Please please take you're time and read this and help me out...
I know this question might seem really silly and irrelevant but I really need your take on this one, cause I have major trust issues and need to know if i should let it go or not.
So i've been seeing a guy a couple of times, we hang out and we have sex, and we get a long really well so I think we both kinda like each other (although there are no feelings there yet). We were meant to hang out this weekend, I actually asked him and he said he wanted to see me, but the same morning he texts me saying he's sick and that we'll have to hang out another time. I immediately thought he's lying and that it's just an excuse not to see me? I probably wouldn't still be worried if it wasn't that it has been like 4-5 days ever since and I haven't even heard of him. We both go to uni and have a lot to do everyday, but I'd think if you're interested in a girl, you don't cancel on her cause you're "sick" and if you do at least younsuggesst another time, OR you at least text her or SOMETHING in a couple of days, but I haven't heard anything. What do you guys think? Is this a sign in lack of interest or should I just relax? Because of this I keep checking my phone all the time and I'm scared to ask him again to hang out cause im worried that he isn't interested.
Thank you xoxoxo
Most Helpful Guy
I am a guy and when I go quiet on a girl it means I am not interested in her. I am never too busy to send a few texts, so if a guy disappears off the radar then it's likely that he's lost interest or he's found a new girl and is focusing on her. To me from what I have read it seems like a classic case of hang out with a girl a few times, have sex and then cut and run.
Of course I could be wrong and he could have something like the flu which can keep you in bed for over a week. I have had it once and I was so ill that I couldn't physically leave my bed for around a week.3
Most Helpful Girl
As wise as an ol owl that I believe that I am here, dear, his Lame duck Excuse is One that You yourself became Wise to when He... Texts me saying he's sick and we'll have to hang out another time. This raised a Red Flag because you know how it goes, being you have "Major trust issues."
Of course it was fine to give him the benefit of the Doubting Thomas perhaps, for we all get sick on the spur of the moment, but when days go by with no reply, this is rude and crude with Putting you on his pay no mind list, Giving you Haunting but Helpful Hints That... He either passed away or has blown you off in his own sick way.
Forget him and move on. No matter what Excuse he could come up with, there is No excuse while he couldn't push a button on his own end, unless his fingers were bandaged or broken.
It's Guys like this loser who give Girls These 'Trust issues" and the Good Guy is the One who is left holding the Bad bag to handle the left over ill feelings.
It didn't take me long to have to Read this One.. I got the picture the Minute you Mentioned "Sick."
Good luck. xx0