Why is convincing people to not care about height so hard?

[Anonymous]

I'm tired of being told they prefer tall men. What good does that info mean to me, I'm not tall myself. Just because you prefer tall men doesn't mean you can't also like short men, and of course they disagree with me because to them if they like tall men that means they can't like short men, even though preferences are not requirements but to them preferences are requirements, and it's always a battle convincing them to see their double standard that is rooted in absolutely nothing, and it's just rejection after rejection after rejection because I'm "too short".

[RebelinSteel]

At a guess it’s just more social media bollox, in the real world you have couples of all shapes n sizes dating, with it being a mix of heights, weights, body shapes. The vast majority of people do not appear to give a toss about things like height, they care far more about the personal qualities of the person, these usually come out over time or may be an in your face appearance as you find out they are crazy, a bigot, or simply not compatible.
height, hair colour, eye colour, are really minor preferences and people have these, it’s a basic right to have your own preferences and standards and being able to change your mind on them.

dating someone is working through a chunk of preferences, standards, compatibility options, with give and take in each area, a ginger girl at 6ft may not have been your first option, however she ticked all the other boxes and is really compatible, so you date her. Ditto if it was a 5’2 ginger and rest ticked all what you wanted

[NaultD]

As a giant dude myslef it's more straight men openly flirting with you projecting there professional sports dream on you.

You still need to be able to talk to a woman. With the same song and dance as everyone else. Do you really want a slut that only knows your name as your highet? I'll tell you what they are not worth the sex let alone passing by. Bad bad people I only have myself to blame.

[sheikalana]

You're losing your time if you're trying to convince someone not to care about height. You cannot force me to like something that I dislike and is not my preference. Just move on to the next one if someone rejects you for your height. If you're a good guy and good looking I'm sure someone will appreciate you even if you're not that tall.

[Vegasrunner]

@sheikalana Yea, good point. I don't like old or fat women. That's my preference and it should be accepted, tY for saying this.

[sheikalana]

@Vegasrunner exactly! Everyone has preferences and a type.

[Asker]

Preferences are not requirements though. Having preferences is one thing, but having requirements, which is the most common thing when it comes to height unlike any other trait, is a totally different thing.

[Asker]

And that type is never short men.

[Pillubi]

Preferences cannot be forced, it's like asking men to forcibly like overweight women.

[Asker]

Plenty of men still love overweight women, much more than women want short men.

[Rei13]

If someone is rejecting you for that reason it is better to filter them out anyways, not worth the energy. Not everyone looks for the same things physically in their partner so just because you aren’t one persons cup of tea doesn’t mean you aren’t for someone else. You can’t control your height (and really, that isn’t a deal breaker/issue for every woman so don’t let that make you look at dating negatively) but you can control other factors of your appearance and how you come across as a person, just build into your strengths.

[Asker]

I'm sorry but I see much more women demanding tall partners than people that are open to shorter partners.

[Chazmatazz269]

Do you really want to? Think about how that plays out long term. Either she cheats on you with a taller guy or she dumps you when one comes along. You should be trying to find someone who likes you exactly as you are. Not trying to convince someone to compromise their standards for you.

[Asker]

Yes, short men really want to. As for how that will play out long term, leave that to the individual. The only thing short men want are equality of opportunity.

[kuroikoi]

who’s “they” cause if “they” are real people then stop shooting your shot at these girls and move tf on like you wanna know how to get girls if you’re short? don’t pay attention to your height and focus on living your life. Women like men who are “tall” a lot more in terms of confidence and emotional awareness than physically. You getting all flustered over an opinion that bothers you when it in no way whatsoever represents the opinion of every woman out there is a red flag that you’re immature and THATS what is being avoided, not your height. It seems you understand this is out of your control and somehow you’re literally trying to control it in a weird way by asking this question on here.

[JacobJordan]

Don't try and convince morons of things you will just wind up dumber for it. Fact is height doesn't matter to anyone worth being with. So let the garbage take itself out. Saves you the trouble of finding out in 5, 10, 15 years that they were garbage the whole time.

[Knightwatch27]

That's like saying you need to be convinced to not care about a woman's looks at all. We all know you do, as we all do. It's biology and ingrained in our nature. But even if you're not "tall" there are always girls much shorter than you.

[Asker]

You can't compare though, men's threshold for women's looks are 5 times larger than women's threshold for men.

[jshm2]

It is nothing to do with height. They are rejecting you for your bad attitude, but giving you an unreal expectation they know you can't reach. Like parents saying they will let you go with your friends if you achieve "world peace".

[dustybiker2]

Exactly

[dustybiker2]

So only date shorter woman? You probably don't want to hear that. It's usually the attitude not the height.

[Asker]

And why can't i date taller than me? if I'm attracted to taller women equally to shorter women, why should I limit myself to only women shorter than me? You don't tell tall men to only date tall women do you?

[dustybiker2]

You missed the point.

[boggboss]

Because its like me telling u to find men attractive instead of women

[Asker]

What does gender have to do with it?

[Anonymous]

Just date those shorter than you.

