Signs your ex boyfriend and baby daddy wants you back?

[Anonymous]

My ex boyfriend and I were planning on getting married, we had a house, and we were in love. In July 2010, I found out I was pregnant with his child. He said that if I did not get an abortion he was leaving me and that's what he did. Since the breakup he continued to contact me and tried to ask me back but I said no. We had our son 3 weeks ago. He was there for his birth and he has contacted me everyday since. We spend time together with our son, he told me he is not seeing anyone, keeps updating me on what he is doing and every time we see each other he gives me a hug. I understand I am the mother of his child but seems like maybe it could be more. After our son's birth he waited for me everyday in the parking lot and told me he never wants me to leave. At first, I pushed away in the beginning as I don't understand where this was all coming from. I want to be friends and we have been getting along great. It is different now that our son is here and I really miss him and want to try to work things out. He keeps complimenting me all the time, contacting me all day long, and asks to see us all the time. A few days ago we took our son to the park and hung out for a few hours. It was really nice. I sent him a text after we left and said how nice it was to chill with him. He agreed. I also told him I missed him but he never said anything about missing me back and ignored that part of my text. What are the signs? Is this only because I am the mother of his son?

[MrOracle]

It sounds to me like the idea of having a kid, and having to be RESPONSIBLE for it (financially and otherwise), TERRIFIED him before, and led to his leaving you. But it seems that he's starting to adjust to that idea, and is maybe starting to understand that having a child is something that he not only can handle, but maybe even something he wants and just didn't realize it before.

It doesn't sound like he ever really had a problem with YOU; it was a child that he was afraid of. But now that you've had your son, and he's gotten used to the idea of having a child, he is able to get past those fears. It sounds like he is testing the waters with you, to see if you would be receptive AT ALL to the idea of him, because he obviously KNOWS he was a complete ass about the baby, and he probably assumed that you hate him (and to a large degree, you have a right to, and he knows it). But he probably never really changed the way he felt about you, except for the fear of having a kid, and all of the unknowns and pressures that comes with that he didn't think he was ready for.

It's up to you if you want to give him another chance, but if you do, you BOTH need to start fresh, and start being open and honest with each other about EVERYTHING, and spend time talking about your future plans. Obviously, you were having sex before but hadn't ever discussed the possible future, and that's one of the best ways to destroy a relationship. Now that you have a child, you MUST be able to discuss your past, present, and future with each other, and come to agreements with each other, or you'll never survive as a couple.

[Cryostatic]

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