My aunt died at the age of 89 having never dated, kissed, or had sex with a man. She lamented her loneliness sometimes, but was at peace with it. My brother's friend had osteogenesis imperfecta, which rendered her disfigured. She died in her late 50s a dateless, kissless, virgin. She was very sad. She once said she'd rather have someone to love than the ability to walk.
My friend since high school is just a little younger than I. He too is a dateless, kissless virgin. He has FAS. He had a crush on my wife, who was very kind to him. At times he is very depressed.
Many of my brother's friends died virgins (many of them died in their 30s and 40s). They had various disabilities. Some were at peace with their situations, others were profoundly sad.
This is why it irritates me when I hear people advise "Just get over it" to people in such a situation. If it were that easy, we all would "just get over it," but it's not so simple. Furthermore, it's one thing to go through a dry spell, but as my friend has told me, it gets worse with time, not better. Therefore it's understandable that as one year becomes five years, as five years becomes a decade, as a decade becomes several decades, these people often become progressively depressed, and yet I've seen on the internet many people simply chant the "no one is entitled to sex" mantra as if that's any solution (and everyone my brother and I know personally already knew they weren't entitled to sex). Not only is this in no way a solution, it's actually kind of insulting to them since they already knew that.
And yet I believe in most circumstances, people who have difficulty finding affection can change that (and telling them "no one is entitled to sex" or "well, get with someone you don't find attractive" are not solutions in any way).
Tell me about your brother, asker. Why do you feel he is a 30 something year old virgin? Why did he attempt suicide at the age of 23? Is he diagnosed with clinical depression?
My aunt is about 57 and, to my knowledge, she's never been in a relationship or experienced intimacy. I'm not sure if it's something she even wants, though.
My dads brother (I don't consider him an uncle, I have nothing to do with the people on my dads side of the family anymore) is in his forties and he is still a virgin. He has never had a girlfriend or moved out of his parents place.
I'm the second oldest though. No one else I know is one still. Not that I know of anyway. I am 29 and never had a boyfriend or anything. I can see myself getting old and still being one. I'm basically there already.
my uncle, (70 something) I don't know if he ever dated, but he didn't really seem like the type. he never married and he didn't seem to have too many friends. sorry to hear about your brother that's really terrible, but he's not alone, so try to help him hold out until things turn around for him.
I have a lot of friends and acquaintances that have never had partner's and have never had sex. I think most have stolen kisses though, even if it's just a quick peck.
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My cousin is 30 and she's never been in a relationship. I know it's hard for her though because she really wants to have a family and we'll have kids but I don't know why no guy has courted her
I think it was posted on the news either a year ago or almost a year ago, a man making headlines in the news about being a 58 year old virgin, and I worked with a dating coach a year ago, they told me they once worked with a man that was 42 and never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, he was an Asian guy from Vietnam
i have no doubt there are probably more men out there who are 25+, or 30+ years of age who are still a virgin and never been in a relationship with the oppossite sex before, i believe in the quote that sperm is cheap, eggs are expensive
My mom's best friend is 60 and has never had a success relationship, marriage or kids or anything.
My uncle is 45 and has never had a girlfriend as he had a bad upbringing so I guess he doesn't trust women as the way his mum and stepmum treated him when he was growing up.
i know of one guy who is 36 and a virgin, never had a girlfriend
very surprised by hearing women that have been single this long!, mainly because they don't have to make the first move and do the approaching
i know of a guy through one of my friends social circle, a guy who is 32 and never had a girlfriend
i know one guy who is 45 and never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, he told me he gave up over 20 years ago
the world is not a fair place.
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