He told one of his childhood friends that there is a girl he plays video games, watches anime, and can be himself around with but he needs to fix his shit first. What exactly does he mean by that? His friend is our mutual friend and he swears that he is talking about me. I've been with him as a friends with benefits for almost 2 years.
Maybe he has some psychological issues or relationship issues with other friends or partners he needs to work out. He says they are a friend doesn't state if it is with benefits. I had a friend who knew I was unusual (CAIS). I had been married to his twin brother as we all spent some time around each other as kids. That relationship ended with his brother and his brother was involved with others and chose not to stay with me when his grandpa ended our marriage.(we were married underage and his grandpa was in legal dispute with me over business). But the brother I was only friends with occasionally tried to swap places with his brother to be around me. He said it was nothing more than friends and that his brother was being a dick so he'd hang out with me. Anyways that one volunteered to help me have a child later. He surprised me later with wanting to be friends with benefits but once blurted out he loved me. Later he said he meant it as friends. My reaction was WTF was that about? He finally started to see a shrink. She thought he had narcissism (and even slept with her), and perhaps a mood disorder. He was involved in a lot of things with his other friends, family and work. He did definitely need to sort himself out. I'd known him since I was 4.
Then this other guy we knew took an interest in me. He kept insulting the guy. Called him a douche and other things. That one I also knew since I was about 5. He and his brothers all have their names with D. Very weird family thing. His younger brother was making lewd comments to me and got me angry. His older brother hit on me and was involved with a paranoid schizophrenic girl with other behavioral issues. She tried to have his parents killed. The brother in the middle who was being insulted and I had dated but then he cheated on me and I found out he talked about us to his younger brother.(the lewd comments) I was pretty mad. The other guy who had insulted him got into a fight with him once. I finally got angry enough I walked away from them all. Telling them I am a person not a sex toy to be argued over.
I think they all had issues to work out. At one point the guy who had insulted the others was fine though emotional switching to flat (mood disorder?). It was the others that showed narcissism. I think they needed to all get a room and mess about and later they did. If guys want to play with guys fine but don't use a person as an excuse.
Sometimes its healthier to find something different.
You're an idiot. "Fix his shit first" means he has no desire to be with you for anything but free pussy with no commitment. He's implying he needs to work on himself before he commits then he'll want you as a real girlfriend. This is all one huge lie to keep stringing you along so you'll keep fucking him like you are. You're being played. What do you think of him now?
It means what it means. This girl has the offerings that he is seeking. He can be himself because she is almost a absolute match. Fix shit means he has to eliminate or self improve something to get her. If you have feelings beyond the friends with benefits. Its probably a good time to speak up. If he does not agree its not your place to change it or force him to.
It means that he doesn't feel nervous around you , like one tiny thing is gonna make you not want to be with him. He feels like you accept him. This is a very good thing and is a very important barrier to break in order to have a good relationship.
Oh i know that very well. I have a friend just like her or you. She's like my spirit animal or something. I don't have to worry about pretending or trying to be something I'm not, flexing my muscles, showing off my good side of my face, etc etc.
Basically a girl who makes a guy feel completely confident in himself around you. It's a great compliment and a good quality to have, this a moment where you pat yourself on the back or do your own signature celebration dance.
People put up front in front of other. Maybe they feel like they would be judged by something they are into or the way the act. You want to find someone you are completely comfortable in front of. When someone can let their guard down of truly be themselves great things can happen.
He likes you but he feels he is not ready in his life to be with you.
my boyfriends little brother like all the time. Last week when I was over I caught him looking up my skirt as I was going up the stairs but only this time I paused and spread my legs so he could clearly see I had no panties on, then I went upstairs and banged his brother my boyfriend for about five minutes. After my boyfriend chased me as he had a big essay to write on my way out I went into his brother's room to find him jerking off, then I had sex with him too.
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