I've been wondering this a lot as of late because previous partners have done it, but why does my boyfriend ignore me when I'm upset? When I'm down and, let's say not very mentally stable, if it's via text or online, etc, he'll just disappear for hours on end. He knows that I need him but he'll just go offline or not reply for ages, and then eventually replies with no reason as to why the reply is so late. I have a feeling it's because he just can't be bothered to put up with me - which I guess I don't blame him for, but it's still pretty upsetting. Any answers anyone?
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A lot of guys are really bad at dealing with emotions, and confronting them, in themselves, and their partners.
I HATE seeing my girlfriend crying, or upset, and my first instinct is to 'FIX' whatever it was that made her upset!! Unfortunately, for guys, that is usually NOT what she wants and needs!! Women need to talk out their issues, and they just need someone to listen, understand, and be there. Most of the time, going and punching the guy that upset her (guy's response) is the LAST thing she needs!!
It took me a while to figure it out, and understand that just a lot of hugging, and being close, and just listening helps her more than saying what she 'Should have done' which it the MOST WRONG thing possible!!4
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