Is it a bad thing if he never initiates hanging out?

we've only been seeing each other for a couple weeks but I'm always the one that initiates us hanging out or going on dates. He always says yes and tells me about Times or dates he almost texted me about but he never initiates. He does text me randomly almost every day at least once. Is this normal? Is he shy? How do I get him to initiate?


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  • It really depends on so many factors. Are you the more dominant person in the relationship, cuz maybe he feels you are more entitled to suggest places to go. He also might be nervous when he initiated a place to go out to cuz maybe he cares a lot about ur opinion or ur expectations. Its hard to tell. Is he familiar with the area where u guys live, has he lived there for a while to know the best places to eat or party etc?

    • Yeah we were actually family friends before and I'm older than him. He has lived here for awhile like me but is more of a homebody

    • Ah, maybe the age makes him feel like you are a bit more experienced and confident about initiating an eat out or whatever. The best way to test him is asking him whether he has anything in mind, ask his opinion instead of organising a rendezvous.

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  • Probably


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What Guys Said 3

  • Well, it's possible that he is shy and he also seems to be a passive and a submissive kind of person who is completely fine with you taking charge.

    Yes, texting you randomly and once a day is normal.

  • Become unavailable. You're coming off as clingy. Good things come to those who wait and are hard to get

    • So I should back off and just see if he asks me out?

    • If he doesn't, he was never actually interested

  • He does agree to dates, but is he invested in those dates? If so, then he's just nervous.
    Keep interacting with him, try to get him comfortable with you and time will ease things for him.

    • Yes. We always have fun and end up talking for hours and cuddling even. So I should keep doing things as I am?

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    • Okay so we role that out. Yes, then it does seem that he's giving you the lead here. If you're happy with this position, cool. If not talk to him about it so you two will learn to face insignificant problems early on in the relationship.

    • Although I wouldn't call it a problem.

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