First, there seems to be a difference in expectations between you two. You are expecting him to be more than he actually is right now and that is causing you some discomfort. Second, there is also a communication problem. You two have not communicated about your relationship. Specifically, what type of relationship are you in, what is expected of each of you, and other things that make relationships successful.
Finally, I would not get upset simply because you do not know the facts behind his actions. If you want this guy I suggest a simple approach. The nect time he calls, texts, or whatever, simply say you are really busy and have to go, tell him you will contact him later. Don't spend time talking to him and make any conversation as short as possible. Keep this up for one or two weeks. The length of time you make him wait for a real conversation is up to you and based on how you sense his reaction to you. When you have waited as long as you like, set up a date. Tell him it really hurts you when he cancels and ask him to keep his word this time. When you meet, schedule a dinner or some place you can have a chance to talk and discuss your relationship and expectations with him. This will set the stage for the future.
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Why assume there's an ulterior motive?
He probably needed to cancel.
Also, don't define yourself or your sense of self worth from something entirely external from you.
That's silly.
Stop agreeing to hang out with him. He's had too many chances, he shouldn't be a priority. You can't believe everything he says because many of these are convenient lies. Basically he lined up more than one date at a time so he'll always have something or someone to do, and you're at the bottom of his list. That doesn't mean anything is wrong with you, except that you put yourself esteem in the hands of a guy based on his actions. Also if you are always the "sure thing" girl he knows he can fall back on, he will get bored with you. that goes for all guys. once you settle into that "oh I can call her last minute and hang out when I have nothing better to do" then he won't see you as someone worth keeping his schedule for and be excited to be around.
don't do anything he obviously had other women going on just find someone else you can do better
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If he had to cancel, then just give him the benefit of the doubt that he's being honest with you.
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