is convincing people to not care about height so hard?

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I'm tired of being told they prefer tall men. What good does that info mean to me, I'm not tall myself. Just because you prefer tall men doesn't mean you can't also like short men, and of course they disagree with me because to them if they like tall men that means they can't like short men, even though preferences are not requirements but to them preferences are requirements, and it's always a battle convincing them to see their double standard that is rooted in absolutely nothing, and it's just rejection after rejection after rejection because I'm "too short".

RebelinSteel · Accepted Answer

At a guess it’s just more social media bollox, in the real world you have couples of all shapes n sizes dating, with it being a mix of heights, weights, body shapes. The vast majority of people do not appear to give a toss about things like height, they care far more about the personal qualities of the person, these usually come out over time or may be an in your face appearance as you find out they are crazy, a bigot, or simply not compatible.
height, hair colour, eye colour, are really minor preferences and people have these, it’s a basic right to have your own preferences and standards and being able to change your mind on them.

dating someone is working through a chunk of preferences, standards, compatibility options, with give and take in each area, a ginger girl at 6ft may not have been your first option, however she ticked all the other boxes and is really compatible, so you date her. Ditto if it was a 5’2 ginger and rest ticked all what you wanted

NaultD · Accepted Answer

As a giant dude myslef it's more straight men openly flirting with you projecting there professional sports dream on you.

You still need to be able to talk to a woman. With the same song and dance as everyone else. Do you really want a slut that only knows your name as your highet? I'll tell you what they are not worth the sex let alone passing by. Bad bad people I only have myself to blame.

sheikalana · Accepted Answer

You're losing your time if you're trying to convince someone not to care about height. You cannot force me to like something that I dislike and is not my preference. Just move on to the next one if someone rejects you for your height. If you're a good guy and good looking I'm sure someone will appreciate you even if you're not that tall.

Pillubi · Accepted Answer

Preferences cannot be forced, it's like asking men to forcibly like overweight women.

Rei13 · Answer

If someone is rejecting you for that reason it is better to filter them out anyways, not worth the energy. Not everyone looks for the same things physically in their partner so just because you aren’t one persons cup of tea doesn’t mean you aren’t for someone else. You can’t control your height (and really, that isn’t a deal breaker/issue for every woman so don’t let that make you look at dating negatively) but you can control other factors of your appearance and how you come across as a person, just build into your strengths.

JacobJordan · Answer

Don't try and convince morons of things you will just wind up dumber for it. Fact is height doesn't matter to anyone worth being with. So let the garbage take itself out. Saves you the trouble of finding out in 5, 10, 15 years that they were garbage the whole time.

kuroikoi · Answer

who’s “they” cause if “they” are real people then stop shooting your shot at these girls and move tf on like you wanna know how to get girls if you’re short? don’t pay attention to your height and focus on living your life. Women like men who are “tall” a lot more in terms of confidence and emotional awareness than physically. You getting all flustered over an opinion that bothers you when it in no way whatsoever represents the opinion of every woman out there is a red flag that you’re immature and THATS what is being avoided, not your height. It seems you understand this is out of your control and somehow you’re literally trying to control it in a weird way by asking this question on here.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Do you really want to? Think about how that plays out long term. Either she cheats on you with a taller guy or she dumps you when one comes along. You should be trying to find someone who likes you exactly as you are. Not trying to convince someone to compromise their standards for you.

jshm2 · Answer

It is nothing to do with height. They are rejecting you for your bad attitude, but giving you an unreal expectation they know you can't reach. Like parents saying they will let you go with your friends if you achieve "world peace".

Knightwatch27 · Answer

That's like saying you need to be convinced to not care about a woman's looks at all. We all know you do, as we all do. It's biology and ingrained in our nature. But even if you're not "tall" there are always girls much shorter than you.

EmyyWolf · Answer

Just date those shorter than you. VERY VERY SIMPLE. No reason to stress about it. Move somewhere where the women are super super short.

avery58 · Answer

Nothing wrong with women having preferences just like guys do

boggboss · Answer

Because its like me telling u to find men attractive instead of women

dustybiker2 · Answer

So only date shorter woman? You probably don't want to hear that. It's usually the attitude not the height.

FreyaRed · Answer

It's evolution, it's old as life is and you want to convince people to ignore it?

HelpfulWoman · Answer

XD XD this is simply a YOU problem in your insecurity.

CrabCakes11 · Answer

How about instead of trying to date women who don’t want you you focus on women who do

JHAYES317 · Answer

Because people have been brainwashed by mass media into believing the tall man = power, strength, stability etc trope.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Because telling them they are wrong for doing so will just serve to inform them that you do not respect their preferences.

David94358 · Answer

Why not date ugly or really fat women? I'm sure they won't have a problem with your height

DaBiggestBird · Answer

Helping stupid people is a difficult activity

Pohjolan · Answer

Because you might as well try to convince men not to like big boobs. Also for women a guy being tall is just one deal breaker less.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Don't waste your breath. It's like trying to convince men that body count in women doesn't matter. Just live your life.

hellothere90 · Answer

I know a lot of short guys who are married. Just be yourself. Find someone who likes you.

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