My brother is 35 and he's never had a girlfriend, date or even sex/kiss with a girl. He's very lonely and complains about it. I feel bad for him too. It's not his fault, because he asks girls out, they just reject him every time. He attempted suicide at age 23 and barely survived. I just feel bad for him, since he's so lonely.
He's the oldest person I know who has never dated.
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My brother is 180
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My aunt died at the age of 89 having never dated, kissed, or had sex with a man. She lamented her loneliness sometimes, but was at peace with it. My brother's friend had osteogenesis imperfecta, which rendered her disfigured. She died in her late 50s a dateless, kissless, virgin. She was very sad. She once said she'd rather have someone to love than the ability to walk.
My friend since high school is just a little younger than I. He too is a dateless, kissless virgin. He has FAS. He had a crush on my wife, who was very kind to him. At times he is very depressed.
Many of my brother's friends died virgins (many of them died in their 30s and 40s). They had various disabilities. Some were at peace with their situations, others were profoundly sad.
This is why it irritates me when I hear people advise "Just get over it" to people in such a situation. If it were that easy, we all would "just get over it," but it's not so simple. Furthermore, it's one thing to go through a dry spell, but as my friend has told me, it gets worse with time, not better. Therefore it's understandable that as one year becomes five years, as five years becomes a decade, as a decade becomes several decades, these people often become progressively depressed, and yet I've seen on the internet many people simply chant the "no one is entitled to sex" mantra as if that's any solution (and everyone my brother and I know personally already knew they weren't entitled to sex). Not only is this in no way a solution, it's actually kind of insulting to them since they already knew that.
And yet I believe in most circumstances, people who have difficulty finding affection can change that (and telling them "no one is entitled to sex" or "well, get with someone you don't find attractive" are not solutions in any way).
Tell me about your brother, asker. Why do you feel he is a 30 something year old virgin? Why did he attempt suicide at the age of 23? Is he diagnosed with clinical depression?5
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