So, we split up about 4 months ago now. It was my fault and I did push the guy to breaking point. We never spoke or even looked at each other until just a few weeks back. We have even started talking and flirting a little again.
Anyway, past few months my period hadn't came (sometimes it doesn't come due to the contraceptive shot I get) so I thought nothing of it. Although I had been feeling nauseous and a bit hormonal recently.
Lately, I've been sporting a very small bump... and had a little bit of morning sickness. So I decided to take a test to be safe. Sure enough, it tells me I'm pregnant. Roughly 15-16 weeks.
My ex was all about having kids with me when we were together and he did really want me to be the mother of his kids. I'm not sure how he'll react when I tell him and I'm absolutely terrified at the thought of having this baby. What should I do?
Please answer away guys/girls! Time really is of the essence here and I kinda want to tell him before my belly ends up doing that for me :/
Well, you should most likely hear his feelings of it first. Try to look happy about it as you tell him you're pregnant and see if he wants to officially be together with you again to share the kid. If his reactions are positive, they should calm you down.
You need to tell him. It's too late for any second chances. You two are in it for the long haul and unfortunately, it's time for you to do some deep thinking about how you treated him and vice versa. And then how you two can make things better and work together. Maybe it is through therapy or counseling. But you need to communicate with him, that's the least that you can do.
Be honest and straightforward. Ask him if he wants this baby and if he's going to be there and help raise it. Bring al the options forward. Abortion, adoption, or raising the child together. See where he stands, and go from there. It can be quiet scary, I was in the same situation myself when I was 17. Talked to him and he wanted me to keep the baby, I did and we were together for 5 years till we split early this year. Love my son to death. Either way it's your decision if you want a apportion and I nor anyone else shouldn't judge you for what you think is right in your life. Bringing in a child is a lot of hard work and responsibility because you got to put your child first beofre you. All in all good luck, and I believe things do happen for a reason
I think you need to tell him. Whether you believe he will get upset or not. you're pregnant with your ex baby. This is not a situation to wait around for. I know it's scary but hey, you have to do what's best for you and your baby. You never know, this may bring y'all closer. Or not. Who knows. But I know for a fact he needs to know you're pregnant.