VERY VERY SIMPLE.

No reason to stress about it. Move somewhere where the women are super super short.

[Asker]

And why can't i date taller than me? if I'm attracted to taller women equally to shorter women, why should I limit myself to only women shorter than me? You don't tell tall men to only date tall women do you?

[avery58]

Nothing wrong with women having preferences just like guys do

[HelpfulWoman]

XD XD this is simply a YOU problem in your insecurity.

[LiamJHayden]

Because telling them they are wrong for doing so will just serve to inform them that you do not respect their preferences.

[David94358]

Why not date ugly or really fat women? I'm sure they won't have a problem with your height

[JHAYES317]

Because people have been brainwashed by mass media into believing the tall man = power, strength, stability etc trope.

[KrakenAttackin]

Don't waste your breath. It's like trying to convince men that body count in women doesn't matter. Just live your life.

[Pohjolan]

Because you might as well try to convince men not to like big boobs.

Also for women a guy being tall is just one deal breaker less.

[Anonymous]

Men will believe anything that is trolled online. Ignore this height nonsense.

[DaBiggestBird]

Helping stupid people is a difficult activity

[AmyHew1tt]

Because people have preferences, and they don't change just because others don't like it.

[JHAYES317]

@AmyHew1tt that’s not a preference, a preference would be “I’d rather date someone taller, but I’d cool with dating someone shorter”. Saying “I’ll only date men taller than me” is a standard, not a preference

[AmyHew1tt]

@JHAYES317 Sure, but we call them preferences. I mean, standards are choices as well.

[JHAYES317]

@AmyHew1tt yes but the differences is standards are choices that you won’t budge on, preferences are choices that you are willing to compromise on

[AmyHew1tt]

@JHAYES317 Yeah, I know what you're saying. All I'M saying is standards and preferences are used interchangeably as a placeholder. So often what we mean by it is the same.

[Asker]

Do people have preferences, or do they have requirements? Both are not the same.

[AmyHew1tt]

They have them both.

[JHAYES317]

@AmyHew1tt then those people are stupid and need to learn the difference between a preference and a requirement

[Asker]

Then stop selling your requirements as preferences and admit you have a requirement, not a preference.

[AmyHew1tt]

Um, yeah okay? I never said we shouldn't do that? What's up your ass?

[AmyHew1tt]

@JHAYES317 They're not stupid. As I said, those terms are used interchangeably by most people in the world. It's a pretty honest word misconception that really doesn't matter.

[JHAYES317]

@AmyHew1tt it does matter. There’s a pretty big difference between. “I will only date taller men” and “I’d prefer to date taller men”, in one of those cases as a shorter man I wouldn’t bother

[AmyHew1tt]

@JHAYES317 I never said it doesn't matter, only that it's an honest miss-use of wording that most people in the world make.

[JHAYES317]

@AmyHew1tt maybe but they should still be corrected regardless

[AmyHew1tt]

@JHAYES317 Sure

[Asker]

Well then you shouldn't call them preferences if that's not what they aren't.

[AmyHew1tt]

Been through this already dude, did you read my previous comments or not? The terms are commonly interchangeable, whether they should be or not really holds no significant bearing, because the point stands.

[FreyaRed]

It's evolution, it's old as life is and you want to convince people to ignore it?

[Asker]

I don't believe in evolution, I'm a Creationalist.

[FreyaRed]

Then blame god

[CrabCakes11]

How about instead of trying to date women who don’t want you you focus on women who do

[Asker]

Because there aren't enough women that would want someone my height versus someone taller. There needs to be a balance.

[CrabCakes11]

Why? Why should women change their preferences of you? Plenty on women like short men anyways. If women only had sex with the tallest men, there wouldn’t be all that many short people

[Asker]

1. I'm not asking them to change their preference, I'm asking they don't make their preferences a requirement. Preferences and requirements are not the same thing.

2. The reason there are that many short people is because it's short women producing more short people. People like to think that the height of children is 100% dependent on the father, but a lot of kids regardless of gender also inherit the mother's height, and short women are having infinitely more intercourse than short men are.

[CrabCakes11]

Short women having kids with tall men results in a more or less average height kid. Keep doing that forever and people will eventually get taller. Height doesn’t matter as much as you think it does. Since you want to be semantic, then why should women change their “requirements” to fit you in? Do you change yours? Why don’t you give a 600 pound woman a chance?

[hellothere90]

I know a lot of short guys who are married. Just be yourself. Find someone who likes you.

[Asker]

Nobody is talking about marriage though, I never implied I wanted to get married, this isn't about me.

[jahaims]

You are upset that people have preferences lol.

[Asker]

Yes and I'm never those preferences so who wouldn't be upset?

[jahaims]

People with a brain

[Anonymous]

Most girls just want their guy to be taller than them. Keep trying.

[Asker]

most guys want girls to not care about height

[Opinion Owner]

... Or just keep crying about it lol

[Opinion Owner]

It probably isn't just your height. As a man I wouldn't even be friends with you. You're too whiny, and this is coming from a guy who also isn't tall.