Is there a way to recover from moving way too fast? Physically and emotionally I don't know everything
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-_-; Sigh, virginity, it must be important to you.
It might be fast, or it might actually be okay. The thing is this... was he committed to you? Is it your friends tell you that things are moving too fast?
I would like to share my experience with you.
I once dated a girl who felt 'we moved too fast'. Often times, it was all her girlfriends telling her to 'be careful, you should hold back in relationships, you're moving too fast, look at me, I have been dating for almost 3 years!'.
She only had one other relationship before.
I was the fastest with her. We only met each other and never really talked for like 3 times prior. We got together in 12 days or so of actually talking to each other.
In about another week or so, we had done some sexual stuff (no sex though, but it really felt that intimate between us, sex is probably another ball game, had I not stopped myself, we could've gone there). She was wondering if we were going too fast. She didn't even tell her friends what we did, only that to her friends, dating after only talking for a few days felt too fast to them.
NOW here is the important part.
We had a connection. We shared dreams. We also had very similar principles (no sex before marriage etc, hard work, kindness, science and medicine). We felt really close. I never once felt that we were going too fast or were incompatible.
I always told her "different people have different rates of moving in a relationship, if you understand each other faster, it naturally skips over the simpler parts".
We talked about deep things, about how our thinking worked, etc, we skipped over favourite foods, colours, gossip. We could almost read each other's mind.
But suddenly, she wanted to slow down, hold back, etc... and later on she lost 'interest' first, and started cheating emotionally with another guy friend.
The point is this.
I was always committed.
Now I ask you. IS HE COMMITTED TO YOU? If so, speed doesn't matter.0