He told one of his childhood friends that there is a girl he plays video games, watches anime, and can be himself around with but he needs to fix his shit first. What exactly does he mean by that? His friend is our mutual friend and he swears that he is talking about me. I've been with him as a friends with benefits for almost 2 years.
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This means that although the compatibility is high, he still feels deep down he isn't together in his life financially/emotionally/spiritually enough to be with a girl like you.
This isn't a bad thing! Him being with you so far, is driving him to be a better man. This is a GOOD thing!2
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Maybe he has some psychological issues or relationship issues with other friends or partners he needs to work out. He says they are a friend doesn't state if it is with benefits. I had a friend who knew I was unusual (CAIS). I had been married to his twin brother as we all spent some time around each other as kids. That relationship ended with his brother and his brother was involved with others and chose not to stay with me when his grandpa ended our marriage.(we were married underage and his grandpa was in legal dispute with me over business). But the brother I was only friends with occasionally tried to swap places with his brother to be around me. He said it was nothing more than friends and that his brother was being a dick so he'd hang out with me. Anyways that one volunteered to help me have a child later. He surprised me later with wanting to be friends with benefits but once blurted out he loved me. Later he said he meant it as friends. My reaction was WTF was that about? He finally started to see a shrink. She thought he had narcissism (and even slept with her), and perhaps a mood disorder. He was involved in a lot of things with his other friends, family and work. He did definitely need to sort himself out. I'd known him since I was 4.
Then this other guy we knew took an interest in me. He kept insulting the guy. Called him a douche and other things. That one I also knew since I was about 5. He and his brothers all have their names with D. Very weird family thing. His younger brother was making lewd comments to me and got me angry. His older brother hit on me and was involved with a paranoid schizophrenic girl with other behavioral issues. She tried to have his parents killed. The brother in the middle who was being insulted and I had dated but then he cheated on me and I found out he talked about us to his younger brother.(the lewd comments) I was pretty mad. The other guy who had insulted him got into a fight with him once. I finally got angry enough I walked away from them all. Telling them I am a person not a sex toy to be argued over.
I think they all had issues to work out. At one point the guy who had insulted the others was fine though emotional switching to flat (mood disorder?). It was the others that showed narcissism. I think they needed to all get a room and mess about and later they did. If guys want to play with guys fine but don't use a person as an excuse.
Sometimes its healthier to find something different.0