I hate to say it, but it's better to be cautious and doubtful - at least for the women. Only because guys tend to be more devious than women. That's not to say women can't be devious. It just means men are more devious than women. Both men and women should be cautious either way. NEVER be naive, no matter what.
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Trust is the foundation for every relationship and friendship. Trust needs to be earned, not given away freely. It takes time to build trust in anyone. It would be naive to give your trust to a person who has not given you any reason to put your faith in them. If not, you would be setting yourself up to be manipulated and played.
I don't believe a person should enter into a relationship full of doubt either , by believing they are going to be hurt, or believe the person will cheat on them or leave them. Trust comes gradually and naturally as you get to know someone. You can't start a relationship wondering and worrying it is not going to work... especially when the person has not given a reason for you to think that
So personally , i believe you have to give a certain amount of trust unless they give you a reason not to trust them, but not to be naive as to trust wholeheartedly before you get to know them more.
I also believe that once you do give a person your trust you have to love like you'll never be hurt.
Trusting and naive has both good and bad points. One enters a relationship with an expectation of being treated well by the other person and sometimes that just isn't the case at all. But cautious and doubtful will steal the joy of any relationship. If you feel the need to be cautious to begin with them it's prolly not where you need to be. Move on down the line
If I have to pick one it's trusting and naive. If someone is going to be doubtful they shouldn't even bother with dating. Yeah you'll most likely get hurt a bunch of times being trusting and naive but if you aren't a wimp and can survive that until you find someone that's perfect for you then you can have a better relationship than someone is is doubtful ever will. It's high risk high reward.
A mix of all of those things is probably what's best. But my belief is trusting and naive might be the most real way to be in a relationship. You give your all. You hand over the trust. You let yourself really fall in love... that's when you open yourself up to the worst vulnerability there is especially if things don't work out in the end... you end up crushed to pieces. But still I feel that's the better option - to really feel - all of it - so deeply. Better to be crushed to bits from a real loving relationship than to go through one half-heartedly, expecting the worst, always looking over your shoulder, not even allowing yourself to open up and let yourself feel real love because you're doubting how real it may or may not be.
Well trusting doesn't always mean naive. Going into a relationship expecting the worst is bad mojo. Trust that each person is different, but keep your eyes open for patterns you recognize from the past.